They won't accept men such as nice ones for who and how they are in their personality and characteristics, and men are expected to always be the ones to put in to get out - put all the study, preparation, work and effect into attracting, approaching and asking asking out a woman. Particulary mentally and emotionally we're expected to change our personality to suit what matches/is compatible to their strict critreria, asessment and attitude.
Why is it we always have to be the ones to ask them out/and or chase them, not both ways, and alter, change our lifestyle, personality?
Although I suppose in history, it wasn't regarded as lady like for a woman to ';chase'; (pursue) men and ask them out, let alone propose marriage to them.
We're not all naturally or are the same as those who are called/regarded as: confident, suave, charismatic, charming, adventurous, daring, extroverted, macho, egotistical.
Men have far more interest in women, than women will ever have in men, they're content enough with they're defined worth of how many friends they have.
Women could probably live without men except usually where spatial ability comes in handy for building, constucting and maintaining social infrastructure, navigation/orienteering, and operation of society running smoothly where spatial ability is required.
(Not intented as sexist comment by the way, I did do a little Gender Studies at Uni and have bought quite a number of Self Help/Motivation/Improvement/Relationship?related books over the past several years)
They wouldn't even miss us.
Like a sticker on the back window of a woman's car I remember once seeing: ';Husband and Dog Missing - Reward for Dog';
I spent ages being a romance writer and am seriosuly considering not contiuning/completing what I had left to do, and just destroying it, having nothing to do with women, and be content with the environment, nature if not animals too.
I was preparing to write one of the best statements a man could write about a woman - particularly in a romantic sense. Now I'm wondering whether it's worth it at all.
At least a dog will show you unconditional love and will be by your side, and think the world of you, without you having/needing/being required to drastically change yourself and your personality from say a so called ';S.N.A.G.'; or ';nice'; type of man to a macho, egotistical, smug, thinks he Mr cool and terrific, alpha male ';king pin'; bad guy to be eligible and qaulify to date and be involved/a part in relationships with women.
A cat will probably only hang around to be fed, but they'll let you pat them, brush their coat (provided their in a good mood and temperament) and pets are said to be beneficial to people.
I don't know if some other men out there agree, but if it's essential and necessary that a man has to change, alter his personality, characteristics, then what has the world and society come to, and what's the point, if a woman won't show you with acceptance that you have a lot of worth as you are, regardless of if say for instance you don't know a lot of people (so called ';social worth'; rubbish) or your not the same, or necessarily the same, similar to other people and or have a different personality in particular and or interest, beliefs, values to what they do, even if your introverted?
I'm not saying/asking this to be awful, but do any men out there think women or some women can be if not are picky, fussy and too particular about what they want and look for?
Oh yeah, a final mention, ladies what do you think of the two following online services for men to learn how to attract women?
(Although I'm risking the fact other men will discover these sites)
www.guygetsgirl.com
www.themodernman.com
Sorry if I sounded like I was ranting and raving.
Why are men expected to change, alter and put effort into attracting women, yet women won't do like wise?
In modern culture, it is perfectly acceptable for men to chase after women, but just seems slutty and forward for women to chase after men. Men would not be attracted to us if we showed them that we cared if they were attracted. We do try to change a little for men we like, but not too much, and only privately.
I personally do not believe that anyone should change for anyone else. If you do not suit me now, I do not expect a you pretending to be somebody else to suit me. Maybe my philosophy on the issue prevents me from accepting less than perfect men, but I'm alright with that. Everyone has SOMEONE out there that is just right for then, and I found mine all the way on the other side of the country. I didn't have to change, and neither did he. In fact, I don't even wear makeup, I see it as dishonest.
I agree that too much pressure is put on men to change, and I think that I know a way to cure it for you. If you want the freedom women have, do what women do, pretend you don't care. Act as though it makes no difference to you whether that girl likes you until you're sure she does. I works for women, why not for you, eh?Why are men expected to change, alter and put effort into attracting women, yet women won't do like wise?
Apparently because men will do almost anything to get the ';prize';. Women are aware of this and use it to their advantage.
I disagree with you. Women have a lot of pressure to look ';hot'; and when they're in the relationship they have a lot of pressure to keep things together. We have pressures too, they're just different ones.
I just think that you need to take a good look at yourself, if you know you need to change things then change them, if you know you're okay then keep looking until the right woman finds you.
I don't want a guy that I like to change himself, personally I hate guys that are whipped, it makes me think they are weak. I want someone with a personality and backbone.
A man is supposed to be a macho, while a woman is supposed to be a babe.
Women by nature and by most cultures are supposed to be centripetal, to more be tending towards the nest, to the assiduous care of their own children and of the home
while men are supposed to be centrifugal, to daringly venture and conquer out into the deadly dangerous surroundings and far away into wild unexplored nature.
It was Columbus, and not his wife, to very daringly try sailing away into the unknown and to discover America, and when he came home and wanted to tell about all his adventures, she was not even much impressed.
It was Odysseus, and not his wife, to spend his life and his fights towards the dire waters and the very deadly dangerous shores of the Mediterranean.
Hope this did not sound all too ranting and raving.
Tuesday, May 31, 2011
Are you happy or satisfied with yourself?
I know we are our own worst critics. We see our flaws more so then anyone else. I, for one, do not see myself as being a really good looking guy. As a matter of fact I tend to put my looks down too much and Im also very hard on myself. But in the same breathe I won't say Im the ugliest guy in the world either. I have a great personality and people usually warm up to me very fast once I get past my shyness.
There's so much I want to physically change about my looks. It's funny how celeb's can go to a plastic surgeon and change what they don't like about their appearance. Take Jennifer Aniston for example. Has anyone noticed her sharp chin is now more rounded out?
What it must be like to be really good looking and to know that you are very desirable. Im just an average looking guy, nothing special. I wonder though, could I find that beautiful woman that I dream about? Am I good enough to have her? My doubts and fears over take me.. and I stall not willing to place myself out there to dare to chance it. So I remain alone... but always wondering ..what if???
Does anyone else think like this or have these same thoughts? Do you wish you could change yourself in some way?Are you happy or satisfied with yourself?
Thats really not what life's about, often you will find that you want the complete opposite to what you thought you wanted.. well I do anyway-that might just be me. Just go with the flow. Don't forget to keep a healthy perspective on things, the way I see it as long as you have an ok personality, there's not really much you can do about the rest whatever life throws at you if you have a good personality at least you will be able to deal with it. There are far better things to be worrying about than this stuff, just go have fun with your friends. Be the best person you can be, because thats all you can do.
wow now I sound all deeply emotional :)Are you happy or satisfied with yourself?
Sure we all want to change something about our selves. I would recommend getting a hobby there fore you have something to fall back on. I'm an artist I paint, I'm a little chubby but I eat right, I exercise do yoga, so I feel good about my self because deep down I know I'm working on it.
Trust me we people are not Models we all have flaws some people have a Great way of covering them up as others. Let me explain threes somebody for everybody the key is to Believe in yourself also having family or friends believe in you too helps. Don't have fears and doubts have fun with life, get rejected so WHAT move on some other girl will like you trust me. All I can say is focus on the positive that you do like and show that more, and fix the things you don't like about yourself. Its not all about looks either you should know that, girls like a guy that's funny, smart, and takes care of him self exp: shower, shave all the normal things that some men don't do.
Im pretty happy with myself . . I think Im quite pretty but Im not sure what other people think about it so I usually keep quiet about my looks.
There are things I would change about myself obviously, and I intend to have the surgery done when Im old enough. You can have it done as well, Surgery isnt limited only to celebrities . . Alot of people have it.
There are other things you can do as well. Join a gym, buy better clothes, dye your hair etc. Most things you complain about can be changed.
I think everyone has something they dont like about themselves, but some people more than others.how to move on with your life monitor upgrade drivers
There's so much I want to physically change about my looks. It's funny how celeb's can go to a plastic surgeon and change what they don't like about their appearance. Take Jennifer Aniston for example. Has anyone noticed her sharp chin is now more rounded out?
What it must be like to be really good looking and to know that you are very desirable. Im just an average looking guy, nothing special. I wonder though, could I find that beautiful woman that I dream about? Am I good enough to have her? My doubts and fears over take me.. and I stall not willing to place myself out there to dare to chance it. So I remain alone... but always wondering ..what if???
Does anyone else think like this or have these same thoughts? Do you wish you could change yourself in some way?Are you happy or satisfied with yourself?
Thats really not what life's about, often you will find that you want the complete opposite to what you thought you wanted.. well I do anyway-that might just be me. Just go with the flow. Don't forget to keep a healthy perspective on things, the way I see it as long as you have an ok personality, there's not really much you can do about the rest whatever life throws at you if you have a good personality at least you will be able to deal with it. There are far better things to be worrying about than this stuff, just go have fun with your friends. Be the best person you can be, because thats all you can do.
wow now I sound all deeply emotional :)Are you happy or satisfied with yourself?
Sure we all want to change something about our selves. I would recommend getting a hobby there fore you have something to fall back on. I'm an artist I paint, I'm a little chubby but I eat right, I exercise do yoga, so I feel good about my self because deep down I know I'm working on it.
Trust me we people are not Models we all have flaws some people have a Great way of covering them up as others. Let me explain threes somebody for everybody the key is to Believe in yourself also having family or friends believe in you too helps. Don't have fears and doubts have fun with life, get rejected so WHAT move on some other girl will like you trust me. All I can say is focus on the positive that you do like and show that more, and fix the things you don't like about yourself. Its not all about looks either you should know that, girls like a guy that's funny, smart, and takes care of him self exp: shower, shave all the normal things that some men don't do.
Im pretty happy with myself . . I think Im quite pretty but Im not sure what other people think about it so I usually keep quiet about my looks.
There are things I would change about myself obviously, and I intend to have the surgery done when Im old enough. You can have it done as well, Surgery isnt limited only to celebrities . . Alot of people have it.
There are other things you can do as well. Join a gym, buy better clothes, dye your hair etc. Most things you complain about can be changed.
I think everyone has something they dont like about themselves, but some people more than others.
HELP! How do I begin to change everything about myself.?
I'm 24 and have been in a relationship for almost 4 years. We also have a 2 year old together. I know I wasn't ready for a family but it happened. I'm so lost because I have just realized in the last few months that #1 I know nothing about myself. I don't have anything I'm passionate about, I don't know my true likes and dislikes. Am I a people person or not? I can't answer that. #2 what I do know about my self is all negative. I'm selfish, greedy, extrememly impatient, rude sometimes. I can also be a total ***** sometimes without realizing it. I'm a little on the lazy side lately, I'm not punctual and I have withdrawn from my friends. I'm a lot like my dad, controlling, and dominant. There are some things about my boyfriend that I would like to change but I'm trying to practice the idea that you can't change anyone you can only change yourself. I believe most of the way I am is because I was raised by my dad and partly because of the resentment I have for my boyfriend from somethings we went through with our son. I want to male this work because I do love him but mostly I know I need to change who I am . How does someone even begin to change who they are? Is it even possible? And am I crazy for not knowing anything about myself?HELP! How do I begin to change everything about myself.?
I have been through something similar to this. I started just taking time for myself and focusing on me. Even if that meant just taking drives by myself and listening to the music I liked or taking a bath and locking the doors. Try to be as positive as you can. Have you tried writing your feelings down everyday in a journal? That seemed to help me a little. Call up you friends and go eat dinner somewhere. Try to let go of the past and focus on the future. You can't change anything that has happened. Just stay positive! Once you can stop dwelling on negative things then your perspective will change.HELP! How do I begin to change everything about myself.?
Tackle what you can tackle. I think you are lazy because you aren't passionate about anything. Find the passion and you tackle the laziness. Find out why you are angry, sad, and then you can fix those things. I get angry because I don't have a job I love. If I did, I would be a happier person. See what I'm saying? Work on one thing at a time and see where you end up? I gained 5 lbs, but I work out daily, so now I know that I haven't been honest with myself about what I'm eating, so I'm back to counting calories, and I worked out. This works for me, has working for me in the past, so I do it again. So, basically, problem solve. If you didn't finish school, do so. I finished school and took my 2 yr old with me. My university had a day care. Why not try this out, if it works for you? Find a focus, my dear. Good luck! And, you aren't your dad.
Whenever I try to analyze myself, I get confused. I just go with the flow and do what I want. Answers also come very easily when you have peace of mind. One way to attain peace of mind is to have someone to depend on, someone who understands everything say and feel. If you believe there is a God, then maybe its worth a shot to get to know him. I know I'm happy with what He's given me.
no you are not crazy. A lot of people don't know much about themselves. It's ok. First take a few deep breaths! Everyone has flaws. Don't go crazy trying to change yourself to make other people happy. You'll become extremely depressed with the new you, if you don't work things out clearly. Try out new things...you may be able to find out what you do and don't like to do. Finding yourself is difficult and will take a long time. Just make sure you have patience. And yes it's possible, but you can only change if you really want to:)
*$h3ll*
You sound exactly like me!! Email me sometime. zepfan1983@yahoo.com
Just the fact that at the age of 24 you already realize these flaws and even want to change them is a huge step. I am almost 37 and it took losing everything and becoming disabled for me to learn my lesson! Focus on the things that bother you the most about yourself. Greed can be just switched off, patience requires a lot of work, rudeness you just need to take some deep breaths and think before you speak to get started on curing that. Selfishness is very hard to change, but it's also very important to not be selfish. Doing things for others a lot will start to give you a good feeling, eventually that good feeling you get will make you not want to be so selfish. There are going to be times when all these things pop up anyway, just try not to beat yourself up too bad if it's an incident and not a ';behavior';. By that I mean if it's once in a while, hey you're only human. I wish you the best and I hope you have success. BTW, being a jerk isn't ';who you are'; it's how you act. I don't know what your beliefs are but God helps me a lot when I am trying to be a better person.
I have been through something similar to this. I started just taking time for myself and focusing on me. Even if that meant just taking drives by myself and listening to the music I liked or taking a bath and locking the doors. Try to be as positive as you can. Have you tried writing your feelings down everyday in a journal? That seemed to help me a little. Call up you friends and go eat dinner somewhere. Try to let go of the past and focus on the future. You can't change anything that has happened. Just stay positive! Once you can stop dwelling on negative things then your perspective will change.HELP! How do I begin to change everything about myself.?
Tackle what you can tackle. I think you are lazy because you aren't passionate about anything. Find the passion and you tackle the laziness. Find out why you are angry, sad, and then you can fix those things. I get angry because I don't have a job I love. If I did, I would be a happier person. See what I'm saying? Work on one thing at a time and see where you end up? I gained 5 lbs, but I work out daily, so now I know that I haven't been honest with myself about what I'm eating, so I'm back to counting calories, and I worked out. This works for me, has working for me in the past, so I do it again. So, basically, problem solve. If you didn't finish school, do so. I finished school and took my 2 yr old with me. My university had a day care. Why not try this out, if it works for you? Find a focus, my dear. Good luck! And, you aren't your dad.
Whenever I try to analyze myself, I get confused. I just go with the flow and do what I want. Answers also come very easily when you have peace of mind. One way to attain peace of mind is to have someone to depend on, someone who understands everything say and feel. If you believe there is a God, then maybe its worth a shot to get to know him. I know I'm happy with what He's given me.
no you are not crazy. A lot of people don't know much about themselves. It's ok. First take a few deep breaths! Everyone has flaws. Don't go crazy trying to change yourself to make other people happy. You'll become extremely depressed with the new you, if you don't work things out clearly. Try out new things...you may be able to find out what you do and don't like to do. Finding yourself is difficult and will take a long time. Just make sure you have patience. And yes it's possible, but you can only change if you really want to:)
*$h3ll*
You sound exactly like me!! Email me sometime. zepfan1983@yahoo.com
Just the fact that at the age of 24 you already realize these flaws and even want to change them is a huge step. I am almost 37 and it took losing everything and becoming disabled for me to learn my lesson! Focus on the things that bother you the most about yourself. Greed can be just switched off, patience requires a lot of work, rudeness you just need to take some deep breaths and think before you speak to get started on curing that. Selfishness is very hard to change, but it's also very important to not be selfish. Doing things for others a lot will start to give you a good feeling, eventually that good feeling you get will make you not want to be so selfish. There are going to be times when all these things pop up anyway, just try not to beat yourself up too bad if it's an incident and not a ';behavior';. By that I mean if it's once in a while, hey you're only human. I wish you the best and I hope you have success. BTW, being a jerk isn't ';who you are'; it's how you act. I don't know what your beliefs are but God helps me a lot when I am trying to be a better person.
How Can I Find A Emo/Scene Hair-cut or Hair style?
