my dad is wanting to change the spark plugs in my 2005 automatic ford focus but for the first time working on a car hes having trouble.. please help us!!How do you change spark plugs yourself on a automatic 2005 ford focus?? please! need help!?
You will need to remove th ecoil packs from over th etop of the spark plugs first. Then remove the plugs. Its not a difficult task.
Wednesday, September 21, 2011
How has your opinion of yourself changed since getting pregnant? do you like the pregnant you, or....?
do you have a ill opinion of yourself now? I am on my third pregnancy and I have to say I always feel so much more attractive when I am pregnant. I love showing off the baby bump and my husband loves it too. How are you feeling about yourself?How has your opinion of yourself changed since getting pregnant? do you like the pregnant you, or....?
The pregnant Isabeu is a nasty cow, and I don't think highly of her at all! Thanks to these hormones and always being tired, I'm always an angry cow, or sobbing mess.
I can not wait to not be pregnant anymore!
Physique wise, the only things that have changed are a large baby bump (no stretchmarks , yet!) and some highly enlarged boobs, comparative to pre-pregnancy. So I don't mind the physical changes! (except for the illness that comes with it!)How has your opinion of yourself changed since getting pregnant? do you like the pregnant you, or....?
Hee! I have just the tiniest bit of a baby bump, and I love it so much. I keep asking people if they can see it. And I'm always rubbing my tummy. I also think that my face looks prettier, and my hair is so freaking gorgeous. I really can't wait until I get bigger.
But I do hate how crabby I get at night when I'm really tired.
well i am on baby number 2, just had my 1st 10.5 months ago but we were ready to have another all ready! i am feeling a little guilty right now b/c u know my first is my first and i feel like i wont be able to give him all the attention i always due once baby number 2 is here. i do feel blessed tho that i am pregnant again with 1 try! i cant wait till i show bc i dug out all my maternity clothes and got all choked up rem when i was preg with my son and when i 1st had him... and the smell of them (dreft) awwww. i love pregnancy and i love being a mom. its certainly changed me for the better!
I am feeling pretty good about myself in my pregnancy. I am 33 weeks w/ #2, my son will be 6 yrs old within a week of his little sister being born and it just feels like it's been so long since I had a baby lol. I get a lot of compliments at work...how healthy I look, can't tell I'm pregnant from behind, etc...so that makes me feel a little better too. I have gained over 30 lbs already, but only weighed 95 lbs pre-pregnancy so it's ALL baby (a little butt and boobs too of course).
Congrats on #3 and that's great you're feeling this good!
The pregnant Isabeu is a nasty cow, and I don't think highly of her at all! Thanks to these hormones and always being tired, I'm always an angry cow, or sobbing mess.
I can not wait to not be pregnant anymore!
Physique wise, the only things that have changed are a large baby bump (no stretchmarks , yet!) and some highly enlarged boobs, comparative to pre-pregnancy. So I don't mind the physical changes! (except for the illness that comes with it!)How has your opinion of yourself changed since getting pregnant? do you like the pregnant you, or....?
Hee! I have just the tiniest bit of a baby bump, and I love it so much. I keep asking people if they can see it. And I'm always rubbing my tummy. I also think that my face looks prettier, and my hair is so freaking gorgeous. I really can't wait until I get bigger.
But I do hate how crabby I get at night when I'm really tired.
well i am on baby number 2, just had my 1st 10.5 months ago but we were ready to have another all ready! i am feeling a little guilty right now b/c u know my first is my first and i feel like i wont be able to give him all the attention i always due once baby number 2 is here. i do feel blessed tho that i am pregnant again with 1 try! i cant wait till i show bc i dug out all my maternity clothes and got all choked up rem when i was preg with my son and when i 1st had him... and the smell of them (dreft) awwww. i love pregnancy and i love being a mom. its certainly changed me for the better!
I am feeling pretty good about myself in my pregnancy. I am 33 weeks w/ #2, my son will be 6 yrs old within a week of his little sister being born and it just feels like it's been so long since I had a baby lol. I get a lot of compliments at work...how healthy I look, can't tell I'm pregnant from behind, etc...so that makes me feel a little better too. I have gained over 30 lbs already, but only weighed 95 lbs pre-pregnancy so it's ALL baby (a little butt and boobs too of course).
Congrats on #3 and that's great you're feeling this good!