Okay before you all tell me, ''if you were a real scene/emo kid and not a poser then you wouldn't need our help to find a haircut/hairstyle''. But i would like to let you know that just because i like their hair, it doesn't mean that i want to be scene or emo. I realize its not somthing you can change yourself into, its just what you are. its a type of lifestyle. So im not trying to be somthing im not, i just like that style of hair. So i know you can look on myspace for haircuts, but if you could i want links to actualy haircut sites, not just some random person off the internet please. and thanks for you help!How Can I Find A Emo/Scene Hair-cut or Hair style?
hey, try here. :]How Can I Find A Emo/Scene Hair-cut or Hair style?
get layers..side swept bangs.....after all of that...
TEASE TEASE TEASE!!!
just let it grow out.
Get your hair with a choppy or layered look. higlights are popular for those hair cutes. uneven ';bangs'; too.! =]
http://www.zimbio.com/portal/emo+hairsty
it looks really cool
hairfiles.tripod.com has WONDERFUL styles all in the Emo/Scene style. I sure found styles and color that I'm considering! Check it out!
http://www.kisiama.com may help you find it
i like the scene hair myself. ive found some good hair styles on myspace but that can take for ever to search. other than that, i would sugguest that you go to a hair stylist and tell them some of the thing you like about scene hair and let the artist think of something original. i like the long side bangs with shorter bangs and kinda messy short hair on top.
its all a buncyh of attention crap! No one is born an EMO or whatever they choose to be, they just want to let society see them as these poor little lost souls!!
I would never want to look like those idiots!
hey, try here. :]How Can I Find A Emo/Scene Hair-cut or Hair style?
get layers..side swept bangs.....after all of that...
TEASE TEASE TEASE!!!
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just let it grow out.
Get your hair with a choppy or layered look. higlights are popular for those hair cutes. uneven ';bangs'; too.! =]
http://www.zimbio.com/portal/emo+hairsty
it looks really cool
hairfiles.tripod.com has WONDERFUL styles all in the Emo/Scene style. I sure found styles and color that I'm considering! Check it out!
http://www.kisiama.com may help you find it
i like the scene hair myself. ive found some good hair styles on myspace but that can take for ever to search. other than that, i would sugguest that you go to a hair stylist and tell them some of the thing you like about scene hair and let the artist think of something original. i like the long side bangs with shorter bangs and kinda messy short hair on top.
its all a buncyh of attention crap! No one is born an EMO or whatever they choose to be, they just want to let society see them as these poor little lost souls!!
I would never want to look like those idiots!
How do i free myself from depression?
The subject is the question itself. How do you resolve to be confident of yourself? How do you reach out to others so they will notice you? how will you start to change yourself for the better? how do i get out of my inferiority complex? What is the best things to change in oneself for the coming year?
thanks in advanceHow do i free myself from depression?
First realize that everything changes, so start changing yourself! Physically and mentally: get a new haircut, change the color and style of your clothing, lose or gain weight, say always what you think, don麓t think about what others may think of you, learn something new. Been noticed? Are you an artist or something? if you are, then you need only good publicity, if you麓re not, then stop being shy and talk to people! you will always find someone with a lot in common, like you... Don麓t wait until tomorrow to start changing. you can do that now... As soon as you read this, turn off your pc, close your eyes and focus in what you really want from life. Once you麓ve got it, keep it and make it your personal goal and do well everything you do in order to reach it. Realize that your goal won麓t become true unless you work for it. You work for it in every little thing you do during the day. One day, you will get all you wished and that day you麓ll be ready to set up another different goal... Life麓s simple: just breath and do what you have to do... Noone is going to do it for you...
I麓m not a Doctor, but I came out of depression by myself, without pills, therapy or a new religion and I麓m just a person like you. If I did it, you can do it! Greetings from Caracas, Venezuela!How do i free myself from depression?
Reach up to people who love you and who want to help you. Never give up giving up. Good luck! :)
do things that you alwaya wanted to.. but never had the chance to do it...... make yourslef busy.....reach after your goal.....%26amp; be confident
Be more positive, try to love yourself,and get in to people , don't be conservative say whar you feel when you feel it .Trust me this works i have tried it before you.
First, increase ';B'; vitamins. Second, try to improve your diet. Third, get a little more exercise, even if you have to take up mall walking. fourth, drink more water. Fifth, try to help someone worse off than yourself.
1) lots of exercise
2) adequate sleep
3) Read:
';Virtue of Selfishness'; by Ayn Rand
%26amp; ';Games People Play'; by Eric Berne
4) get a college degree
First of all you are already taking the right step forward, you are asking the right questions. Go seek professional help and BELIEVE that there is going to be improvement. Do not be afraid to take medication if prescribed by the professional. Take care of your body and mind. Stick to schedules and create challenges for yourself that will pay you in energy when you succeed. Do know that life is indeed beautifully.
Someone is siting on your head, then you are depressed.
Look at it as a learning process.
What you are experiencing is information over load.
Society placed too many demands on you.
You have to sort out what is best for you.
You can not change what was done to you.
Best is to focus on yourself.
Whatever this means to you.
Only you will know.
Forget about what people think of you. Forget about the things you can not change about yourself and start thinking about what you have and what you can make of them.
Eat well. Quit smoking and drinking. You need no external push to be yourself.
Budget your time. Attend Thearters, Musicals and shows.
Make Friends. Doing charities assures you the best friends. Your greatest friends are those that appreciate you for the services you render. Giving freely and selflessly can not incur heartbreak.
Make plans for your personal growth. Plan for a home, a car or some investment.
Count your blessings.Keep a journal - it will boost your confidence
List down your good qualities and play them up. Don't try to please everybody so just be yourself. Most importantly, PRAY, because this is the best way to combat depression. Believe that God loves you. Jesus is just waiting to help you, let him in your heart and he will do miracles.
Tell yourself you can do it and think positive. Do things that you know it will help you stand out. And no matter what happens, think that there are other opportunities there that you can easily accomplish.
thanks in advanceHow do i free myself from depression?
First realize that everything changes, so start changing yourself! Physically and mentally: get a new haircut, change the color and style of your clothing, lose or gain weight, say always what you think, don麓t think about what others may think of you, learn something new. Been noticed? Are you an artist or something? if you are, then you need only good publicity, if you麓re not, then stop being shy and talk to people! you will always find someone with a lot in common, like you... Don麓t wait until tomorrow to start changing. you can do that now... As soon as you read this, turn off your pc, close your eyes and focus in what you really want from life. Once you麓ve got it, keep it and make it your personal goal and do well everything you do in order to reach it. Realize that your goal won麓t become true unless you work for it. You work for it in every little thing you do during the day. One day, you will get all you wished and that day you麓ll be ready to set up another different goal... Life麓s simple: just breath and do what you have to do... Noone is going to do it for you...
I麓m not a Doctor, but I came out of depression by myself, without pills, therapy or a new religion and I麓m just a person like you. If I did it, you can do it! Greetings from Caracas, Venezuela!How do i free myself from depression?
Reach up to people who love you and who want to help you. Never give up giving up. Good luck! :)
do things that you alwaya wanted to.. but never had the chance to do it...... make yourslef busy.....reach after your goal.....%26amp; be confident
Be more positive, try to love yourself,and get in to people , don't be conservative say whar you feel when you feel it .Trust me this works i have tried it before you.
First, increase ';B'; vitamins. Second, try to improve your diet. Third, get a little more exercise, even if you have to take up mall walking. fourth, drink more water. Fifth, try to help someone worse off than yourself.
1) lots of exercise
2) adequate sleep
3) Read:
';Virtue of Selfishness'; by Ayn Rand
%26amp; ';Games People Play'; by Eric Berne
4) get a college degree
First of all you are already taking the right step forward, you are asking the right questions. Go seek professional help and BELIEVE that there is going to be improvement. Do not be afraid to take medication if prescribed by the professional. Take care of your body and mind. Stick to schedules and create challenges for yourself that will pay you in energy when you succeed. Do know that life is indeed beautifully.
Someone is siting on your head, then you are depressed.
Look at it as a learning process.
What you are experiencing is information over load.
Society placed too many demands on you.
You have to sort out what is best for you.
You can not change what was done to you.
Best is to focus on yourself.
Whatever this means to you.
Only you will know.
Forget about what people think of you. Forget about the things you can not change about yourself and start thinking about what you have and what you can make of them.
Eat well. Quit smoking and drinking. You need no external push to be yourself.
Budget your time. Attend Thearters, Musicals and shows.
Make Friends. Doing charities assures you the best friends. Your greatest friends are those that appreciate you for the services you render. Giving freely and selflessly can not incur heartbreak.
Make plans for your personal growth. Plan for a home, a car or some investment.
Count your blessings.Keep a journal - it will boost your confidence
List down your good qualities and play them up. Don't try to please everybody so just be yourself. Most importantly, PRAY, because this is the best way to combat depression. Believe that God loves you. Jesus is just waiting to help you, let him in your heart and he will do miracles.
Tell yourself you can do it and think positive. Do things that you know it will help you stand out. And no matter what happens, think that there are other opportunities there that you can easily accomplish.
Is it wrong to change for love?
im in love and honestly dont feel like i could ever feel this way with another person ever. ...but sometimes i get the feeling that i have to change too much.
.....but then again i realize that im hardheaded and stubborn and that i dont like to change...so maybe its me just not easily accepting change....
....but then i think there is a point in changing to satisfy your partner and theres a point in changing yourself from who you truly are.
should my soul mate be 100% satisfied with me exactly how i am or is it normal to have a few flaws that need fixing....?
i have no female friends. im a 20 year old girl, my boyfriend is 22, and im asking for friendly advice from mature people.
thank you.Is it wrong to change for love?
You can change a little but not too much. If he really loves you. He should accept who you truly are and not ask you to change to someone he wants you to be.Is it wrong to change for love?
Not so much wrong as impossible. A person CAN'T change who or what they are.
no sweetheart, there is nothing wrong with changing for love, but you have to let it happen on your own terms, you can not force a change...
once you know your in love, the change just happens on its own, don't fight it.
people change everyday, even more when in love, your still yourself, just with some changes.
personally i rather have a man who is maybe 98% happy with me, a few differences in things won't hurt, you don't want to be dating yourself now do you? so a little difference is okay.
.....but then again i realize that im hardheaded and stubborn and that i dont like to change...so maybe its me just not easily accepting change....
....but then i think there is a point in changing to satisfy your partner and theres a point in changing yourself from who you truly are.
should my soul mate be 100% satisfied with me exactly how i am or is it normal to have a few flaws that need fixing....?
i have no female friends. im a 20 year old girl, my boyfriend is 22, and im asking for friendly advice from mature people.
thank you.Is it wrong to change for love?
You can change a little but not too much. If he really loves you. He should accept who you truly are and not ask you to change to someone he wants you to be.Is it wrong to change for love?
Not so much wrong as impossible. A person CAN'T change who or what they are.
no sweetheart, there is nothing wrong with changing for love, but you have to let it happen on your own terms, you can not force a change...
once you know your in love, the change just happens on its own, don't fight it.
people change everyday, even more when in love, your still yourself, just with some changes.
personally i rather have a man who is maybe 98% happy with me, a few differences in things won't hurt, you don't want to be dating yourself now do you? so a little difference is okay.
Cheaters can change, but can the trust ever be re-built?
A while back i was a complete and utter fool. I cheated on my partner, twice. I take full blame and responsibility with the matter, and I know what I did was wrong. I know I shouldn't have done it, but I was an immature teenager that didn't understand the truth behind relationships and the hurt and pain it could cause.
My partner accepted me back, and I am more grateful than anyone could imagine. I really do love him, and want to spend the rest of my life with him. However, for the past 9 months, we've been arguing continually over my past infidelities, and its making me wonder if hes questioning out relationship.
I have changed, not just as a cheater, but as a person. I would never dream of cheating on him, ever. I know people say cheater never change, but you wouldn't understand unless you've cheated personally, understood the pain and sickening regret you feel when you realize you've gambled away your whole relationship, and had the understanding and motive to change yourself as a person. You can change if you really want to! I know this, because I have.
However, how do I convince my partner of this? I fully understand that trust takes years to build, but do you think its possible for trust to be re-built, ever? I know its takes hard work and willingness from both for the relationship to rebuild, but will the trust ever come back?Cheaters can change, but can the trust ever be re-built?
the trust will definitely take some work to gain back, and you have to be patient. on the other hand, if the two of you are constantly arguing about your past mistakes, it's not going to work. he has to decide to move on from the incident and focus on the present and future with you. if he can't move on, the relationship just wont work. i understand that what you did hurt him greatly, and its clear that you see that as well. it will take time, but it's already been nine months. that's close to a year. i don't want to put a time limit on how long it takes to move on from something like that, but given the dedication you have for him now, it seems like he should be starting to bounce back and move forward. he can't let the past take over his future with you. you can suggest counseling...couples counseling, since you take full responsibility it won' t be a problem for you, and the counselor could give him good coping mechanisms for when he's thinking about the past.
it's good that you realize what you did was wrong, and i understand that you love him and want to make it work, but the bottom line is if you've taken full responsibility and have done everything in your power to regain your trust from him and he can't let it go, it won't work. yes you made a mistake, but you don't deserve to live with it for the rest of your life.Cheaters can change, but can the trust ever be re-built?
No, and you are better off starting fresh with someone else. No matter what you do it will always be there.
its true what your sayin but anybdy that gets cheatd on will not put anythng beside anymore lik think about if it wuz u who got cheatd on would u b eazy about it
hes never going to forgive you and it will be bought up at every argument[sorry]
Once a cheating, always a cheater. What makes you think you have changed so much? If you did it twice what makes you think you wont do it again. I have been cheated on and even have been cheated on with my current boyfriend. Am I completly over it? No im not and I may never be. I will never be completly over it because once someone does that to you, your trust goes out the door and you have to gain it back. He may never fully trust you and he may never get over it. All you can do is tell him you wont do it again but if you cheated on him, do you really love him? No, because if you really loved him you would have not cheated on him so just think about that befroe you go to cheat again on him or maybe another boyfriend. It was wrong of you and he may never get over it or gain that trust back and you cant get mad because you only put it on yourself. I hate to be blunt about it but thats just how I feel. If you are gonna cheat on someone dont be with them, tell them its not working out. I mean you did this twice. After cheating on him the first time wouldnt this have made you stronger to not cheat. Just think about all this!!
f you were in his situation, think how you would feel.know why a teenage girl How do I keep my comforter fluffy
My partner accepted me back, and I am more grateful than anyone could imagine. I really do love him, and want to spend the rest of my life with him. However, for the past 9 months, we've been arguing continually over my past infidelities, and its making me wonder if hes questioning out relationship.
I have changed, not just as a cheater, but as a person. I would never dream of cheating on him, ever. I know people say cheater never change, but you wouldn't understand unless you've cheated personally, understood the pain and sickening regret you feel when you realize you've gambled away your whole relationship, and had the understanding and motive to change yourself as a person. You can change if you really want to! I know this, because I have.
However, how do I convince my partner of this? I fully understand that trust takes years to build, but do you think its possible for trust to be re-built, ever? I know its takes hard work and willingness from both for the relationship to rebuild, but will the trust ever come back?Cheaters can change, but can the trust ever be re-built?
the trust will definitely take some work to gain back, and you have to be patient. on the other hand, if the two of you are constantly arguing about your past mistakes, it's not going to work. he has to decide to move on from the incident and focus on the present and future with you. if he can't move on, the relationship just wont work. i understand that what you did hurt him greatly, and its clear that you see that as well. it will take time, but it's already been nine months. that's close to a year. i don't want to put a time limit on how long it takes to move on from something like that, but given the dedication you have for him now, it seems like he should be starting to bounce back and move forward. he can't let the past take over his future with you. you can suggest counseling...couples counseling, since you take full responsibility it won' t be a problem for you, and the counselor could give him good coping mechanisms for when he's thinking about the past.
it's good that you realize what you did was wrong, and i understand that you love him and want to make it work, but the bottom line is if you've taken full responsibility and have done everything in your power to regain your trust from him and he can't let it go, it won't work. yes you made a mistake, but you don't deserve to live with it for the rest of your life.Cheaters can change, but can the trust ever be re-built?
No, and you are better off starting fresh with someone else. No matter what you do it will always be there.
its true what your sayin but anybdy that gets cheatd on will not put anythng beside anymore lik think about if it wuz u who got cheatd on would u b eazy about it
hes never going to forgive you and it will be bought up at every argument[sorry]
Once a cheating, always a cheater. What makes you think you have changed so much? If you did it twice what makes you think you wont do it again. I have been cheated on and even have been cheated on with my current boyfriend. Am I completly over it? No im not and I may never be. I will never be completly over it because once someone does that to you, your trust goes out the door and you have to gain it back. He may never fully trust you and he may never get over it. All you can do is tell him you wont do it again but if you cheated on him, do you really love him? No, because if you really loved him you would have not cheated on him so just think about that befroe you go to cheat again on him or maybe another boyfriend. It was wrong of you and he may never get over it or gain that trust back and you cant get mad because you only put it on yourself. I hate to be blunt about it but thats just how I feel. If you are gonna cheat on someone dont be with them, tell them its not working out. I mean you did this twice. After cheating on him the first time wouldnt this have made you stronger to not cheat. Just think about all this!!
f you were in his situation, think how you would feel.