Body makeover programmes, good or bad?
Just wondering what people think of makeover formats such as; 10 Years Younger, Extreme Makeover and the new Trinny and Susannah Undress. What are these programmes doing and is it harmful to an audience? The first two are about how surgery can transform one's life, but they hasten to add that surgery can actually be life threatening. People that go on these shows have real problems and experts believe that these will all disapear with a few surgical changes. What do people think? Are these good formats or harmful and intrusive? What kind of message do they give to children and the general public about simply changing yourself with evasive procedures?Body makeover programmes, good or bad?
i think good as long as you dont go too far.
if you can why not .
good luck to emBody makeover programmes, good or bad?
I kinda like them, because of the odd tips they give off here and there, I think they are kinda inspiring, I think most kids who watch it just like the fairytale ending most of them have
It's basically the perfect release for a whole generation of insecure women, who are totally confused after one minute being told by the media that if they aren't fit and toned they are worthless, and then the next, its ok to be the size you are.
You can thank those very programmes, not to mention thos ***** manuals like Cosmo and Glamour for doing that..
Basically, you need to ask yourself why there has never been a programme which has shown this painfully insecure generation of women that to get the figure you want, you need a combination of healthy eating, regular vigorous exercise, not to smoke and to only drink alcohol occasionally.
Its just a shame that the REAL solution to all of these insecure women's problems is dull - it's why it never gets any airtime or page space... I feel sorry for people's lack of inquisitive thought and real research into the subject. But then, that's the media dumbing down again.
Plus, for these very blind idiots who buy into these shows, the ';quick'; fix is always the ';right'; fix. People need to realise that every negative action (like eating junk food) does not have an easy way out. The ';quick'; fix to say something as important as a womans figure, that is in getting it more beautiful, is non existent. It's just that it's exciting and blinds their insecurities even further: ';Oh, i can eat this KFC family bucket, and if i get fat i can take a pill and make it all better again';. Sure you can. Sure.
BAD especially with surgery in it.
I think it just furthers on focus on the wrong thing.
I think they promote a sense of ';it'l be done so quickly'; in a half hour show, they don't show the pain and suffering from the surgery and this gives certain people false hope that it's painless and no risk of it going t i t s up ! (so to speak)
i think that just making over peoples clothes is harmless but to actually start to change people by surgery is just to far in the name of entertainment!! surely there is reasons for their problems which will not be solved by a quick fix of surgery. Do these people actually get any aftercare or even counselling before they begin these horrible life risking procedures.
I think that they are terrible. They seem to put so much emphasis on making people more acceptable to society when in reality society is rich and varied.
There is no need to go under the knife to fit in and wear this years clothes to be accepted. As long as a person is happy and comfortable with themselves that is all that is important.
These programmes give vulnerable people the impression that unless they conform to societies predetermined image of what a person should look like then they will not fit in and be accepted, which is complete rubbish.
I do however feel that when they (on rare occasions) touch on health issues then they are doing a great job. I know that on 10 years younger they have the dentist guy who fixes peoples rotten and diseased teeth, usually caused by smoking and that message is loud and clear....don't smoke.
I think the health side of all of it is what the programmes should be about........make it a lifestyle makeover. Healthy eating and exercise, lowering alcohol intake and not smoking to improve the participants way of life and improve self esteem that way. Not expensive and unnecessary surgery.
I think they send out/enforce messages that in order for someone to feel good about themselves they need to be beautiful. Although there are some people who benefit tremendously from changing/altering something about their appearance that they do not like, we have to remember that the vast majority of people who do watch these types of programmes are perfectly normal people who do not need to alter their appearance/weight! And therefore I think these such programmes serve only to implicitely encourage people to become dissatisfied with their looks/weight when there is nothing wrong them!!
not good when yur eating your tea, breast implants puts you off your boiled eggs
i think good as long as you dont go too far.
if you can why not .
good luck to emBody makeover programmes, good or bad?
I kinda like them, because of the odd tips they give off here and there, I think they are kinda inspiring, I think most kids who watch it just like the fairytale ending most of them have
It's basically the perfect release for a whole generation of insecure women, who are totally confused after one minute being told by the media that if they aren't fit and toned they are worthless, and then the next, its ok to be the size you are.
You can thank those very programmes, not to mention thos ***** manuals like Cosmo and Glamour for doing that..
Basically, you need to ask yourself why there has never been a programme which has shown this painfully insecure generation of women that to get the figure you want, you need a combination of healthy eating, regular vigorous exercise, not to smoke and to only drink alcohol occasionally.
Its just a shame that the REAL solution to all of these insecure women's problems is dull - it's why it never gets any airtime or page space... I feel sorry for people's lack of inquisitive thought and real research into the subject. But then, that's the media dumbing down again.
Plus, for these very blind idiots who buy into these shows, the ';quick'; fix is always the ';right'; fix. People need to realise that every negative action (like eating junk food) does not have an easy way out. The ';quick'; fix to say something as important as a womans figure, that is in getting it more beautiful, is non existent. It's just that it's exciting and blinds their insecurities even further: ';Oh, i can eat this KFC family bucket, and if i get fat i can take a pill and make it all better again';. Sure you can. Sure.
BAD especially with surgery in it.
I think it just furthers on focus on the wrong thing.
I think they promote a sense of ';it'l be done so quickly'; in a half hour show, they don't show the pain and suffering from the surgery and this gives certain people false hope that it's painless and no risk of it going t i t s up ! (so to speak)
i think that just making over peoples clothes is harmless but to actually start to change people by surgery is just to far in the name of entertainment!! surely there is reasons for their problems which will not be solved by a quick fix of surgery. Do these people actually get any aftercare or even counselling before they begin these horrible life risking procedures.
I think that they are terrible. They seem to put so much emphasis on making people more acceptable to society when in reality society is rich and varied.
There is no need to go under the knife to fit in and wear this years clothes to be accepted. As long as a person is happy and comfortable with themselves that is all that is important.
These programmes give vulnerable people the impression that unless they conform to societies predetermined image of what a person should look like then they will not fit in and be accepted, which is complete rubbish.
I do however feel that when they (on rare occasions) touch on health issues then they are doing a great job. I know that on 10 years younger they have the dentist guy who fixes peoples rotten and diseased teeth, usually caused by smoking and that message is loud and clear....don't smoke.
I think the health side of all of it is what the programmes should be about........make it a lifestyle makeover. Healthy eating and exercise, lowering alcohol intake and not smoking to improve the participants way of life and improve self esteem that way. Not expensive and unnecessary surgery.
I think they send out/enforce messages that in order for someone to feel good about themselves they need to be beautiful. Although there are some people who benefit tremendously from changing/altering something about their appearance that they do not like, we have to remember that the vast majority of people who do watch these types of programmes are perfectly normal people who do not need to alter their appearance/weight! And therefore I think these such programmes serve only to implicitely encourage people to become dissatisfied with their looks/weight when there is nothing wrong them!!
not good when yur eating your tea, breast implants puts you off your boiled eggs
Changing Your Personality?
I know I am sound like an idiot but I want to be numb. I don't want to feel sad,happy, or anything. I want to be a stronger personality. I don't want to cry. I want to forget everything that has happened. I want to be less dramatic. I am fine with who I am now but for some reason it seems like i can't do anything right. i know it's awful to be a perfectionist. But to have no feelings to me would be perfect. it seems like i am happy at the wrong times. I am cry too damn much. I know it's impossible to be perfect but that concept has not truly sinked in my head. Well i guess i am caring too much what people think of me. But shouldn't everyone care about what people think to an extent. How are you to change yourself without criticism? Any advice, tips, comments, etc.Changing Your Personality?
I know exactly what you mean as I am in that horrible state now. and recovering.I am now trying to be more optimistic and appreciative of all the good things in life as they are what is important.Dwelling on the bad things will make you feel bad and bets are you will feel to depressed to think about the good things and miss them.Being a happier person makes you more confident and can have humongous benefits.Good Luck!Changing Your Personality?
the fact is you can not change your personality. you will always be a weird crybaby. unless you are younger than 10 there is no way to change. or you can kill yourself. thats an easy way to make yourself numb.
yeah you are worrying about it too much ........... get focused on the way you want to come a cross to people and listen and learn how to do it .... but its got to come from the heart..... honesty compassion...... .. and peace
experience makes you a stronger person. i used to be what i consider a weakling but i'm a much stronger person than what i used to be. i've been idolised by many friends to be perfect and that they want to be more like me. flattering but truth is, i know i'm not!! no one is perfect and you have to come to terms with that.
you can change yourself by writing a list of strengths and weaknesses and challenge all your weaknesses by putting yourself out of your comfort zone. this is what i do to improve myself.
i wanted to lose weight so i put myself on a strict training/diet regime. i wanted to be more outgoing so i go out when all i want to do is stay in!! i hate it but i know that in doing so, i will be a better person. you have to realise it won't be instant but if you dedicate yourself to those rules you set yourself, then you'll change into the person you'll want to be.
good luck.