How to change myself?
i know that i cant change him... frankly, i dont want to.. he hurts me sometimes, and our problems stem from the both of us, but i love him... he's not abusive, and the things we fight about are rediculous... rather than trying to change us and fix us, i know i can only change myself.. i know i am too sensitive, i know i am not so book smart, i know i used to be a lot more confident, outgoing, and funny... i know i tend to get upset too quickly and need to learn to relax... but how? how do you start to change yourself, so that you feel it and your partner notices? i will do anything to find US again... i love him dearly.. i dont want him to want me to leave him... he is my man, his kids are my heart, and they are my life...How to change myself?
You know sometimes we may think he not abusive but treating u bad is abusive, starting fights that he knows is going to hurt well it is abuse... i know my hubby does the same thing he had me brain washed to feel bad about my self in all ways it is so sad but it is true! I enjoy myself more now then i ever did in the past becauce i have changed for the bettter... He always made me feel like i was the one who needed to change... but you know what it was me that needed to change and realize what my hubby was doing to me! Now i do not let him tell me i am ugly now i just laugh at him... And tell him he is ugly... but to let someone have that much control over someone life is sad! i know i lived with this feeling for over 20yrs... depressed as ever and thinking where did the love he had for me go! which now i know he never loved me cause no one treats someone so bad and can love them! please u are young do not let this happen to you! you are such a loving person to let someone drag u down that road! I see u in me when i was in my 20's thinking how happy i am and how i needed to change but honey nope he does or u need to get away from him or u will end up with me with kids and staying in a abusive marriage for my kids... I love my kids more then life it self with out them i have nothing with them, and having them happy is all i need to do to wake up in the morning and know that this is all worth it for them... but u look at your life with this man he knows things hurt u and he still does them he knows even if he treats u bad u will still be there u need to change to love ur self and find someone who will love u no matter what... i hope this helps and i will send u my email if u ever want to talk!How to change myself?
Counceling. Becaue you know what, even if you did all those great things of changing, things would be no better if he didn't do the same. So please, if he doesn't realize there are any problems nor willing to make changes then you need to drag his *** to counceling. !!!
you are never really try to make a relationship work, because a love relationship will need no work.
a man should be your perfect fit. your perfect opposite. he should challenge you, your love, you will love every minute.
but then again, thats fairy tale.
so my suggestion is be yourself, which is your fun outgoing self. dont let him cage you in.
You are very wise in knowing that you are the only one you can change! You've already stated that your fights are stupid, maybe if you didn't take things so personal, your feelings might not get hurt so often.
You might think about creating a new you! Go shopping for some new clothes, get your hair done, do things to yourself that would make you feel good about you. You have to love yourself before you can love anyone else.
Sometimes we get lost in life........maybe a night out with him without the kids, something romantic, something that would allow the two of you to get to know each other all over again!
Good luck to you!
Maybe you have ADHD. It can cause emotional reactivity in some people.
Seek counseling.
Wow I have that question on my mind. Me and my g/f just split up and I realize that we both need to work on ourselves before we can go on. I always wanted to marry her and was afraid of being hurt. Now I am hurt and alone. I am trying church and seeked help to try to change me over all. I just hope we can make it. I really love this woman and feel that I can not live without her. I hope it is not to late for us. You need to work on your self and have Faith. My a time apart will bring his eyes to the situation (like mind did with my g/f that I need to resolve the issues in my life so we can really start ours). You need to continue to work on you. If he truly love you then he will open his eyes and make the effort to change. Just hope you don't lose the faith that love will come around. See God sometimes give you signs that you need to change and somepeople get it and others don't So don't give up on him so fast. As one of Bob Marley song says it the best Time Will Tell.
You're right; you can only change yourself. Others are right, above, that counseling, preferably with a clinical psychologist, is a good place to start.
From what you've written - how you've lost your confidence and being outgoing and funny - I wouldn't be surprised if you came to realize he actually *was* abusive and that you've been brainwashed into feeling badly about yourself. But either way, that's where I would start.
You know sometimes we may think he not abusive but treating u bad is abusive, starting fights that he knows is going to hurt well it is abuse... i know my hubby does the same thing he had me brain washed to feel bad about my self in all ways it is so sad but it is true! I enjoy myself more now then i ever did in the past becauce i have changed for the bettter... He always made me feel like i was the one who needed to change... but you know what it was me that needed to change and realize what my hubby was doing to me! Now i do not let him tell me i am ugly now i just laugh at him... And tell him he is ugly... but to let someone have that much control over someone life is sad! i know i lived with this feeling for over 20yrs... depressed as ever and thinking where did the love he had for me go! which now i know he never loved me cause no one treats someone so bad and can love them! please u are young do not let this happen to you! you are such a loving person to let someone drag u down that road! I see u in me when i was in my 20's thinking how happy i am and how i needed to change but honey nope he does or u need to get away from him or u will end up with me with kids and staying in a abusive marriage for my kids... I love my kids more then life it self with out them i have nothing with them, and having them happy is all i need to do to wake up in the morning and know that this is all worth it for them... but u look at your life with this man he knows things hurt u and he still does them he knows even if he treats u bad u will still be there u need to change to love ur self and find someone who will love u no matter what... i hope this helps and i will send u my email if u ever want to talk!How to change myself?
Counceling. Becaue you know what, even if you did all those great things of changing, things would be no better if he didn't do the same. So please, if he doesn't realize there are any problems nor willing to make changes then you need to drag his *** to counceling. !!!
you are never really try to make a relationship work, because a love relationship will need no work.
a man should be your perfect fit. your perfect opposite. he should challenge you, your love, you will love every minute.
but then again, thats fairy tale.
so my suggestion is be yourself, which is your fun outgoing self. dont let him cage you in.
You are very wise in knowing that you are the only one you can change! You've already stated that your fights are stupid, maybe if you didn't take things so personal, your feelings might not get hurt so often.
You might think about creating a new you! Go shopping for some new clothes, get your hair done, do things to yourself that would make you feel good about you. You have to love yourself before you can love anyone else.
Sometimes we get lost in life........maybe a night out with him without the kids, something romantic, something that would allow the two of you to get to know each other all over again!
Good luck to you!
Maybe you have ADHD. It can cause emotional reactivity in some people.
Seek counseling.
Wow I have that question on my mind. Me and my g/f just split up and I realize that we both need to work on ourselves before we can go on. I always wanted to marry her and was afraid of being hurt. Now I am hurt and alone. I am trying church and seeked help to try to change me over all. I just hope we can make it. I really love this woman and feel that I can not live without her. I hope it is not to late for us. You need to work on your self and have Faith. My a time apart will bring his eyes to the situation (like mind did with my g/f that I need to resolve the issues in my life so we can really start ours). You need to continue to work on you. If he truly love you then he will open his eyes and make the effort to change. Just hope you don't lose the faith that love will come around. See God sometimes give you signs that you need to change and somepeople get it and others don't So don't give up on him so fast. As one of Bob Marley song says it the best Time Will Tell.
You're right; you can only change yourself. Others are right, above, that counseling, preferably with a clinical psychologist, is a good place to start.
From what you've written - how you've lost your confidence and being outgoing and funny - I wouldn't be surprised if you came to realize he actually *was* abusive and that you've been brainwashed into feeling badly about yourself. But either way, that's where I would start.
Should I change myself for him?
I like this guy.My friends (who are guys) went up to him and asked if he likes me,he said:I don't date black girls who are loud,I am not being racist its just common sense.I don't see how that is not racist and he has no common sense.My friend Kendra said:He is ugly and you deserve better than him,don't change yourself because what you do makes you yourself and I like you just the way you are.Last week he was all about me asking him out.
-Should I change myself for him or was Kendra right?
-What should I do?Should I change myself for him?
Are you crazy? No. Why should you change yourself for some guy? Do you think there is something wrong with you? You only try to change if you're not happy with who you are. Kendra was absolutely right. If she's right about his looks and I'm right about his personality, or lack thereof, then he's not worth asking this question.
What should you do? You should forget about him. The right guy will appreciate you for who you are, faults and all.
By the way, how were you planning to change being black???Should I change myself for him?
stay true to yourself and who you are. dont change for anyone and dont let anyone change you.?
Never EVER change for a guy! Ever. It's a total mistake.
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Listen to Kendra!
changing urself for a guy is dumb... guaranteed that u will find someone who likes u for u. forget about him. not worth it
You should never change yourself for anyone. If he really liked you, he wouldn't WANT you to change. Guys like girls the way they are (well...MOST of them) and obvoiusly he's not worth it. I wouldn't go out with him OR change for him.
Listen to your friend. He sounds like a racist jerk and you deserve better.
what an jerk forget him and find someone else [:
Trust me, I didn't believe it till it happened to me: a guy who really cares will like all of you, not just your good parts, but your bad parts as well. If he isn't willing to take all of you, quite frankly, you should not pursue him. Don't change yourself for anyone but yourself.
kendra was right if he doesn't like u the way u are he doesn't deserve u
IF YOU MAKE CHANGES OF YOURSELF MAKE SURE YOU ARE DOING IT FOR YOU, NOT TO IMPRESS SOME GUY OR OTHERS THAT MAY NOT CARE FOR YOUR PERSONALITY, IF HE IS INTERESTED IN YOU , HE WILL DATE YOU
Never change yourself for a guy. If he Truly likes you then he'll like you for who you are, and not what he likes/ wants...
Hope I could help... :)
How are you not going to be black? If you are a loud and annoying person then yes, maybe you should change that aspect of yourself, but not for him- not all black women are loud.
don't change yourself for anyone there has to be some guy who doesn't just like you but loves you (sounds cheesy..rite)besides this guy seams like a real jerk!!
never change for anyone if i were u i would listen to ur true friend
That's a good friend. I like her. SHE LIKES YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE! Did you listen to yourself as you typed in the question? I heard an alarm in my head as soon as I read the title. I think you know your answer.
NEVER EVER CHANGE YOURSELF FOR A GUY!!!!!
you do what you think is right
and your friend is very much correct he does not deserve you and you do deserve so much better
never change yourself for someone who is just going to dumb you down and reject you.
find someone who values you and who you are, not by just appearence.
find someone who will love you inside out.
that guy is wayyyyyy below you and you dont need someone who makes a comment like that.
good luck :D
listen to your friend.. shes right!
dont change for anyone!!!
the people that mind dont matter..
and the people that matter dont mind.
so juss be yourself. its the best thing you could do.
move on and find someone better that likes you exactally how yu are.
otherwise your not goin to be in a happy relationship
Don't change yourself!
stay the way you are :)
seriously, too many girls do that..and then it can usually be a mistake
trust your friend
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Kendra was TOTALLY right! Do not go changing yourself for a boy, (and a jerky one at that!) especially when he can't respect you and it probably won't last that long. Nobody's perfect, especially people like him. And we weren't made to be. Just enjoy yourself and forget about him.
dont change just because of a guy..im a guy but i dont want my girl to change her personality i want her to be herself. so i think your should just be your self
Kendra was COMPLETELY right. DONT change yourself because of a guy. He's not worth losing who you have built yourself to be. You are the way you are for a reason. Don't let one guy get in the way. You have friends that like you for you. And nobody needs a guy to depend on. Out there, there is a guy waiting to meet you, and he will like you and love you for who you are. Have confidence in yourself and forget him. He seems really racist. That is disrespectful and completely out of line for him to say. Move on and find someone who likes you for you, and don't let anyone make you believe that your not good enough for them because of you race, or because you can be loud at times. Just because he's a wuss and isn't as loud because he's scared doesn't mean you should be like him. Good luck, and i hope i helped.
Sweetheart, you shouldn't EVER change yourself for ANYBODY...if he doesn't like you just the way you are then he is not a guy worth having...just forget about him--he sounds like a total Dbag.
do not change 4 anyone listen 2 your friend she is tellin u wat a true friend should
that was so racist what he said about black girls, he is just so ignorenant. don't waste your time with an irgnorenant person ignorance is evil. look what the kkk does they are ignorenant. life your life with beauty a person that has beauty will like you for you.
if you change you should change bad habbits into something better
but never change for a guy
specially one who doesnt like you for you
don't change for a guy you are being something you are not plus he may not even like you and when you don't like him you will regret it and also he is racist and mean I never date a guy like that if I found out I liked a guy and he said something like that to someone I would get over him hes not worth it your better without him
Don't change for anyone: you want to be loved for who you really are and you don't want to change for somebody. You're great as you are, aren't you? :)
-Should I change myself for him or was Kendra right?
-What should I do?Should I change myself for him?
Are you crazy? No. Why should you change yourself for some guy? Do you think there is something wrong with you? You only try to change if you're not happy with who you are. Kendra was absolutely right. If she's right about his looks and I'm right about his personality, or lack thereof, then he's not worth asking this question.
What should you do? You should forget about him. The right guy will appreciate you for who you are, faults and all.
By the way, how were you planning to change being black???Should I change myself for him?
stay true to yourself and who you are. dont change for anyone and dont let anyone change you.?
Never EVER change for a guy! Ever. It's a total mistake.
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Listen to Kendra!
changing urself for a guy is dumb... guaranteed that u will find someone who likes u for u. forget about him. not worth it
You should never change yourself for anyone. If he really liked you, he wouldn't WANT you to change. Guys like girls the way they are (well...MOST of them) and obvoiusly he's not worth it. I wouldn't go out with him OR change for him.
Listen to your friend. He sounds like a racist jerk and you deserve better.
what an jerk forget him and find someone else [:
Trust me, I didn't believe it till it happened to me: a guy who really cares will like all of you, not just your good parts, but your bad parts as well. If he isn't willing to take all of you, quite frankly, you should not pursue him. Don't change yourself for anyone but yourself.
kendra was right if he doesn't like u the way u are he doesn't deserve u
IF YOU MAKE CHANGES OF YOURSELF MAKE SURE YOU ARE DOING IT FOR YOU, NOT TO IMPRESS SOME GUY OR OTHERS THAT MAY NOT CARE FOR YOUR PERSONALITY, IF HE IS INTERESTED IN YOU , HE WILL DATE YOU
Never change yourself for a guy. If he Truly likes you then he'll like you for who you are, and not what he likes/ wants...
Hope I could help... :)
How are you not going to be black? If you are a loud and annoying person then yes, maybe you should change that aspect of yourself, but not for him- not all black women are loud.
don't change yourself for anyone there has to be some guy who doesn't just like you but loves you (sounds cheesy..rite)besides this guy seams like a real jerk!!
never change for anyone if i were u i would listen to ur true friend
That's a good friend. I like her. SHE LIKES YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE! Did you listen to yourself as you typed in the question? I heard an alarm in my head as soon as I read the title. I think you know your answer.
NEVER EVER CHANGE YOURSELF FOR A GUY!!!!!
you do what you think is right
and your friend is very much correct he does not deserve you and you do deserve so much better
never change yourself for someone who is just going to dumb you down and reject you.
find someone who values you and who you are, not by just appearence.
find someone who will love you inside out.
that guy is wayyyyyy below you and you dont need someone who makes a comment like that.
good luck :D
listen to your friend.. shes right!
dont change for anyone!!!
the people that mind dont matter..
and the people that matter dont mind.
so juss be yourself. its the best thing you could do.
move on and find someone better that likes you exactally how yu are.
otherwise your not goin to be in a happy relationship
Don't change yourself!
stay the way you are :)
seriously, too many girls do that..and then it can usually be a mistake
trust your friend
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Kendra was TOTALLY right! Do not go changing yourself for a boy, (and a jerky one at that!) especially when he can't respect you and it probably won't last that long. Nobody's perfect, especially people like him. And we weren't made to be. Just enjoy yourself and forget about him.
dont change just because of a guy..im a guy but i dont want my girl to change her personality i want her to be herself. so i think your should just be your self
Kendra was COMPLETELY right. DONT change yourself because of a guy. He's not worth losing who you have built yourself to be. You are the way you are for a reason. Don't let one guy get in the way. You have friends that like you for you. And nobody needs a guy to depend on. Out there, there is a guy waiting to meet you, and he will like you and love you for who you are. Have confidence in yourself and forget him. He seems really racist. That is disrespectful and completely out of line for him to say. Move on and find someone who likes you for you, and don't let anyone make you believe that your not good enough for them because of you race, or because you can be loud at times. Just because he's a wuss and isn't as loud because he's scared doesn't mean you should be like him. Good luck, and i hope i helped.