You can change your personality, but it takes years, and you would have to change everything about yourself. I don't think that it would do anything to change your situation however. The bad will still be bad and the good will still be good. I have felt like this before, but I learned that some things are just meant to be and some are not. I try not to take things so seriously and just let myself feel what i want to feel. It is never wrong to be happy, or sad, it is wrong however to never feel anything at all.
You cant really do anything in this world without criticism from someone, it sounds like you might be a little more worried about how other people interpret your emotions than how you interpret them. Don't worry so much, just let yourself feel.
I know exactly what you mean as I am in that horrible state now. and recovering.I am now trying to be more optimistic and appreciative of all the good things in life as they are what is important.Dwelling on the bad things will make you feel bad and bets are you will feel to depressed to think about the good things and miss them.Being a happier person makes you more confident and can have humongous benefits.Good Luck!Changing Your Personality?
the fact is you can not change your personality. you will always be a weird crybaby. unless you are younger than 10 there is no way to change. or you can kill yourself. thats an easy way to make yourself numb.
yeah you are worrying about it too much ........... get focused on the way you want to come a cross to people and listen and learn how to do it .... but its got to come from the heart..... honesty compassion...... .. and peace
experience makes you a stronger person. i used to be what i consider a weakling but i'm a much stronger person than what i used to be. i've been idolised by many friends to be perfect and that they want to be more like me. flattering but truth is, i know i'm not!! no one is perfect and you have to come to terms with that.
you can change yourself by writing a list of strengths and weaknesses and challenge all your weaknesses by putting yourself out of your comfort zone. this is what i do to improve myself.
i wanted to lose weight so i put myself on a strict training/diet regime. i wanted to be more outgoing so i go out when all i want to do is stay in!! i hate it but i know that in doing so, i will be a better person. you have to realise it won't be instant but if you dedicate yourself to those rules you set yourself, then you'll change into the person you'll want to be.
good luck.
You can change your personality, but it takes years, and you would have to change everything about yourself. I don't think that it would do anything to change your situation however. The bad will still be bad and the good will still be good. I have felt like this before, but I learned that some things are just meant to be and some are not. I try not to take things so seriously and just let myself feel what i want to feel. It is never wrong to be happy, or sad, it is wrong however to never feel anything at all.
You cant really do anything in this world without criticism from someone, it sounds like you might be a little more worried about how other people interpret your emotions than how you interpret them. Don't worry so much, just let yourself feel.
Ok i need to kno if theres a way to make physical changes to yourself b4 u actually make them?
more detail......is there a way to take a picture n put it online n if i wanted n eyebrow piercing or a freakishly long beard or something lol i can do it online to see how i would look with it .
i kant explain it to much but if u kno wut i mean plz help plz!!Ok i need to kno if theres a way to make physical changes to yourself b4 u actually make them?
I was a little worried about ya at first read, until I looked at the rest.
Just Photoshop yourself. Corel is a good program to use. They both have a trial version. Photoshop elements is a good one to use or Coral Essentials. Check out the tirals. They will give you full use. Corel is a little easier to use and I like better but just prefence of graphic use and ease.Ok i need to kno if theres a way to make physical changes to yourself b4 u actually make them?
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photoshop? you can do that offline though.
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i know what you mean, i was on a site today where you can upload a pic of yourself %26amp; then change hairstyles, but I am not sure about beards and piercings, google it or something.
www.thehairstyler.comIs it ok to put my quilt in the dryer transferring ipod form 2 computers
i kant explain it to much but if u kno wut i mean plz help plz!!Ok i need to kno if theres a way to make physical changes to yourself b4 u actually make them?
I was a little worried about ya at first read, until I looked at the rest.
Just Photoshop yourself. Corel is a good program to use. They both have a trial version. Photoshop elements is a good one to use or Coral Essentials. Check out the tirals. They will give you full use. Corel is a little easier to use and I like better but just prefence of graphic use and ease.Ok i need to kno if theres a way to make physical changes to yourself b4 u actually make them?
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photoshop? you can do that offline though.
photoshop
i know what you mean, i was on a site today where you can upload a pic of yourself %26amp; then change hairstyles, but I am not sure about beards and piercings, google it or something.
www.thehairstyler.com
Past haunting - i have to completely forget myself?
did it happen to anyone that they experience something extremely powerful, and over time as you keep thinking about it the experience grows so powerful that you conclude that you have to change yourself, lets say this experience changes everything, your religion, what you eat, how many hours you sleep, who you meet, what you talk during your conversations, the point of view of the whole meaning of life (literally everything around now has a new perspective), but the conflict it that you have to detach yourself completely from everyone, not because they are bad or anything, but because you are a totally different person and you cannot be looked upon and treated as you once were, i tried to talk to 3 different psychologists and a few of my teachers and i realized that none of them are helpful at all, they cannot perceive such a large change and let alone give advice on it, i try my best to transform myself but everytime i go out, the older POV gets restablishedPast haunting - i have to completely forget myself?
Guy,,,,, you sound all over the place. I can understand that there are life changing events and you sound like you experienced a big one, but you got to slow down and be more clear. This site may not be the best place to bare your soul. You need someone to listen... send me a message and I will write back.Past haunting - i have to completely forget myself?
okay, if the experience is bad (like murder or something) change is good, and detaching yourself from bad influences will be good.
You don't have to detach yourself from friends or family at all, simply accept that you are a new person, and if you are happy with that new person, act like it, and they will learn to be happy, too. But if the new person is bad, don't be afraid of them trying to help you... if they are trying to help, but don't seem like it, then something is wrong with you.
Besides that, if you don't like who you've become, go to the Bible for guidence, but it might be confusing, so I use the ';PC Bible Study for Windows';, it links to different passages, and study helps. And besides that, most psychologists are worldly, so they wouldn't use the Bible, though they should. The Bible is clear about things, and even give stories about real people (like David, Esther, Elijah, Moses) who went through things in their lives and had God help them overcome their problems... though he doesn't talk through a bush anymore, that's what the Bible's for.
Hope this helps.
If not, I'll pray for you.
hey there,no matter what a man's past have been,his future is spotless.got that;forget those things which are behind and reach forward to those things which are ahead.And be who u are.
Guy,,,,, you sound all over the place. I can understand that there are life changing events and you sound like you experienced a big one, but you got to slow down and be more clear. This site may not be the best place to bare your soul. You need someone to listen... send me a message and I will write back.Past haunting - i have to completely forget myself?
okay, if the experience is bad (like murder or something) change is good, and detaching yourself from bad influences will be good.
You don't have to detach yourself from friends or family at all, simply accept that you are a new person, and if you are happy with that new person, act like it, and they will learn to be happy, too. But if the new person is bad, don't be afraid of them trying to help you... if they are trying to help, but don't seem like it, then something is wrong with you.
Besides that, if you don't like who you've become, go to the Bible for guidence, but it might be confusing, so I use the ';PC Bible Study for Windows';, it links to different passages, and study helps. And besides that, most psychologists are worldly, so they wouldn't use the Bible, though they should. The Bible is clear about things, and even give stories about real people (like David, Esther, Elijah, Moses) who went through things in their lives and had God help them overcome their problems... though he doesn't talk through a bush anymore, that's what the Bible's for.
Hope this helps.
If not, I'll pray for you.
hey there,no matter what a man's past have been,his future is spotless.got that;forget those things which are behind and reach forward to those things which are ahead.And be who u are.
Redeaming my school reputation? Is this possible?
I'm fourteen currently going into tenth grade. My entire reputation is scum. I'm known for being immature, stupid, ugly, ect. I also dress very.. unpleasent I gues you could say? (Ex. Trenchcoat, platform boots, ect.). I've been trying so hard now to stop being made fun of by being more confident, calm, and stop making immature jokes and saying the most stupident things ever. How in hell do you change yourself and not revert back to how you use to be? I want to make people beleive i'm pretty, i'm ';cool'; and just not some immature kid. How do you control the things you say? I'm probubly repeating myself, if anyone finds this unclear I can describe more.