Sweetheart, you shouldn't EVER change yourself for ANYBODY...if he doesn't like you just the way you are then he is not a guy worth having...just forget about him--he sounds like a total Dbag.
do not change 4 anyone listen 2 your friend she is tellin u wat a true friend should
that was so racist what he said about black girls, he is just so ignorenant. don't waste your time with an irgnorenant person ignorance is evil. look what the kkk does they are ignorenant. life your life with beauty a person that has beauty will like you for you.
if you change you should change bad habbits into something better
but never change for a guy
specially one who doesnt like you for you
don't change for a guy you are being something you are not plus he may not even like you and when you don't like him you will regret it and also he is racist and mean I never date a guy like that if I found out I liked a guy and he said something like that to someone I would get over him hes not worth it your better without him
Don't change for anyone: you want to be loved for who you really are and you don't want to change for somebody. You're great as you are, aren't you? :)
What do you think of yourself? Don't answer if you are shallow?
Please help me out with this experiment. Answer this question before you read the following article. I want to do a survey plus see how effective my writing is.
What do you think of yourself? The good and the bad? The inner and outer?
Answer it first. Then read:
Too many girls are hurting themselves to look pretty. We all feel self conscious at times so we try to compensate for it by making ourselves look beautiful. There is nothing wrong with beauty, but our idea of beauty is smudged by the women we see in magazines and in the media because they are advertised as appealing. Symmetry is a main component in what the human body naturally thinks is beautiful. We try to achieve symmetry and beauty by drastically changing the body we were born with. Some girls go on diets and become anorexic and some girls eat too much because they think they are too skinny. No matter how hard girls try to stay above the influence of beauty, you'll see them in the bathrooms, fixing their hair. Mirrors and pictures are here to remind us what we look like and who we are. Women need to learn to love themselves, because however hard you attempt to change yourself, you will always be you.
After reading, please answer the question differently.
What do you think of yourself now?What do you think of yourself? Don't answer if you are shallow?
I'll answer both 2gether..
I think that god made me beautiful whether i'm beautiful or not...I'm keen to know y they wna change them self's..!
Recently happened with me....i was slim enough to luk good but then also i wanted to get more slim but unfortunately i gained my weight jz coz i didn't thank to god for the beauty he gave me....And now i'm happy with wt ever i have..!! And how i luk is beautiful whether others think it or not,....i don't care...!What do you think of yourself? Don't answer if you are shallow?
b**tch please i know i'm sexy
Sometimes i think i am fat and sometimes i think i am thin, sometimes i am happy with who i am, sometimes i am not. Sometimes i think i am pretty, other times i dont. it all varies.
My views did not change. If anything, it made me think i needed to diet.
The same thing can be said for guys.
This is another feminazi sexist man hate rant.
Next.
i think i am fun, outgoing, pretty, tall, ect.
i still think i am the same.
umm okay well I don't think I'm very bad-looking, but I do think I could stand some fixing up on the inside. I'm not too nice sometimes. But people really like me anyway... It's weird though, because the only guy who I want to like me sort of doesn't... idk.
edit: umm okay same as before...? whatever
I have never hurt myself to be beautiful. Honestly, I'm just naturally thin because I'm a vegetarian, and I eat healthy. That passage didn't change the way I think of myself. I think I'm average height, and I'm not STUNNING, but I'm mostly happy with my looks... But, that isn't all I care about. I'm not saying that I don't care about my looks, because I do. It's just that my whole LIFE isn't about just looks.
I think I am introspective and at times overly observant.
I think I respect my body I was born with.
There is nothing wrong with doing what you want to do to feel happy about the way you look, I understand that people do and can take appearance too far. I agree that the body is beautiful. We are a species of perfection, we try to achieve perfection in every aspect of our lives and looking good is no exception.
good - i have a nice body if i don't eat junk food, i have a good metabolism, i'm healthy
bad - my lower body is beginning to lose muscle because i have stopped exercising and eating healthy
the inner - good :) except.. i'm kind of self centered sometimes and i don't listen to people if they are not interesting.. it makes people feel like i only care about myself
the outer - i'm pleased, could be better of course but i am content
i think i'm very attractive, intelligent, and an introvert but everyone has bad days
sorry, i thought the same thing after i read it..
when you say ';you'll see them in the bathrooms fixing their hair'; there's nothing wrong with that.. it made it seem as if fixing your hair in the bathroom was a bad thing.. but i understood what you were trying to say. i liked that you added ';mirrors and pictures are here to remind us what we look like and who we are'; .. but i would say it is the magazines and other people who do that and mirrors and pictures are just ways we perceive ourselves
then again...
i used to starve myself and developed anorexia, luckily it wasn't too major and i was able to get ouf it.. however i still have those thoughts in my head..and if i eat a lot i feel dirty and fat. i also don't eat many things. in the past 2 months i was able to start drinking juice and eating potatoes my mood turns around if i weigh over a certain amount.. its something i have to live with i guess. i try to balance i'm getting better :)
Pretty trumps Ugly
Rich trumps Pretty
Rich and Pretty trumps everything !
Plain or Ugly people have less selection in the relationship market .
Not knowing this information is being unrealistic !
Before-Pale, overweight, kinda pretty.
After-I probably shouldn't worry so much and be who I am....
What do you think of yourself? The good and the bad? The inner and outer?
Answer it first. Then read:
Too many girls are hurting themselves to look pretty. We all feel self conscious at times so we try to compensate for it by making ourselves look beautiful. There is nothing wrong with beauty, but our idea of beauty is smudged by the women we see in magazines and in the media because they are advertised as appealing. Symmetry is a main component in what the human body naturally thinks is beautiful. We try to achieve symmetry and beauty by drastically changing the body we were born with. Some girls go on diets and become anorexic and some girls eat too much because they think they are too skinny. No matter how hard girls try to stay above the influence of beauty, you'll see them in the bathrooms, fixing their hair. Mirrors and pictures are here to remind us what we look like and who we are. Women need to learn to love themselves, because however hard you attempt to change yourself, you will always be you.
After reading, please answer the question differently.
What do you think of yourself now?What do you think of yourself? Don't answer if you are shallow?
I'll answer both 2gether..
I think that god made me beautiful whether i'm beautiful or not...I'm keen to know y they wna change them self's..!
Recently happened with me....i was slim enough to luk good but then also i wanted to get more slim but unfortunately i gained my weight jz coz i didn't thank to god for the beauty he gave me....And now i'm happy with wt ever i have..!! And how i luk is beautiful whether others think it or not,....i don't care...!What do you think of yourself? Don't answer if you are shallow?
b**tch please i know i'm sexy
Sometimes i think i am fat and sometimes i think i am thin, sometimes i am happy with who i am, sometimes i am not. Sometimes i think i am pretty, other times i dont. it all varies.
My views did not change. If anything, it made me think i needed to diet.
The same thing can be said for guys.
This is another feminazi sexist man hate rant.
Next.
i think i am fun, outgoing, pretty, tall, ect.
i still think i am the same.
umm okay well I don't think I'm very bad-looking, but I do think I could stand some fixing up on the inside. I'm not too nice sometimes. But people really like me anyway... It's weird though, because the only guy who I want to like me sort of doesn't... idk.
edit: umm okay same as before...? whatever
I have never hurt myself to be beautiful. Honestly, I'm just naturally thin because I'm a vegetarian, and I eat healthy. That passage didn't change the way I think of myself. I think I'm average height, and I'm not STUNNING, but I'm mostly happy with my looks... But, that isn't all I care about. I'm not saying that I don't care about my looks, because I do. It's just that my whole LIFE isn't about just looks.
I think I am introspective and at times overly observant.
I think I respect my body I was born with.
There is nothing wrong with doing what you want to do to feel happy about the way you look, I understand that people do and can take appearance too far. I agree that the body is beautiful. We are a species of perfection, we try to achieve perfection in every aspect of our lives and looking good is no exception.
good - i have a nice body if i don't eat junk food, i have a good metabolism, i'm healthy
bad - my lower body is beginning to lose muscle because i have stopped exercising and eating healthy
the inner - good :) except.. i'm kind of self centered sometimes and i don't listen to people if they are not interesting.. it makes people feel like i only care about myself
the outer - i'm pleased, could be better of course but i am content
i think i'm very attractive, intelligent, and an introvert but everyone has bad days
sorry, i thought the same thing after i read it..
when you say ';you'll see them in the bathrooms fixing their hair'; there's nothing wrong with that.. it made it seem as if fixing your hair in the bathroom was a bad thing.. but i understood what you were trying to say. i liked that you added ';mirrors and pictures are here to remind us what we look like and who we are'; .. but i would say it is the magazines and other people who do that and mirrors and pictures are just ways we perceive ourselves
then again...
i used to starve myself and developed anorexia, luckily it wasn't too major and i was able to get ouf it.. however i still have those thoughts in my head..and if i eat a lot i feel dirty and fat. i also don't eat many things. in the past 2 months i was able to start drinking juice and eating potatoes my mood turns around if i weigh over a certain amount.. its something i have to live with i guess. i try to balance i'm getting better :)
Pretty trumps Ugly
Rich trumps Pretty
Rich and Pretty trumps everything !
Plain or Ugly people have less selection in the relationship market .
Not knowing this information is being unrealistic !
Before-Pale, overweight, kinda pretty.
After-I probably shouldn't worry so much and be who I am....
Why do some black women think that they need to change for these racist people?
Black women, you don't need to change for anybody and I want to let you know this right now. It doesn't matter how much you try to change yourself for these racist because at the end of the day, they will STILL find something that they think is wrong with you. I'm just going to go ahead and type it right now. Black women, if you are loud, ghetto, overweight, wear weave, or do what ever else people see as something negative in black women, DON'T CHANGE YOURSELF! Forget these people! They are nobodies and you're not hurting anyone so keep doing what you're doing. I'm sick of reading these questions talking about how black women need to get rid of our attitudes and all of that other BS when the truth is that everyone, in every race, have people with bad attitudes so it makes no sense for every black woman to be nice. Be yourself and don't pay attention to what they have to say because I promise you, if you were to change a million things about yourself, these racist will STILL HAVE SOMETHING TO SAY. If a man doesn't like how you look, act, or how you wear your hair, don't pay them any attention because I promise you, they are likely to have a gazillion things wrong with them. It's time for black women to just give everyone the middle finger and just pay no attention to them because we'll never be able to please them. If you like something, DO IT!Why do some black women think that they need to change for these racist people?
GURRRRRRRRRRRL....WHO YOU TELLING..SOME FOOL ASKED ON HERE ';WHY IS JAMICE GHETTO?'; I'm ghetto fabulous and aint changing fo nobody! My husband married me for me! I burp, fart, once in a while wear weave, I go off on people and occasionally slap a h0e for getting outa line, AND I BOOTY CLAP FOR MA MAN! LOL!
They fail to realize that all of their hate, racism and jealousy is what makes me who I am! I'M FABULOUS BECAUSE I'M DIFFERENT AND I MARCH AT DA BEAT OF MA OWN DRUMS! THEY CAN KISS MA PRETTY BROWN AS$! LOL
SELAM: GURRRRRRRRRRL...I'M LOVING YA HAIR....THAT'S HOW MA MOM AND SISTER'S IS, she's also ethiopian! I chopped mine off not too long ago, and it's growing fast! I can't wait until it get long! You're really purrrrty too!
THINKS FOR HERSELF: GURRRRRRRRL...I'm not go lie, there are some times that I wana just go back to perming and weaving my hair, but my husband won't let me! I absolutely have to wet it before i comb it or the teeth of my combs will break! LOL...but i admit, it's beats the he11 out of buying new weave every other week and constantly perming it! I'm fena start wearing twisties, but im not go let it dread tho! HOW DO YOU WEAR YOURS?Why do some black women think that they need to change for these racist people?
All the black women I know don't feel the need to change for anybody. Speak for yourself.
You're probably some troll pretending to be black. Whatever.
EVERYONE SHOULD BE EQUAL !!!!!!!!!!! i hate racist people
BC STUPID CRACKAHS LIKE UGLY WHITE FEMALE R JELUS OF DEM SO SHE INSULTS THEM CUS SHE KNO SHE CAN NEVER BE DAT BOOTYLICIOUS
I'm not black (obviously) but I had to chime in as a fat chick.
Most fat black women carry themselves far more proudly then us paler, big white girls. And because of that confidence, you have more time with boyfriends then on the therapist's couch.
I second your ';do it'; message.
Because of the media's constant advertisements of ';whites'; standard of beauty. Especially being exposed to such material at an early age.
Yes I agree we're breathing racism right now... MMM Asian chicken? But not just Black people deal with this so do other races! Asians, Latinos, even white people! One time I got swore at for being part Jewish. And also a African American (that makes it sound less racist) Posted a comment on Youtube saying that Blacks would form up an army and kill all the ****in whites. . . . . my moms part of the family is super racist. But not my dad's part, nor me. I appreciate all White, Black, Asian, Latino, Marshion.
I don't let these fools affect me. I already have a list mentally of people whose questions and comments I will no longer respond to. I will never change. Do they seriously think that after 32 years of being me and loving me, that I would suddenly have an epiphany from some dweeb on the internet? Now, that is funny. Star for you.
:) Thanks ((looking down))
FOR THE PERSON THAT SAID SHE'S OBVIOUSLY NOT BLACK BECAUSE SHE HAS GOOD GRAMMAR, SHUT THE HELL UP. Like seriously. I have good grammar. And I'm a proud Black female. So just shut the hell up. And your right. At the end of the day, there will always be something negative said about Black women. And I like what you said, EXCEPT, I am not ghetto, overweight, or wear weave. But I am Black. And I believe someone will always find something negative to say about me. So I just hold my head up high and brush it off.
Edit:: To the girl above me, I meant to give you a thumbs up.
My bad. Love what you said! :)
Only insecure women, I have pride in myself and my culture. I'm Ethiopian (black) woman.
Thank you Jamice, your hair looks beautiful too:):)
i see more black people changing to be accepted by black people rather than being accepted by racists...
i've seen this first hand quite a few times through family, friends, and peers.
This is the most slanted question of all time. I don't know why you would post this if not to get your opinions out in an obnoxious way.
All of this is a case for how all black women are obnoxious and have a bad attitude.
First of all, ';black'; is a color, not a ';race';. I do not understand any of the words in the quotes.
GURRRRRRRRRRRL....WHO YOU TELLING..SOME FOOL ASKED ON HERE ';WHY IS JAMICE GHETTO?'; I'm ghetto fabulous and aint changing fo nobody! My husband married me for me! I burp, fart, once in a while wear weave, I go off on people and occasionally slap a h0e for getting outa line, AND I BOOTY CLAP FOR MA MAN! LOL!
They fail to realize that all of their hate, racism and jealousy is what makes me who I am! I'M FABULOUS BECAUSE I'M DIFFERENT AND I MARCH AT DA BEAT OF MA OWN DRUMS! THEY CAN KISS MA PRETTY BROWN AS$! LOL
SELAM: GURRRRRRRRRRL...I'M LOVING YA HAIR....THAT'S HOW MA MOM AND SISTER'S IS, she's also ethiopian! I chopped mine off not too long ago, and it's growing fast! I can't wait until it get long! You're really purrrrty too!
THINKS FOR HERSELF: GURRRRRRRRL...I'm not go lie, there are some times that I wana just go back to perming and weaving my hair, but my husband won't let me! I absolutely have to wet it before i comb it or the teeth of my combs will break! LOL...but i admit, it's beats the he11 out of buying new weave every other week and constantly perming it! I'm fena start wearing twisties, but im not go let it dread tho! HOW DO YOU WEAR YOURS?Why do some black women think that they need to change for these racist people?
All the black women I know don't feel the need to change for anybody. Speak for yourself.
You're probably some troll pretending to be black. Whatever.
EVERYONE SHOULD BE EQUAL !!!!!!!!!!! i hate racist people
BC STUPID CRACKAHS LIKE UGLY WHITE FEMALE R JELUS OF DEM SO SHE INSULTS THEM CUS SHE KNO SHE CAN NEVER BE DAT BOOTYLICIOUS
I'm not black (obviously) but I had to chime in as a fat chick.
Most fat black women carry themselves far more proudly then us paler, big white girls. And because of that confidence, you have more time with boyfriends then on the therapist's couch.
I second your ';do it'; message.
Because of the media's constant advertisements of ';whites'; standard of beauty. Especially being exposed to such material at an early age.
Yes I agree we're breathing racism right now... MMM Asian chicken? But not just Black people deal with this so do other races! Asians, Latinos, even white people! One time I got swore at for being part Jewish. And also a African American (that makes it sound less racist) Posted a comment on Youtube saying that Blacks would form up an army and kill all the ****in whites. . . . . my moms part of the family is super racist. But not my dad's part, nor me. I appreciate all White, Black, Asian, Latino, Marshion.