Overall I just want to change myself from making kiddy fart jokes and saying other immature things that arn't funny anymore. I want to start a fresh year and redeam myself. How...?Redeaming my school reputation? Is this possible?
by trying to change yourself, you are not being true to yourself. i know, it's hard to REALLY not care what other people say. it's easy to say you don't, but to really believe it can be hard. trust me, i know all too well. find peopole you are comfortable around, who accept (and like) you for you. if someone is trying to change you, they are not looking out for what is best for YOU. don't let other people change you. you need to do what you want, and what you feel is right. i know it is a total cliche, but would you jump off a cliff if someone told you to? you need to listen to and follow your heart. i know, pretty cheesy, but it is totally true. it is hard to be yourself and not conform to what other people say is ';right'; or ';cool';. however, look at what people think is ';cool';. do you think it's cool? is that who you want to be? or do you want to be someone else? someone different, that doesn't follow the crowd and is true to herself? i honestly know that it can be hard to stick up for yourself and your ideals. you need to hang around with people who encourage you to be yourself and to be happy. stay true to yourself, and you can't go wrong. it feels much better to be the person you are and want to be than be the person everyone else wants. you aren't everyone else. you are unique. everyone is in their own way. that's what makes us all special. what's important is embracing what makes you, you.
oh, wow, i wrote a lot! i'm sorry if that got boring and preachy!Redeaming my school reputation? Is this possible?
I totally know what you mean - I've never been able to let things roll off my back. What people think of me SHOULDN'T be important, I know that, but their words and opinions really have an effect on me. Lately, I've tried to put myself in the state of mind ';Will anyone remember this in five years?';. Then it doesn't seem to matter anymore. It really helps if you think to something you were embarassed about years ago, and now it seems insignificant.
Your reputation can definitely change. Smile at everyone you encounter, say hi to the people you know, ditch the trench coat. I'm not saying get a whole new wardrobe of stuff you're uncomfortable in and hate, but dressing neater is the key - wear a fitted band tee shirt and jeans, or something like that.
Think before you speak - I've made a concious effort to do that lately and it really works! I know it sounds dumb, but before I blurt out a joke, I rethink it. I want to be witty, not annoying, and I'm guessing you feel the same.
Good luck, and remember, if someone doesn't like you, that's their own problem. Don't waste any of your time or energy worrying about things you can't control - and let me know when you figure out how, because I'd love to know haha =] There's tons of people like you out there (cough me)... just remember you're not alone, ever!
From what you typed up, it seems like you are mature. You just need to show the same matureness outside at school. Anyone who says they want to grow up and be mature is mature. If for some reason you feel like saying something immature, try not to say it. If people make fun of you for the way you dress, they are the ones being immature. Just try to remember school reputations don't last long. Worst case is change schools, but this isn't a bad enough situation for changing schools.
Some of it depends on your school (if there are only 100 kids in your grade that were together from K-12, you will still always be tormented about that huge fart noise you made during general assembly in second grade, where if there are 500 kids in a grade you can find somewhere to fit in).
Being younger than everyone else isn't going to help much (it's hard for everyone - having any differences in high school hurts because people pick at them).
If fitting in is your goal follow the following steps:
1) pick the group you are going to 'fit-in' with
2) dress like them
3) pick one person from that group and follow them around and give them attention until they start inviting you places (it works if you want ti to)
4) try to be complementory towards them at first no matter what you say (i.e. make them feel good about themselves, because that's all anyone wants) -- without sounding too fake or shallow (find something you can mean -- like maybe something they are wearing, or something they said you thought was funny, or something you like about their personallity)
5) then you can relax and be more yourself once they get to know you a little bit
It could also be really cool if your parents would let you be a foreign exchange student. It would give you a new environment to learn who you really are (and getting out of your current environment sometimes helps break habits too).
Personally I gave up in high school and decided that that wasn't what I wanted and found ways to occupy my time so that I didn't think about it too much (got a job, took college classes, took classes in high school that overlapped).
College is much better because you can find your place more easily and everyone doesn't feel like they are competing with you for it. (plus for me it was really awesome because I went into a male dominated major -- being the only straight girl in a class gets you a ton of attention and really helps with confidence).
And by the way it's more watching what you say with girls versus guys rather than watching what you say. Many men still think that a well placed fart joke (esp. coming from a female, because it's generally not expected) is very funny.
Overall I just want to change myself from making kiddy fart jokes and saying other immature things that arn't funny anymore. I want to start a fresh year and redeam myself. How...?Redeaming my school reputation? Is this possible?
by trying to change yourself, you are not being true to yourself. i know, it's hard to REALLY not care what other people say. it's easy to say you don't, but to really believe it can be hard. trust me, i know all too well. find peopole you are comfortable around, who accept (and like) you for you. if someone is trying to change you, they are not looking out for what is best for YOU. don't let other people change you. you need to do what you want, and what you feel is right. i know it is a total cliche, but would you jump off a cliff if someone told you to? you need to listen to and follow your heart. i know, pretty cheesy, but it is totally true. it is hard to be yourself and not conform to what other people say is ';right'; or ';cool';. however, look at what people think is ';cool';. do you think it's cool? is that who you want to be? or do you want to be someone else? someone different, that doesn't follow the crowd and is true to herself? i honestly know that it can be hard to stick up for yourself and your ideals. you need to hang around with people who encourage you to be yourself and to be happy. stay true to yourself, and you can't go wrong. it feels much better to be the person you are and want to be than be the person everyone else wants. you aren't everyone else. you are unique. everyone is in their own way. that's what makes us all special. what's important is embracing what makes you, you.
oh, wow, i wrote a lot! i'm sorry if that got boring and preachy!Redeaming my school reputation? Is this possible?
I totally know what you mean - I've never been able to let things roll off my back. What people think of me SHOULDN'T be important, I know that, but their words and opinions really have an effect on me. Lately, I've tried to put myself in the state of mind ';Will anyone remember this in five years?';. Then it doesn't seem to matter anymore. It really helps if you think to something you were embarassed about years ago, and now it seems insignificant.
Your reputation can definitely change. Smile at everyone you encounter, say hi to the people you know, ditch the trench coat. I'm not saying get a whole new wardrobe of stuff you're uncomfortable in and hate, but dressing neater is the key - wear a fitted band tee shirt and jeans, or something like that.
Think before you speak - I've made a concious effort to do that lately and it really works! I know it sounds dumb, but before I blurt out a joke, I rethink it. I want to be witty, not annoying, and I'm guessing you feel the same.
Good luck, and remember, if someone doesn't like you, that's their own problem. Don't waste any of your time or energy worrying about things you can't control - and let me know when you figure out how, because I'd love to know haha =] There's tons of people like you out there (cough me)... just remember you're not alone, ever!
From what you typed up, it seems like you are mature. You just need to show the same matureness outside at school. Anyone who says they want to grow up and be mature is mature. If for some reason you feel like saying something immature, try not to say it. If people make fun of you for the way you dress, they are the ones being immature. Just try to remember school reputations don't last long. Worst case is change schools, but this isn't a bad enough situation for changing schools.
Some of it depends on your school (if there are only 100 kids in your grade that were together from K-12, you will still always be tormented about that huge fart noise you made during general assembly in second grade, where if there are 500 kids in a grade you can find somewhere to fit in).
Being younger than everyone else isn't going to help much (it's hard for everyone - having any differences in high school hurts because people pick at them).
If fitting in is your goal follow the following steps:
1) pick the group you are going to 'fit-in' with
2) dress like them
3) pick one person from that group and follow them around and give them attention until they start inviting you places (it works if you want ti to)
4) try to be complementory towards them at first no matter what you say (i.e. make them feel good about themselves, because that's all anyone wants) -- without sounding too fake or shallow (find something you can mean -- like maybe something they are wearing, or something they said you thought was funny, or something you like about their personallity)
5) then you can relax and be more yourself once they get to know you a little bit
It could also be really cool if your parents would let you be a foreign exchange student. It would give you a new environment to learn who you really are (and getting out of your current environment sometimes helps break habits too).
Personally I gave up in high school and decided that that wasn't what I wanted and found ways to occupy my time so that I didn't think about it too much (got a job, took college classes, took classes in high school that overlapped).
College is much better because you can find your place more easily and everyone doesn't feel like they are competing with you for it. (plus for me it was really awesome because I went into a male dominated major -- being the only straight girl in a class gets you a ton of attention and really helps with confidence).
And by the way it's more watching what you say with girls versus guys rather than watching what you say. Many men still think that a well placed fart joke (esp. coming from a female, because it's generally not expected) is very funny.
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