I don't let these fools affect me. I already have a list mentally of people whose questions and comments I will no longer respond to. I will never change. Do they seriously think that after 32 years of being me and loving me, that I would suddenly have an epiphany from some dweeb on the internet? Now, that is funny. Star for you.
:) Thanks ((looking down))
FOR THE PERSON THAT SAID SHE'S OBVIOUSLY NOT BLACK BECAUSE SHE HAS GOOD GRAMMAR, SHUT THE HELL UP. Like seriously. I have good grammar. And I'm a proud Black female. So just shut the hell up. And your right. At the end of the day, there will always be something negative said about Black women. And I like what you said, EXCEPT, I am not ghetto, overweight, or wear weave. But I am Black. And I believe someone will always find something negative to say about me. So I just hold my head up high and brush it off.
Edit:: To the girl above me, I meant to give you a thumbs up.
My bad. Love what you said! :)
Only insecure women, I have pride in myself and my culture. I'm Ethiopian (black) woman.
Thank you Jamice, your hair looks beautiful too:):)
i see more black people changing to be accepted by black people rather than being accepted by racists...
i've seen this first hand quite a few times through family, friends, and peers.
This is the most slanted question of all time. I don't know why you would post this if not to get your opinions out in an obnoxious way.
All of this is a case for how all black women are obnoxious and have a bad attitude.
First of all, ';black'; is a color, not a ';race';. I do not understand any of the words in the quotes.
How can i change this essay from 2nd person to 3rd person?
so I wrote this essay for english but then found out it was supposed to be in 3rd person. but i cant think of a way to change it. Or can someone help me come up with a new topic for it? Its supposed to be for something im good at. But im not good at doing anything that i can think of.
and please give me tips to make it better!!
making new friends
Making new friends can be really easy. Many people have problems making new friends because they dont know how to aproach someone. To make new friends you need to start a conversation, keep the conversation going, stay friends with them, while also being a good friend and know what to do and what not to do.
Starting a conversation is really easy. you can comment about something arounf you (like the weather,) ask someone for help, or by complimenting them. To keep the conversation going you can ask them questions and make small talk. Don't make anything to serious. Talking about different topics will make the conversation more interesting. Towards the end you should tell them you name.
A lot of them time people will have one conversation with someone but then never talk to them again. To stay friends with someone you should ask if they want to hang out, and give them your phone number so you can keep in touch. Instead of ignoring them in the hall, say hi.
Once ou are friends with them, you need to be a good friend. Remember important information that they tell you (name, birthday, likes and dislikes.) Be interested in what they say and pay attention. If they are talking and your texting on your phone or not looking at them, they will feel like your ignoring them. Be reliable. If you say you will do something, then do it. Its very important to be trustworthy. Keep their secrets and be honest. Be there when they need you.
Things you should do are, be positive, smile, keep eye contact, laugh, be confident, and be yourself. People don't like fake friends. Things that you shouldnt do are buy your friends by giving them gifts or money. Dont be selfish. Talking about yourself too much will make people not want to be around you. Dont leave a friend because you like another friend better, and dont try to change yourself because you want to fit in with your new friend.
Making new friends is easy if you really try. To make new friends you need to start a conversation, keep talking to that personm be a good friend, and know what to do and what not to do. If you be a good friend, then you can make many new friends.
if i made a bunch of typos its because i typed it fast and didnt fix anything because i dont need to.
Thanks:]How can i change this essay from 2nd person to 3rd person?
Making new friends can be really easy. Many people have problems making new friends because they dont know how to aproach someone. To make new friends ONE NEEDS to start a conversation, keep the conversation going, stay friends with them, and know what to do and what not to do.
Starting a conversation is really easy. ONE can comment about something around ONE (like the weather), ask someone for help, or COMPLIMENT HIM OR HER. To keep the conversation going ONE can ask questions and make small talk. ONE SHOULD NOT make anything to serious. Talking about different topics will make the conversation more interesting. Towards the end ONE should GIVE ONE'S name.
MANY TIMES people will have one conversation with someone but then never talk to them again. To stay friends with someone ONE should ask if THE PERSON WANTS to hang out, and give HIM OR HER ONE'S phone number so ONE can keep in touch. Instead of ignoring SOMEONE in the hall, say hi.
Once ONE IS A FRIEND OF SOMEONE, ONE SHOULD to be a good friend. Remember THE important information that THE FRIEND TELLS(name, birthday, likes and dislikes.) ONE SHOULD BE interested in what THE FRIEND SAYS and pay attention. If THE FRIEND IS talking and ONE IS texting on ONE'S phone or not looking at THE FRIEND, HE OR SHE will feel IGNORED. ONE SHOULD BE reliable. If ONE PROMISES TO do something, then ONE SHOULD do it. Its very important to be trustworthy. ONE SHOULD keep A FRIEND'S secrets and be honest. ONE SHOULD ALSO BE there when ONE IS NEEDED.
Things ONE should do are, be positive, smile, keep eye contact, laugh, be confident, and be ONESELF. People don't like fake friends. Things that ONE shouldnt do INCLUDE ''BUYING' ONE'S friends by giving them gifts or money. ONE SHOULD NOT be selfish. Talking about ONESELF too much will KEEP PEOPLE AWAY. ONE SHOULD NOT leave a friend because ONE LIKES another friend better, and ONE SHOULD NOT try to change ONESELF because ONE WANTS to fit in with ONE'S new friend.
Making new friends is easy if ONE really TRIES. To make new friends ONE NEEDS to start a conversation, keep talking to that person, be a good friend, and know what to do and what not to do. If ONE IS a good friend, then ONE can make many new friends.
How can i change this essay from 2nd person to 3rd person?
put in like we first person sentence starters
Why don't you substitute the you's with he's or she's? or you can do for example: ';Towards the end he/she can keep in touch.';
You need to get ';you'; out of there. Instead of saying, ';Starting a conversation is really easy. you can comment about something arounf you (like the weather,) ask someone for help, or by complimenting them.'; try:
Starting a conversation is easy. Sharing observations such as the weather or the scenery can be a good way to begin a conversation. Asking someone for help or offering compliments about a person's outfit or jewelry can also work as springboards.
The thing you want to avoid is using personal pronouns like ';you.'; Be more general. Don't say, ';If you're a good friend you can make new friends.'; Make it general: Good friends make new friends easily.
Need a soft, comfortable bed set formal hair
and please give me tips to make it better!!
making new friends
Making new friends can be really easy. Many people have problems making new friends because they dont know how to aproach someone. To make new friends you need to start a conversation, keep the conversation going, stay friends with them, while also being a good friend and know what to do and what not to do.
Starting a conversation is really easy. you can comment about something arounf you (like the weather,) ask someone for help, or by complimenting them. To keep the conversation going you can ask them questions and make small talk. Don't make anything to serious. Talking about different topics will make the conversation more interesting. Towards the end you should tell them you name.
A lot of them time people will have one conversation with someone but then never talk to them again. To stay friends with someone you should ask if they want to hang out, and give them your phone number so you can keep in touch. Instead of ignoring them in the hall, say hi.
Once ou are friends with them, you need to be a good friend. Remember important information that they tell you (name, birthday, likes and dislikes.) Be interested in what they say and pay attention. If they are talking and your texting on your phone or not looking at them, they will feel like your ignoring them. Be reliable. If you say you will do something, then do it. Its very important to be trustworthy. Keep their secrets and be honest. Be there when they need you.
Things you should do are, be positive, smile, keep eye contact, laugh, be confident, and be yourself. People don't like fake friends. Things that you shouldnt do are buy your friends by giving them gifts or money. Dont be selfish. Talking about yourself too much will make people not want to be around you. Dont leave a friend because you like another friend better, and dont try to change yourself because you want to fit in with your new friend.
Making new friends is easy if you really try. To make new friends you need to start a conversation, keep talking to that personm be a good friend, and know what to do and what not to do. If you be a good friend, then you can make many new friends.
if i made a bunch of typos its because i typed it fast and didnt fix anything because i dont need to.
Thanks:]How can i change this essay from 2nd person to 3rd person?
Making new friends can be really easy. Many people have problems making new friends because they dont know how to aproach someone. To make new friends ONE NEEDS to start a conversation, keep the conversation going, stay friends with them, and know what to do and what not to do.
Starting a conversation is really easy. ONE can comment about something around ONE (like the weather), ask someone for help, or COMPLIMENT HIM OR HER. To keep the conversation going ONE can ask questions and make small talk. ONE SHOULD NOT make anything to serious. Talking about different topics will make the conversation more interesting. Towards the end ONE should GIVE ONE'S name.
MANY TIMES people will have one conversation with someone but then never talk to them again. To stay friends with someone ONE should ask if THE PERSON WANTS to hang out, and give HIM OR HER ONE'S phone number so ONE can keep in touch. Instead of ignoring SOMEONE in the hall, say hi.
Once ONE IS A FRIEND OF SOMEONE, ONE SHOULD to be a good friend. Remember THE important information that THE FRIEND TELLS(name, birthday, likes and dislikes.) ONE SHOULD BE interested in what THE FRIEND SAYS and pay attention. If THE FRIEND IS talking and ONE IS texting on ONE'S phone or not looking at THE FRIEND, HE OR SHE will feel IGNORED. ONE SHOULD BE reliable. If ONE PROMISES TO do something, then ONE SHOULD do it. Its very important to be trustworthy. ONE SHOULD keep A FRIEND'S secrets and be honest. ONE SHOULD ALSO BE there when ONE IS NEEDED.
Things ONE should do are, be positive, smile, keep eye contact, laugh, be confident, and be ONESELF. People don't like fake friends. Things that ONE shouldnt do INCLUDE ''BUYING' ONE'S friends by giving them gifts or money. ONE SHOULD NOT be selfish. Talking about ONESELF too much will KEEP PEOPLE AWAY. ONE SHOULD NOT leave a friend because ONE LIKES another friend better, and ONE SHOULD NOT try to change ONESELF because ONE WANTS to fit in with ONE'S new friend.
Making new friends is easy if ONE really TRIES. To make new friends ONE NEEDS to start a conversation, keep talking to that person, be a good friend, and know what to do and what not to do. If ONE IS a good friend, then ONE can make many new friends.
How can i change this essay from 2nd person to 3rd person?
put in like we first person sentence starters
Why don't you substitute the you's with he's or she's? or you can do for example: ';Towards the end he/she can keep in touch.';
You need to get ';you'; out of there. Instead of saying, ';Starting a conversation is really easy. you can comment about something arounf you (like the weather,) ask someone for help, or by complimenting them.'; try:
Starting a conversation is easy. Sharing observations such as the weather or the scenery can be a good way to begin a conversation. Asking someone for help or offering compliments about a person's outfit or jewelry can also work as springboards.
The thing you want to avoid is using personal pronouns like ';you.'; Be more general. Don't say, ';If you're a good friend you can make new friends.'; Make it general: Good friends make new friends easily.
Ladies and Gentlemen, would you ever change for someone?
Would you ever try to change yourself for someone? Let me give you two scenarios and you give your comment on both
Scene 1: Let's say you met a girl/guy who you find very interesting but they're not interested in you. Would you change how you look/act just to catch their eyes? Let's say by changing your ways to fit this persons taste, there will be more of a chance of this person asking you out. Would you change who you are for this person?
Scene 2: You've been with your significant other for X amount of months/years and you notice that they're starting to lose interest in you(either physically or emotionally). Would you change yourself to make them happy? To be more attractive to them? To make your relationship last longer?Ladies and Gentlemen, would you ever change for someone?
in your scene 1 : no I would not change if they don't like me the way I am too bad.
in scene 2: I am kind of going through something in this situation now, my boyfriend of 9 years loves me and cares for me and we are getting married.. I have gained quite a bit of weight since we met and I am not the same skinny sexy girl he met all those years ago, right now I am loosing weight to be more attractive to him because the person I am now is not the person he met I am not doing it to make our relationship last longer because I know that no matter what he will be with me but I want him to have the sexy girl he met and that will make me feel better even though he said he loves me no matter what.Ladies and Gentlemen, would you ever change for someone?
nope
You need to be yourself at all times, trying to please other is not going to make you happy!
no because you would eventually rensent the person you had to make a change for . you ahve to change because you want to change not because someone want you to change for them
i tried scene 2 big mistake it did not work and i doubt that it ever does.
its not worth being in a relationship if you have to change who are in either scenario.
BE YOURSELF ALWAYS!
nope too many others out there!
i wouldnt change my entire style or anything, but i may wear a band shirt that i know they like or something like that. but you shouldnt really ever change to get someone to like you. because the person you love will love you for you and you only. even with all your imperfections
I agree with your answers. But if that change is good and I enjoy it then yes I would
As far as scene one goes, if I'm doing all the pursuing, I'm definately wasting my time and I'd move on. It's dumb to change your appearance for someone else. The only time you should change yourself is when it's for your own sake. Scene two is about the same thing. Communication should be the key in a relationship; connecting emotionally and spiritually should come first, not the physical aspect. Once again, if I'm going to change, it's going to be for me, not someone else.
knowing me i probably would and then in the end find out it wasnt worth it... i think i have done that before.. scene 1 that is.. and found out the guy was sooo not worth it.. scene 2 did not work out for me at all... people who say they havent are lying.. it all depends on how much u want the other person really... some people are just crazy lovers and others are not... when it comes down to it though, if you have to try to ';prove'; yourself ';worthy'; just so they would glance at you or stay with you... that right there just shows that there not worth it in the beggining... a lesson i have yet to realise LOL!
hell no. i did it a couple times but it seems like girls end up taking advantage of you for it. you also end up resenting them after awhile.
be yourself. you'll be happier.
Hell no, they would have to take me as I am or have nothing at all...I change for no one and for the people that do change to keep/get a man or a woman they are fake....
I did scene 1 i did not try to change but i tried ot be attactive to that person
Big mistake so no now I KNOW IM NOT CHANGING FOR ANYONE
Scene 1: I'm a level headed guy from the south. BUT i'm Black/White and i like Rap and Rock. The girl i kinda like named Emily comes accross as a southern bell who likes country ALOT. I know that if i'm ever going to be with her then i'd have to change almost everything about me. So i won't... I will never loose myself to TRY to fit somebody elses image.
Scene 2: Theres a good chance that the reason why your bf/gf is loosing interest in you is because you CHANGED. You probably made minor adjustments along the way and i bet if you look back on yourself before the relationship and look at yourself now... you'll see yourself not acting as fun, not being exciting and being just BLAH all the time trying to keep him/her secure with you. So i would change BACK to the way i was... you follow?
people can change their appearance and thier attitude for a certain amount of time but after a while your true colors show through, and thats just how people are, they dont change, they can mold themselves into a certain person but it wears off and if your partner didnt like you before, in the end, hes not going to like you then. you should find a guy/girl that fits you! you dont need to change you just need to look elsewhere! plus, opposites attrack!
No, because if I have to change myself to be with someone, why would I want to be with them in the first place?
It doesnt make since, it obviously wont work out.
There's nothing wrong with 'stepping your game up', but I gotta tell ya... You cannot change whats not yours!
Scene 1... Would I change? No.
Scene 2... Would I change to make them happy? Umm, I would 'modify' my behaviour to a point. Thats all.
Did you notice that in both scenes there is a reference to taste or appearance? Not to say that those don't create attraction, but realtionships based on those are shallow and not destined for any length of time. The reality of life is you can't depend upon people to make you happy, or put yourself in a servant role, to ensure the happiness of others. You would think that people would look to each others needs and find a common happy place.
number one idk maybe a little but maybe no, and number two......god thats hard but idk id just, wow no comment.
RE Scene 1:
Here's the beauty of this--you don't HAVE to change at all (although if you dye your hair purple you might want to re-think that--1st impressions stick).
The beauty is that the BEST communicators are ones who do NOT talk about themselves but instead focus the conversation on the other person by asking him open-ended questions about himself (not 'yes' or 'no' answer questions, but questions like, ';What did you like best about that movie?'; or How do you feel about _______(whatever--but an issue you're likely to agree on. Where I live, it's the Dunkin Donuts that might go up on Main St. to everyone's horror).
So the best chance you have at getting his interest is to be well-groomed, make the most of your appearance (that's not ';changing'; yourself, that's just 'putting your best foot forward, 'and show genuine interest in him by asking him questions that get him talking about himself.
Two great books: 'How to Marry the Man of your Choice,' and 'Irresistable Attraction.'
Scene 1: Let's say you met a girl/guy who you find very interesting but they're not interested in you. Would you change how you look/act just to catch their eyes? Let's say by changing your ways to fit this persons taste, there will be more of a chance of this person asking you out. Would you change who you are for this person?
Scene 2: You've been with your significant other for X amount of months/years and you notice that they're starting to lose interest in you(either physically or emotionally). Would you change yourself to make them happy? To be more attractive to them? To make your relationship last longer?Ladies and Gentlemen, would you ever change for someone?
in your scene 1 : no I would not change if they don't like me the way I am too bad.
in scene 2: I am kind of going through something in this situation now, my boyfriend of 9 years loves me and cares for me and we are getting married.. I have gained quite a bit of weight since we met and I am not the same skinny sexy girl he met all those years ago, right now I am loosing weight to be more attractive to him because the person I am now is not the person he met I am not doing it to make our relationship last longer because I know that no matter what he will be with me but I want him to have the sexy girl he met and that will make me feel better even though he said he loves me no matter what.Ladies and Gentlemen, would you ever change for someone?
nope
You need to be yourself at all times, trying to please other is not going to make you happy!
no because you would eventually rensent the person you had to make a change for . you ahve to change because you want to change not because someone want you to change for them
i tried scene 2 big mistake it did not work and i doubt that it ever does.
its not worth being in a relationship if you have to change who are in either scenario.
BE YOURSELF ALWAYS!
nope too many others out there!
i wouldnt change my entire style or anything, but i may wear a band shirt that i know they like or something like that. but you shouldnt really ever change to get someone to like you. because the person you love will love you for you and you only. even with all your imperfections
I agree with your answers. But if that change is good and I enjoy it then yes I would
As far as scene one goes, if I'm doing all the pursuing, I'm definately wasting my time and I'd move on. It's dumb to change your appearance for someone else. The only time you should change yourself is when it's for your own sake. Scene two is about the same thing. Communication should be the key in a relationship; connecting emotionally and spiritually should come first, not the physical aspect. Once again, if I'm going to change, it's going to be for me, not someone else.
knowing me i probably would and then in the end find out it wasnt worth it... i think i have done that before.. scene 1 that is.. and found out the guy was sooo not worth it.. scene 2 did not work out for me at all... people who say they havent are lying.. it all depends on how much u want the other person really... some people are just crazy lovers and others are not... when it comes down to it though, if you have to try to ';prove'; yourself ';worthy'; just so they would glance at you or stay with you... that right there just shows that there not worth it in the beggining... a lesson i have yet to realise LOL!
hell no. i did it a couple times but it seems like girls end up taking advantage of you for it. you also end up resenting them after awhile.
be yourself. you'll be happier.
Hell no, they would have to take me as I am or have nothing at all...I change for no one and for the people that do change to keep/get a man or a woman they are fake....
I did scene 1 i did not try to change but i tried ot be attactive to that person
Big mistake so no now I KNOW IM NOT CHANGING FOR ANYONE
Scene 1: I'm a level headed guy from the south. BUT i'm Black/White and i like Rap and Rock. The girl i kinda like named Emily comes accross as a southern bell who likes country ALOT. I know that if i'm ever going to be with her then i'd have to change almost everything about me. So i won't... I will never loose myself to TRY to fit somebody elses image.
Scene 2: Theres a good chance that the reason why your bf/gf is loosing interest in you is because you CHANGED. You probably made minor adjustments along the way and i bet if you look back on yourself before the relationship and look at yourself now... you'll see yourself not acting as fun, not being exciting and being just BLAH all the time trying to keep him/her secure with you. So i would change BACK to the way i was... you follow?
people can change their appearance and thier attitude for a certain amount of time but after a while your true colors show through, and thats just how people are, they dont change, they can mold themselves into a certain person but it wears off and if your partner didnt like you before, in the end, hes not going to like you then. you should find a guy/girl that fits you! you dont need to change you just need to look elsewhere! plus, opposites attrack!
No, because if I have to change myself to be with someone, why would I want to be with them in the first place?
It doesnt make since, it obviously wont work out.
There's nothing wrong with 'stepping your game up', but I gotta tell ya... You cannot change whats not yours!
Scene 1... Would I change? No.
Scene 2... Would I change to make them happy? Umm, I would 'modify' my behaviour to a point. Thats all.
Did you notice that in both scenes there is a reference to taste or appearance? Not to say that those don't create attraction, but realtionships based on those are shallow and not destined for any length of time. The reality of life is you can't depend upon people to make you happy, or put yourself in a servant role, to ensure the happiness of others. You would think that people would look to each others needs and find a common happy place.
number one idk maybe a little but maybe no, and number two......god thats hard but idk id just, wow no comment.
RE Scene 1:
Here's the beauty of this--you don't HAVE to change at all (although if you dye your hair purple you might want to re-think that--1st impressions stick).
The beauty is that the BEST communicators are ones who do NOT talk about themselves but instead focus the conversation on the other person by asking him open-ended questions about himself (not 'yes' or 'no' answer questions, but questions like, ';What did you like best about that movie?'; or How do you feel about _______(whatever--but an issue you're likely to agree on. Where I live, it's the Dunkin Donuts that might go up on Main St. to everyone's horror).
So the best chance you have at getting his interest is to be well-groomed, make the most of your appearance (that's not ';changing'; yourself, that's just 'putting your best foot forward, 'and show genuine interest in him by asking him questions that get him talking about himself.
Two great books: 'How to Marry the Man of your Choice,' and 'Irresistable Attraction.'
Be the change you wish to see in the world?
Ghandi said that. What do you think it means?
I think it means that if you change yourself and lead the life you wish the world to lead, then you will actually change it. You will influence people around you. You will become the role model. The older souls will come to you and ask you what oyur secret it. You would tell them what you did that made you so successful. Role model to the world.
You can also write books on your success. On your biography, your lifestyle, and what you did.
You can also be smart and share your beliefs with others. Not keep it to yourself to be selfish, or impose that that's how they should live. Just share your believes. I think this way people can peacefully change the world.
What is your opinion?Be the change you wish to see in the world?
So many people are doing that right now, only just that you would not know it, because they are moving around us silently, not blowing their trumpets, just modestly doing it, making those changes. I am sure you know a few right now...Be the change you wish to see in the world?
you are correct sir.
'You cant change the world, but you can change yourself.'
That quote has probably inspired more serial killers than anyone trying to make life better.
Its absolute bullshit, and anyone with half a brain knows it.
i think that in order to change the world, you have to change yourself first. You have to show people the way to live. If you don't change yourself and try to change the world, then you would not be successful.
i think its a bit more simpler than that. If you want there to be no violence in the world than don't be violent. If you want people to be care about poverty and hunger than you care about poverty and hunger. If you want your neighborhood to be more clean then clean your neighborhood.
It's about you taking the steps toward change first that you want other to take
I agree with you and I think the poster Anita said it best. Be a doer and not a follower or lead by example. A teacher some 2000 years ago told his followers that he was their servant. And if they were truly his followers they would be servants as well. Later.
I think it means that if you change yourself and lead the life you wish the world to lead, then you will actually change it. You will influence people around you. You will become the role model. The older souls will come to you and ask you what oyur secret it. You would tell them what you did that made you so successful. Role model to the world.
You can also write books on your success. On your biography, your lifestyle, and what you did.
You can also be smart and share your beliefs with others. Not keep it to yourself to be selfish, or impose that that's how they should live. Just share your believes. I think this way people can peacefully change the world.
What is your opinion?Be the change you wish to see in the world?
So many people are doing that right now, only just that you would not know it, because they are moving around us silently, not blowing their trumpets, just modestly doing it, making those changes. I am sure you know a few right now...Be the change you wish to see in the world?
you are correct sir.
'You cant change the world, but you can change yourself.'
That quote has probably inspired more serial killers than anyone trying to make life better.
Its absolute bullshit, and anyone with half a brain knows it.
i think that in order to change the world, you have to change yourself first. You have to show people the way to live. If you don't change yourself and try to change the world, then you would not be successful.
i think its a bit more simpler than that. If you want there to be no violence in the world than don't be violent. If you want people to be care about poverty and hunger than you care about poverty and hunger. If you want your neighborhood to be more clean then clean your neighborhood.
It's about you taking the steps toward change first that you want other to take
I agree with you and I think the poster Anita said it best. Be a doer and not a follower or lead by example. A teacher some 2000 years ago told his followers that he was their servant. And if they were truly his followers they would be servants as well. Later.
Be the change you wish to see in the world?
Ghandi said that. What do you think it means?
I think it means that if you change yourself and lead the life you wish the world to lead, then you will actually change it. You will influence people around you. You will become the role model. The older souls will come to you and ask you what oyur secret it. You would tell them what you did that made you so successful. Role model to the world.
You can also write books on your success. On your biography, your lifestyle, and what you did.
You can also be smart and share your beliefs with others. Not keep it to yourself to be selfish, or impose that that's how they should live. Just share your believes. I think this way people can peacefully change the world.
What is your opinion?Be the change you wish to see in the world?
I agree. We also have to understand the thoughts we entertain do manifest into our reality. So we can exercise change in others by how we think and conduct ourselves.Be the change you wish to see in the world?
-Don't help anyone unless asked.
-Each person's personal karma will teach them
He means instead of whining and complaining, go out there and fix it yourself. Initiative. Take it.
I think it means 2 things:
1) Lead by example.
2) if enough people do it then the change will be a reality. If you just sit around wishing then you are part of the problem, not part of the solution.
I have gone through a process of forgiveness and seen great changes in those who I no longer was judging. When we see all as perfect and put the past behind us, love reigns in all relationships.
Well it means to change yourself before you try to change others like if you want people to show respect to each other you need to show respect to people so they can follow in your example etc. Basically saying dont be a hypocrite and say things are supposed to be this way and you are doing it some other way then what you are preaching!
I totally agree.
When you want change, you have to start with yourself.
I have made the change by quitting some habits that were very self destructive over the last 4 years and notice a change in people and the world around me. Not only am I healthier and happier, but my whole circle of family and friends are different in their attitudes and life. Change comes from within and the actions we take affect the world either negatively or positively whether we realize it or not. I believe I've been a big change in the world.
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I think it means that if you change yourself and lead the life you wish the world to lead, then you will actually change it. You will influence people around you. You will become the role model. The older souls will come to you and ask you what oyur secret it. You would tell them what you did that made you so successful. Role model to the world.
You can also write books on your success. On your biography, your lifestyle, and what you did.
You can also be smart and share your beliefs with others. Not keep it to yourself to be selfish, or impose that that's how they should live. Just share your believes. I think this way people can peacefully change the world.
What is your opinion?Be the change you wish to see in the world?
I agree. We also have to understand the thoughts we entertain do manifest into our reality. So we can exercise change in others by how we think and conduct ourselves.Be the change you wish to see in the world?
-Don't help anyone unless asked.
-Each person's personal karma will teach them
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He means instead of whining and complaining, go out there and fix it yourself. Initiative. Take it.
I think it means 2 things:
1) Lead by example.
2) if enough people do it then the change will be a reality. If you just sit around wishing then you are part of the problem, not part of the solution.
I have gone through a process of forgiveness and seen great changes in those who I no longer was judging. When we see all as perfect and put the past behind us, love reigns in all relationships.
Well it means to change yourself before you try to change others like if you want people to show respect to each other you need to show respect to people so they can follow in your example etc. Basically saying dont be a hypocrite and say things are supposed to be this way and you are doing it some other way then what you are preaching!
I totally agree.
When you want change, you have to start with yourself.
I have made the change by quitting some habits that were very self destructive over the last 4 years and notice a change in people and the world around me. Not only am I healthier and happier, but my whole circle of family and friends are different in their attitudes and life. Change comes from within and the actions we take affect the world either negatively or positively whether we realize it or not. I believe I've been a big change in the world.
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this is your type of answers:
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If someone changes themselves, can they ever change back to how they were like?
i known this girl for years now. i was very close to her and knew almost every aspect of her. her personality and everything. she was never really outgoing or anything, never really being out there. suddenly we don't talk anymore for a few months and the next thing i know, she changed into a whole new person. she developed a new attitude and everything. she had new habits. it's like she turned into a whole new person. i know people change but i feel like she forced herself to change. as a teenager, we want attention and to be popular and everything right? changing yourself to get all this, is it considered a bad thing to do? when one changes one self, can they ever change back their personality and everything?If someone changes themselves, can they ever change back to how they were like?
There's a chance she might change. A lot of kids seem to change in highschool. I have a friend who felt like in middle school everyone knew her only because she was the valedictorian. She was quiet and she was easily intimidated by people. But around a few close friends she was hilarious and pretty loud. When she started highschool she broke out of her shell. She dresses edgier now, and she's like the girl that's really outgoing and she has large groups of friends.......everyone tells themselves they're never gonna change but the truth is most of the times you change without even realizing it
There's a chance she might change. A lot of kids seem to change in highschool. I have a friend who felt like in middle school everyone knew her only because she was the valedictorian. She was quiet and she was easily intimidated by people. But around a few close friends she was hilarious and pretty loud. When she started highschool she broke out of her shell. She dresses edgier now, and she's like the girl that's really outgoing and she has large groups of friends.......everyone tells themselves they're never gonna change but the truth is most of the times you change without even realizing it
If someone changes themselves, can they ever change back to how they were like?
i known this girl for years now. i was very close to her and knew almost every aspect of her. her personality and everything. she was never really outgoing or anything, never really being out there. suddenly we don't talk anymore for a few months and the next thing i know, she changed into a whole new person. she developed a new attitude and everything. she had new habits. it's like she turned into a whole new person. i know people change but i feel like she forced herself to change. we are both in college now but as a teenager, we want attention and to be popular and everything right? changing yourself to get all this, is it considered a bad thing to do? it's like she broke out of her shell but turned bad in a way. when one changes one self, can they ever change back their personality and everything?If someone changes themselves, can they ever change back to how they were like?
Car accidents can turn people to vegetables.If someone changes themselves, can they ever change back to how they were like?
I used to believe that way and I really think that people are pretty adaptive, all told. It's very difficult to make a judgment call about someone else's behavior as to whether the way they changed was for better or for worse. People can make strides to change and people can act differently, but whether they've just adopted a front or really modified who they are is something only they really know within themselves.
Everyone can change, but it's a completely individual decision. Know this, though. We're always changing. All of us change, but usually it's so slow that we hardly know we have until we look back at the way we used to be.prom hair bird
Car accidents can turn people to vegetables.If someone changes themselves, can they ever change back to how they were like?
I used to believe that way and I really think that people are pretty adaptive, all told. It's very difficult to make a judgment call about someone else's behavior as to whether the way they changed was for better or for worse. People can make strides to change and people can act differently, but whether they've just adopted a front or really modified who they are is something only they really know within themselves.
Everyone can change, but it's a completely individual decision. Know this, though. We're always changing. All of us change, but usually it's so slow that we hardly know we have until we look back at the way we used to be.
Have you ever been THIS unhappy with yourself?
Let's see, where to begin? I am 5';2' 125 lbs (on a good day). I have medium legnth hair thinned out with layers, bangs are at a good length. My eyes are brown, skin pale, straight teeth. I love long walks on the beach and dinner by candle light... opps wrong website.... j/k lol. All this sounds fairly nice and average right? Well, when I see myself in the mirror I see something totally different. I see a short person with chubby legs, big thighs, a huge bubble butt, hips that could knock you down if we did the twist, flabby arms, small breast, long horse face, big nose, my broke out face, oh yeah and large forehead. These are all things I can not change instantly such as my hair or makeup etc...
My question is, does anyone else feel like this when they see their self in the mirror? Does seeing someone that is probably equally as pretty but in their own unique way make you feel so ugly and fat that you can't stand it. That you question everything about yourself and how you dress to how you look.
The depressing part is there is nothing you can do to instantly change yourself and deep in the back of your mind I have me telling myself that you don't want to change... you used to like yourself... you used to be pretty... when you were 105 lbs... Yes I can change my clothes and makeup, but what good does changing your clothes if they make you look fat because you are trying to squeeze into a size small when you should be in a medium and not in the juniors dept anymore. I am not ready to leave that dept., they have cooler clothes damnit! I could starve myself and only eat 1000 calories a day but I love food, I love sweet tea, and I can't motivate myself to work out and keep doing it.
I am always trying to cut my hair because I am not happy with how I look, like cutting an inch off is shedding a pound... my bangs are finally long again because I stopped cutting them every day ';trying to make them straight'; when I was just messing them up and had to wait 5 months for bangs I like (but still want them longer of course). I feel like I am just bouncing off the walls of myself and I dont want to. I want to wakeup and just like me, not only the outer shell but the inside too.
I guess what I'm really saying is I need help and I am open to anything... any suggestions as to how I should stick to exercising (because this does make me feel good because I accomplished something), have more confidence.... Anything that can help me, I will listen.Have you ever been THIS unhappy with yourself?
First of all..try having 2 kids and then tell me how your body looks...lol ! To me it sounds like you have no real problem at all (as far as weight goes)...sounds like your unhappy on the inside more, or maybe you feel like your not standing up to some expectation or how you should look in comparison to others. I feel the same way, i just had my 2nd son in August and i am at my highest weight in my life...i am 5'11 but i am waaaayyyy over your 125...i feel so depressed sometimes looking in the mirror..why cant i go back to the way i was?? And dont get me wrong...i have never been a thin girl... Its hard and i cannot motivate myself to excersize either. Plus having 2 kids one 4 and one 3 months makes it hard to have any alone time to do that...by the time my husband gets home from work its to late (and im too tired) to go work out...But....if you feel this bad, then you will just make up in your mind to do it...eating healthy...going for a walk or a run...you just have to do it to change it. There is nothing wrong with shopping for bigger clothes, i was in denial for a while after i had the baby...blaming it on the ';new low waist style'; as to why i can pull up my old pre-pregnancy jeans...I broke down and bought a bigger size but kept all my other clothes...i told myself i will wear these until i can lose the weight i gained. But please dont get caught up in this..i have to be stick thin to be beautiful society. Im sure your georgeous and if you cant shop in the juniors section anymore so what...those sizes are unbelievable anyways....my 4 year old son fits into some of those sizes it seems. Im not sure how old you are or what but...let me tell you...buy a bigger size!! there is nothing flattering than squezzing yourself into clothes that are too small for you, it will just make you look bigger and feel worse. Get some bigger clothes but make the decision to try and lose the weight in the mean time. It wont happen overnight %26amp; you dont have to starve yourself. There is no pill that will just make it go away. Being heavey doesn't automatically mean your not beautiful. You need to learn that first before you decide your unhappy. I suppose thats my downfall also...i work in a plus size clothing store that sells awesome trendy plus size clothes...i am big but i am beautiful, and i know it. Plus i am surrounded by girls i work with who are confadent in the way they look. So its a positive enviorment to be in, people will always judge you if you are bigger, but its how you feel inside thats important. Nobody should be made to feel bad because they are heavey.Have you ever been THIS unhappy with yourself?
Yes I have been,after several strokes and my face started drooping.Boy,did I feel sorry for MYself.I would'nt even LOOK in the mirror.Someone asked me one day if I would like them less if they were disfigured.I said,of course not,it's what is inside a person that counts.That woke me right up.I had some choices to make.Sorryville or Do something about it.I made a list.Good qualities------Bad qualities.Then I made another list-Things I am willing to change-----Things I'm too lazy to change.Then I drew a simple picture of ';my opinion of myself';Like,what is my worth,who am I?,What is in my heart and soul?.It includes little pictures of me acting out who I am.Example-being stubborn,feeding homeless,painting,talking too much,feeling sorry for myself.etc...If your faucet in your bath broke,would you fix it or just complain about it and go without water for the rest of your life?You would fix it.Right now,your self-esteem is broke.Are you going to fix it or just complain for the rest of your life?For you to gain self-esteem you HAVE to fix your way of thinking.I am sure it is overwhelming.Mine was.So,I made ANOTHER list.How to restore my self-esteem and only care about what I think about myself. Example-focus on my abilities,not my disabilites. Eat healthy,Iknow how to do that and I choose to be proud of my body. don't compare myself to others.We are all special and unique. Get off my sorry butt and exercise,no-one wants to hear me whining,especially me. Take responsibility for my own life.Be proud of knowing what my work is and gettting it in on time. I am a shoe-freak,paint little shoes all over my cane to make it look stylish. I treat OTHERS good,I should treat myself even better. noone cares what I look like,I go out and people smile at me.I think they can see in my eye's that I like myself and have confidence. Make myself into someone I would look at and admire,Take the challenges head on,If I don't,then that's where I become a loser. And I am a WINNER.
Yeah, I feel like that a lot. What helps me is to realize that I'm not always the best judge of myself.
how to stick to exercising--every time you think that you should (exercise) but don't want to, remember all the times that you did and how good it made you feel. I remember that feeling the most, as well as remembering how lousy I feel when I don't exercise, to get myself motivated. Sometimes it doesn't always work. Sometimes, especially lately, I'm not only exhausted physically, but emotionally as well, and I just plain don't want to. So I'll compromise, I'll do something less strenuous but fun, and is still an exercise, like riding my bike outside with my kids, or taking the dog for a walk. Taking the dog for a walk is a huge motivator. She loves going for walks, to the point that she'll sulk if I haven't taken her in a couple days, so it's easy to guilt myself into that one. lol
Good luck to you. and remember... you're beautiful just the way you are. Look in the mirror every morning and tell yourself that. I dont believe it yet, but I do. It feels good to say.
boy your really self centered why dont you try reading the paper instead of looking in the mirrior
Well, yes, you do have self-esteem problems. I used to feel the same way. Im 5'3 and I weigh 127=) I used to be 160! But I motivated myself to just eat right...no junk food. Then I started taking in all the compliments people would give me, and TRUST ME taking in compliments HELPS you alot, this is what builts your confidence back. Then you start realising that you are pretty and that you are a cool person, because people are TELLING you.
You seem like a funny girl, it shouldn't be tto hard to get back on track.
Just learn how to take compliments and don't ever contradict them! Just take them in=)
Good Luck and I trust you will feel very good about yourself in no time=)
everyone goes through that.
it's just a self esteem thing.
My question is, does anyone else feel like this when they see their self in the mirror? Does seeing someone that is probably equally as pretty but in their own unique way make you feel so ugly and fat that you can't stand it. That you question everything about yourself and how you dress to how you look.
The depressing part is there is nothing you can do to instantly change yourself and deep in the back of your mind I have me telling myself that you don't want to change... you used to like yourself... you used to be pretty... when you were 105 lbs... Yes I can change my clothes and makeup, but what good does changing your clothes if they make you look fat because you are trying to squeeze into a size small when you should be in a medium and not in the juniors dept anymore. I am not ready to leave that dept., they have cooler clothes damnit! I could starve myself and only eat 1000 calories a day but I love food, I love sweet tea, and I can't motivate myself to work out and keep doing it.
I am always trying to cut my hair because I am not happy with how I look, like cutting an inch off is shedding a pound... my bangs are finally long again because I stopped cutting them every day ';trying to make them straight'; when I was just messing them up and had to wait 5 months for bangs I like (but still want them longer of course). I feel like I am just bouncing off the walls of myself and I dont want to. I want to wakeup and just like me, not only the outer shell but the inside too.
I guess what I'm really saying is I need help and I am open to anything... any suggestions as to how I should stick to exercising (because this does make me feel good because I accomplished something), have more confidence.... Anything that can help me, I will listen.Have you ever been THIS unhappy with yourself?
First of all..try having 2 kids and then tell me how your body looks...lol ! To me it sounds like you have no real problem at all (as far as weight goes)...sounds like your unhappy on the inside more, or maybe you feel like your not standing up to some expectation or how you should look in comparison to others. I feel the same way, i just had my 2nd son in August and i am at my highest weight in my life...i am 5'11 but i am waaaayyyy over your 125...i feel so depressed sometimes looking in the mirror..why cant i go back to the way i was?? And dont get me wrong...i have never been a thin girl... Its hard and i cannot motivate myself to excersize either. Plus having 2 kids one 4 and one 3 months makes it hard to have any alone time to do that...by the time my husband gets home from work its to late (and im too tired) to go work out...But....if you feel this bad, then you will just make up in your mind to do it...eating healthy...going for a walk or a run...you just have to do it to change it. There is nothing wrong with shopping for bigger clothes, i was in denial for a while after i had the baby...blaming it on the ';new low waist style'; as to why i can pull up my old pre-pregnancy jeans...I broke down and bought a bigger size but kept all my other clothes...i told myself i will wear these until i can lose the weight i gained. But please dont get caught up in this..i have to be stick thin to be beautiful society. Im sure your georgeous and if you cant shop in the juniors section anymore so what...those sizes are unbelievable anyways....my 4 year old son fits into some of those sizes it seems. Im not sure how old you are or what but...let me tell you...buy a bigger size!! there is nothing flattering than squezzing yourself into clothes that are too small for you, it will just make you look bigger and feel worse. Get some bigger clothes but make the decision to try and lose the weight in the mean time. It wont happen overnight %26amp; you dont have to starve yourself. There is no pill that will just make it go away. Being heavey doesn't automatically mean your not beautiful. You need to learn that first before you decide your unhappy. I suppose thats my downfall also...i work in a plus size clothing store that sells awesome trendy plus size clothes...i am big but i am beautiful, and i know it. Plus i am surrounded by girls i work with who are confadent in the way they look. So its a positive enviorment to be in, people will always judge you if you are bigger, but its how you feel inside thats important. Nobody should be made to feel bad because they are heavey.Have you ever been THIS unhappy with yourself?
Yes I have been,after several strokes and my face started drooping.Boy,did I feel sorry for MYself.I would'nt even LOOK in the mirror.Someone asked me one day if I would like them less if they were disfigured.I said,of course not,it's what is inside a person that counts.That woke me right up.I had some choices to make.Sorryville or Do something about it.I made a list.Good qualities------Bad qualities.Then I made another list-Things I am willing to change-----Things I'm too lazy to change.Then I drew a simple picture of ';my opinion of myself';Like,what is my worth,who am I?,What is in my heart and soul?.It includes little pictures of me acting out who I am.Example-being stubborn,feeding homeless,painting,talking too much,feeling sorry for myself.etc...If your faucet in your bath broke,would you fix it or just complain about it and go without water for the rest of your life?You would fix it.Right now,your self-esteem is broke.Are you going to fix it or just complain for the rest of your life?For you to gain self-esteem you HAVE to fix your way of thinking.I am sure it is overwhelming.Mine was.So,I made ANOTHER list.How to restore my self-esteem and only care about what I think about myself. Example-focus on my abilities,not my disabilites. Eat healthy,Iknow how to do that and I choose to be proud of my body. don't compare myself to others.We are all special and unique. Get off my sorry butt and exercise,no-one wants to hear me whining,especially me. Take responsibility for my own life.Be proud of knowing what my work is and gettting it in on time. I am a shoe-freak,paint little shoes all over my cane to make it look stylish. I treat OTHERS good,I should treat myself even better. noone cares what I look like,I go out and people smile at me.I think they can see in my eye's that I like myself and have confidence. Make myself into someone I would look at and admire,Take the challenges head on,If I don't,then that's where I become a loser. And I am a WINNER.
Yeah, I feel like that a lot. What helps me is to realize that I'm not always the best judge of myself.
how to stick to exercising--every time you think that you should (exercise) but don't want to, remember all the times that you did and how good it made you feel. I remember that feeling the most, as well as remembering how lousy I feel when I don't exercise, to get myself motivated. Sometimes it doesn't always work. Sometimes, especially lately, I'm not only exhausted physically, but emotionally as well, and I just plain don't want to. So I'll compromise, I'll do something less strenuous but fun, and is still an exercise, like riding my bike outside with my kids, or taking the dog for a walk. Taking the dog for a walk is a huge motivator. She loves going for walks, to the point that she'll sulk if I haven't taken her in a couple days, so it's easy to guilt myself into that one. lol
Good luck to you. and remember... you're beautiful just the way you are. Look in the mirror every morning and tell yourself that. I dont believe it yet, but I do. It feels good to say.
boy your really self centered why dont you try reading the paper instead of looking in the mirrior
Well, yes, you do have self-esteem problems. I used to feel the same way. Im 5'3 and I weigh 127=) I used to be 160! But I motivated myself to just eat right...no junk food. Then I started taking in all the compliments people would give me, and TRUST ME taking in compliments HELPS you alot, this is what builts your confidence back. Then you start realising that you are pretty and that you are a cool person, because people are TELLING you.
You seem like a funny girl, it shouldn't be tto hard to get back on track.
Just learn how to take compliments and don't ever contradict them! Just take them in=)
Good Luck and I trust you will feel very good about yourself in no time=)
everyone goes through that.
it's just a self esteem thing.
Is being yourself over-rated?
If a guy is being himself and it's not working out (in terms of getting a girlfriend) why would he want to continue being himself?
Obviously being himself isn't working. Especially if he's just been doing the whole being himself thing for years.
So why wouldn't he try to copy someone who is successful? Makes sense doesn't it.
People say that they can spot a fake but that's what practice is for, isn't it? In time you can change yourself and become a whole new person. Of course you can! You hear about how people transform themselves and their lives all the time!
And why do people always look down on other people when they try to copy successful people. Shouldn't we all try to better ourselves and use other people as role models? I'm talking about everything looks, attitude, dress sense, EVERYTHING!
Women say they just want men to be themselves, I say they want a boyfriend who is a clone created from a magazine.
So I put it to you...
Is being yourself over-rated?Is being yourself over-rated?
Being yourself and then being YOURSELF are two different things entirely. You're completely right man. Some people don't really know who they are until they experience the success they've always wanted.
Sometimes success comes natural, and sometimes a little change is required. There is no need to be ashamed of improving your life. No need at all.
I've noticed a lot of answers to this question claim that it is being fake to try being something different. What they don't realize is that everyone tries something different until they find something that works for them. So, essentially, they contradict themselves because they too were fake at one point.
If someone is unhappy with themselves, the only intelligent choice of action is to try something different. Copying someone who is successful is not a bad idea at all. It's ignorant to look down on someone for trying to improve themselves.
So to answer your question, yes, it is over-rated. I pity anyone who does not have the capacity to try new things instead of simply clinging to their limited beliefs.Is being yourself over-rated?
Pride.
Never! Think of the comfort factor...how good are you going to feel (even if you are successful) playing a role...and for how long? Eventually the ';real you'; is going to show up. No one ';transforms'; their inner spirit...it's impossible. They're playing a game that becomes habit. Sounds like a miserable existance to me.
Well the way I figure it, if a guy doesn't like me for me then he doesn't deserve me. I'm not going to change myself for anyone else. However, it seems to work for me. Of course, I think guys are easier to deal with. I mean I can tell them exactly what I think, which isn't always nice, and they still claim that I'm nice. Crazy people. Anyhow, if you want to be someone else I guess you can try that, but you aren't being fair to yourself. I don't know how long you would be happy living a lie, but if you are content to live a lie, then go for it.
faking only gets you so far. if you get into a relationship by faking it you are just going to get hurt in the end. eventually your real self will come out and it will end the relationship
No it isn't Over-rated. If your not being yourself with a girl how will you know if the two of you are compatible. Change is good too, but to change your beliefs and morals is a no-no. Be true to yourself and your heart. Remember you make your own happiness and if your happy being you, be Yourself.
I respect anyone who is forward-honest-and to the point even if it hurts my feelings because maybe i needed that. rather then keep it inside i love open-ness and i respect it alot.especially if my zipper is open or if i have some food on my face. i am straight and cut and dry myself. i think those women who want you change think they can be selfish and have there cake and eat it too. i treat people the way i wanted to be treated. but in every realtionship you have a little of some change so you can communicate and relate to one-another so if its something new to you . you will find you have to act new so you can attract that person. if it is small changes for the better. why not take the risks and go for it full guns loaded.as long as it betters yourself as a person inside and out.Stay unique though thats what gives every single one of us our character and who we are.
Obviously being himself isn't working. Especially if he's just been doing the whole being himself thing for years.
So why wouldn't he try to copy someone who is successful? Makes sense doesn't it.
People say that they can spot a fake but that's what practice is for, isn't it? In time you can change yourself and become a whole new person. Of course you can! You hear about how people transform themselves and their lives all the time!
And why do people always look down on other people when they try to copy successful people. Shouldn't we all try to better ourselves and use other people as role models? I'm talking about everything looks, attitude, dress sense, EVERYTHING!
Women say they just want men to be themselves, I say they want a boyfriend who is a clone created from a magazine.
So I put it to you...
Is being yourself over-rated?Is being yourself over-rated?
Being yourself and then being YOURSELF are two different things entirely. You're completely right man. Some people don't really know who they are until they experience the success they've always wanted.
Sometimes success comes natural, and sometimes a little change is required. There is no need to be ashamed of improving your life. No need at all.
I've noticed a lot of answers to this question claim that it is being fake to try being something different. What they don't realize is that everyone tries something different until they find something that works for them. So, essentially, they contradict themselves because they too were fake at one point.
If someone is unhappy with themselves, the only intelligent choice of action is to try something different. Copying someone who is successful is not a bad idea at all. It's ignorant to look down on someone for trying to improve themselves.
So to answer your question, yes, it is over-rated. I pity anyone who does not have the capacity to try new things instead of simply clinging to their limited beliefs.Is being yourself over-rated?
Pride.
Never! Think of the comfort factor...how good are you going to feel (even if you are successful) playing a role...and for how long? Eventually the ';real you'; is going to show up. No one ';transforms'; their inner spirit...it's impossible. They're playing a game that becomes habit. Sounds like a miserable existance to me.
Well the way I figure it, if a guy doesn't like me for me then he doesn't deserve me. I'm not going to change myself for anyone else. However, it seems to work for me. Of course, I think guys are easier to deal with. I mean I can tell them exactly what I think, which isn't always nice, and they still claim that I'm nice. Crazy people. Anyhow, if you want to be someone else I guess you can try that, but you aren't being fair to yourself. I don't know how long you would be happy living a lie, but if you are content to live a lie, then go for it.
faking only gets you so far. if you get into a relationship by faking it you are just going to get hurt in the end. eventually your real self will come out and it will end the relationship
No it isn't Over-rated. If your not being yourself with a girl how will you know if the two of you are compatible. Change is good too, but to change your beliefs and morals is a no-no. Be true to yourself and your heart. Remember you make your own happiness and if your happy being you, be Yourself.
I respect anyone who is forward-honest-and to the point even if it hurts my feelings because maybe i needed that. rather then keep it inside i love open-ness and i respect it alot.especially if my zipper is open or if i have some food on my face. i am straight and cut and dry myself. i think those women who want you change think they can be selfish and have there cake and eat it too. i treat people the way i wanted to be treated. but in every realtionship you have a little of some change so you can communicate and relate to one-another so if its something new to you . you will find you have to act new so you can attract that person. if it is small changes for the better. why not take the risks and go for it full guns loaded.as long as it betters yourself as a person inside and out.Stay unique though thats what gives every single one of us our character and who we are.
Can someone help me in my VALUES EDUCATION homework?
Explain them BRIEFLY.
1. Let not your mind run on what you lack as much as on what you have already of the things you have, select the best.
2. The secret of contentment is knowing how to enjoy what you have and be able to lose desires for other things.
3. Has it occurred to you that without the gifts and talents God has given you, you will not be able to enjoy life as you do?
4. Without determination, you can never change yourself; without changing yourself, you will never grow.Can someone help me in my VALUES EDUCATION homework?
1. Don't think about the things that you don't have, concentrate on what you do have, then you will be happy.
2. The secret to being happy, is knowing how to appreciate what you already have, and controlling yourself from wanting other things.
3. Have you ever thought about the talents God gave you? Without them, you would not be able to live your life happily.
4. If you don't have determination, you can't change to be a better person. If you don't change yourself to become better, you will never grow to be the best you can be.
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Hope this helped :) I tried to explain it as easy as I can.Can someone help me in my VALUES EDUCATION homework?
Hmm. Shouldn't one of your values be not cheating on your homework?
1. Let not your mind run on what you lack as much as on what you have already of the things you have, select the best.
2. The secret of contentment is knowing how to enjoy what you have and be able to lose desires for other things.
3. Has it occurred to you that without the gifts and talents God has given you, you will not be able to enjoy life as you do?
4. Without determination, you can never change yourself; without changing yourself, you will never grow.Can someone help me in my VALUES EDUCATION homework?
1. Don't think about the things that you don't have, concentrate on what you do have, then you will be happy.
2. The secret to being happy, is knowing how to appreciate what you already have, and controlling yourself from wanting other things.
3. Have you ever thought about the talents God gave you? Without them, you would not be able to live your life happily.
4. If you don't have determination, you can't change to be a better person. If you don't change yourself to become better, you will never grow to be the best you can be.
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Hope this helped :) I tried to explain it as easy as I can.Can someone help me in my VALUES EDUCATION homework?
Hmm. Shouldn't one of your values be not cheating on your homework?
I NEED to change..i just HATE myself!!?
I have an aunt, and my dad, mom, relatives, EVERYONE dislikes her because she is jealous, one day she's your best friend, the next your enemy, greedy, every single bad quality you can think of. ever since i was little i would do childish mean things to my little sister(things that a big sister does to her younger sister) and my parents would always tell me i'm like my aunt bc my little sister is like an angel and always took it w/o doing anything back.
my dad and mom both are pretty much saints too, and i am just like my aunt. i have NO idea how to stop being the jealous freak that i am, and my philosophy is you're born with your personality and you can't change it...
do you believe you can change yourself to be better??
and am i destined to be lonely forever?? (because ppl say don't go after the people who hurt you, and i always end up hurting everyone close to me unintentionally. every best friend i've ever had i've lost, and my current one is close to being lost too...HELP!I NEED to change..i just HATE myself!!?
Honey, take a deep breath and have hope here....you can change...it takes some work but I see in what you have told me you have a lot of pent up anger and there has been favortism in you family and that is very damaging to your self esteem, I bet if you look into your family chain you would find the reasons behind your aunts behaivors are also dealing with anger and no self esteem...you look in that mirror in the morning and have to deal with what you see...and the very fact that you do not like the mean and cruel streak is proof that they are not your nature...but your defense...I am going to give you a website that has several teachers to help you to become who you want to be and who will help you deal with the pain of favortism...your so called saints for parents have been pretty much jerks for putting labels on you and your sister good or bad...most of the time they had it done to them...and it sounds to me like the aunt was the unfavored one too.....anyway give yourself a chance here..check out this site..go to thesecret.tv then to secret gifts, then scroll down to the lady on the grass and play the video...say it out loud then after start exploring the site...it is awesome..you can get emails to your box everyday of some great people who like you did not like who they were or where they were at but chose to change and succeeded...I did the same..and I have a great life now..I still find the ugly in me raises its head once in a while...but now I know how to tame it...so have hope honey...love will prevail and life will get better...I NEED to change..i just HATE myself!!?
Okay we must be twins or something because I have the same problem! My attitude is changing because of my helper points- they are 2 close my eyes when ever I feel like hitting some1 or yelling at them and relax. It kills me when i have 2 say sorry or please stop but it has helped me stop being so rude to my little brother. It helps me to get away from my aunt sometimes and other people that aren't good examples ( it might be your case 2!) At 1 point of my life i felt as lonley as ever without any friends but now I got my friends back and new friends! Try my ideas and ur life will b going smoothly just like mine rite now!
Thats rough, im kind of going through the same thing, but i am fixing it, and its working. If you dont like yourself for being mean, then prove to your parents you can be nice, I KNOW I KNOW that tough with having siblings, i have two brothers! Im the only girl, and its hard, but you can prove to your parents theres a nice side of you.
You dont' want to be that type person. You have made the first step. We can all change. Since you really want to, I know you can. The next step is, love yourself. Start writing down some of your jealous thoughts and look back on them later. You may see how silly you are sometimes. My mother in law is just like your aunt and she has hurt so many people. Your parents were wrong to say you are just like her. Now prove them wrong. . .
pick up a book called energy medicine. it may help.
also your parents messedup by comparing you to your aunt, never do that if you want some one to change.
what you need to do is ask thoes close to you to tell you what they dislike. then take the smallest thing or things and focus on changing them. eventualy you can work your way to the larger problems.
You can change if you choose but it is hard work to begin with. In order to understand why you feel and behave as you do in order to change I recommend Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, or counselling arranged by your Doctor. You want always be lonely but it is wise to treat people as you wish to be treated. Decent, emotionally unhealthy people don't stick around to be mistreated by dysfunctional people or emoionally unhealthy people.
of course,you hold the key to your future just try,be a little less bitchy and spoilet and try to get along with everyone,you have to ask your self why you do these things.why hurt people?just calm down and ask if its worth hurting people today cus you or them mite not be here tomorrow.lifes to short to hurt people, and as the saying goes ';treat people the way you yourself would like to be treated';
I highly suggest that you talk to a therapist, it sounds like you may be experiencing some depression.
my dad and mom both are pretty much saints too, and i am just like my aunt. i have NO idea how to stop being the jealous freak that i am, and my philosophy is you're born with your personality and you can't change it...
do you believe you can change yourself to be better??
and am i destined to be lonely forever?? (because ppl say don't go after the people who hurt you, and i always end up hurting everyone close to me unintentionally. every best friend i've ever had i've lost, and my current one is close to being lost too...HELP!I NEED to change..i just HATE myself!!?
Honey, take a deep breath and have hope here....you can change...it takes some work but I see in what you have told me you have a lot of pent up anger and there has been favortism in you family and that is very damaging to your self esteem, I bet if you look into your family chain you would find the reasons behind your aunts behaivors are also dealing with anger and no self esteem...you look in that mirror in the morning and have to deal with what you see...and the very fact that you do not like the mean and cruel streak is proof that they are not your nature...but your defense...I am going to give you a website that has several teachers to help you to become who you want to be and who will help you deal with the pain of favortism...your so called saints for parents have been pretty much jerks for putting labels on you and your sister good or bad...most of the time they had it done to them...and it sounds to me like the aunt was the unfavored one too.....anyway give yourself a chance here..check out this site..go to thesecret.tv then to secret gifts, then scroll down to the lady on the grass and play the video...say it out loud then after start exploring the site...it is awesome..you can get emails to your box everyday of some great people who like you did not like who they were or where they were at but chose to change and succeeded...I did the same..and I have a great life now..I still find the ugly in me raises its head once in a while...but now I know how to tame it...so have hope honey...love will prevail and life will get better...I NEED to change..i just HATE myself!!?
Okay we must be twins or something because I have the same problem! My attitude is changing because of my helper points- they are 2 close my eyes when ever I feel like hitting some1 or yelling at them and relax. It kills me when i have 2 say sorry or please stop but it has helped me stop being so rude to my little brother. It helps me to get away from my aunt sometimes and other people that aren't good examples ( it might be your case 2!) At 1 point of my life i felt as lonley as ever without any friends but now I got my friends back and new friends! Try my ideas and ur life will b going smoothly just like mine rite now!
Thats rough, im kind of going through the same thing, but i am fixing it, and its working. If you dont like yourself for being mean, then prove to your parents you can be nice, I KNOW I KNOW that tough with having siblings, i have two brothers! Im the only girl, and its hard, but you can prove to your parents theres a nice side of you.
You dont' want to be that type person. You have made the first step. We can all change. Since you really want to, I know you can. The next step is, love yourself. Start writing down some of your jealous thoughts and look back on them later. You may see how silly you are sometimes. My mother in law is just like your aunt and she has hurt so many people. Your parents were wrong to say you are just like her. Now prove them wrong. . .
pick up a book called energy medicine. it may help.
also your parents messedup by comparing you to your aunt, never do that if you want some one to change.
what you need to do is ask thoes close to you to tell you what they dislike. then take the smallest thing or things and focus on changing them. eventualy you can work your way to the larger problems.
You can change if you choose but it is hard work to begin with. In order to understand why you feel and behave as you do in order to change I recommend Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, or counselling arranged by your Doctor. You want always be lonely but it is wise to treat people as you wish to be treated. Decent, emotionally unhealthy people don't stick around to be mistreated by dysfunctional people or emoionally unhealthy people.
of course,you hold the key to your future just try,be a little less bitchy and spoilet and try to get along with everyone,you have to ask your self why you do these things.why hurt people?just calm down and ask if its worth hurting people today cus you or them mite not be here tomorrow.lifes to short to hurt people, and as the saying goes ';treat people the way you yourself would like to be treated';
I highly suggest that you talk to a therapist, it sounds like you may be experiencing some depression.
Why is it that some people only see the world as it is, and not how it could be?
As children we think that the world is a lot better than it is. As adults we view the child's perception as innocent or ignorant. Rather than disregarding the child's world since it is not how things are, why not change yourself and the world to make it a better place?
In other words, why is it that some people only see the world as it is, and not how it could be?Why is it that some people only see the world as it is, and not how it could be?
Well I think the problem is the fact that most people see the world ONLY how it could be, instead of actually facing the world as IT IS. It would be a good starting point in order to get there, to some kind of a ';better world';.Why is it that some people only see the world as it is, and not how it could be?
I would love to see the world through a child's eyes, but it's not as easy as it sounds when you know the reality of life.
Actually, I think you have it all backwards. Children actually see the world as it is and it is the adults that impose their long list of beliefs and wishes on them to force children to see things differently.
Seeing the world as it could be is a hideous curse. It traps you into an idealism that is often fatal and becomes corrupted by the compromises made along the way when you are confronted with the hard reality that the world is just not capable of being what you might wish it to be. Why is this? The reason why is that wishes and beliefs never truly take the world as it is into account. That means that any means to the belief or wish is flawed by not being based on what is. Being flawed, you stumble into one contradiction after another.
I'm not saying that we shouldn't want a better world. I'm just saying that all wishes, desires, and beliefs have to be grounded in what you have and not what you want.
Selene, There are many people who live and dye
within a fifty mile radius of the home, and have never
known the world any other way.
A child may be innocent but not ignorant.
Many do see the world as it is, but can do
nothing to change the way you would like it to be. %26lt;}:-})
Children understand reality perfectly.
Adults do not.
Children are fresh from their source (however you wish to define that) and they haven't learned to digest the corrupted messages of the media or learned how to be stressed. They just feel life out simply with their perceptions and they understand that without all the extra crap that adults feel life is amazingly wonderous. Adults get sucked up into the outer world and believe in what they see more then what they feel in their hearts. Children understand that the inner world creates the outer world :)
';The obvious lesson . . . . is that the first step to the knowledge of the highest divine symbol of the wonder and mystery of life is in the recognition of the monstrous nature of life and it's glory in that character: the realization that this is just how it is and that it cannot and will not be changed. Those who think ---- and their name is legion---that they know how the universe could have been better than it is, how it would have been had they created it, without pain, without sorrow, without time, without life, are unfit for illumination. Or those who think---as do many---';Let me first correct society, then get around to myself'; are barred from even the outer gate of the mansion of God's peace. All societies are evil, sorrowful, inequitable; and so they will always be. So if you really want to help this world, what you will have to teach is how to live in it. And that no one can do who has not himself learned how to live in it in the joyful sorrow and sorrowful joy of the knowledge of life as it is.';
----Joseph Campbell
You are seeing the world as you want to see it. This will change I think . . . .hang in there
Your question is very apropo to todays politics. The people who see the world as it is are called conservative republicans. The people who ask what it could be are called liberal democrates. The republicans believe in fiscal responsibility, but the dems will take all your tax dollars and squander them on their friends in the banking business, and take their cut of course. Isn't life simple?automatic stability control chaep web hosts
In other words, why is it that some people only see the world as it is, and not how it could be?Why is it that some people only see the world as it is, and not how it could be?
Well I think the problem is the fact that most people see the world ONLY how it could be, instead of actually facing the world as IT IS. It would be a good starting point in order to get there, to some kind of a ';better world';.Why is it that some people only see the world as it is, and not how it could be?
I would love to see the world through a child's eyes, but it's not as easy as it sounds when you know the reality of life.
Actually, I think you have it all backwards. Children actually see the world as it is and it is the adults that impose their long list of beliefs and wishes on them to force children to see things differently.
Seeing the world as it could be is a hideous curse. It traps you into an idealism that is often fatal and becomes corrupted by the compromises made along the way when you are confronted with the hard reality that the world is just not capable of being what you might wish it to be. Why is this? The reason why is that wishes and beliefs never truly take the world as it is into account. That means that any means to the belief or wish is flawed by not being based on what is. Being flawed, you stumble into one contradiction after another.
I'm not saying that we shouldn't want a better world. I'm just saying that all wishes, desires, and beliefs have to be grounded in what you have and not what you want.
Selene, There are many people who live and dye
within a fifty mile radius of the home, and have never
known the world any other way.
A child may be innocent but not ignorant.
Many do see the world as it is, but can do
nothing to change the way you would like it to be. %26lt;}:-})
Children understand reality perfectly.
Adults do not.
Children are fresh from their source (however you wish to define that) and they haven't learned to digest the corrupted messages of the media or learned how to be stressed. They just feel life out simply with their perceptions and they understand that without all the extra crap that adults feel life is amazingly wonderous. Adults get sucked up into the outer world and believe in what they see more then what they feel in their hearts. Children understand that the inner world creates the outer world :)
';The obvious lesson . . . . is that the first step to the knowledge of the highest divine symbol of the wonder and mystery of life is in the recognition of the monstrous nature of life and it's glory in that character: the realization that this is just how it is and that it cannot and will not be changed. Those who think ---- and their name is legion---that they know how the universe could have been better than it is, how it would have been had they created it, without pain, without sorrow, without time, without life, are unfit for illumination. Or those who think---as do many---';Let me first correct society, then get around to myself'; are barred from even the outer gate of the mansion of God's peace. All societies are evil, sorrowful, inequitable; and so they will always be. So if you really want to help this world, what you will have to teach is how to live in it. And that no one can do who has not himself learned how to live in it in the joyful sorrow and sorrowful joy of the knowledge of life as it is.';
----Joseph Campbell
You are seeing the world as you want to see it. This will change I think . . . .hang in there
Your question is very apropo to todays politics. The people who see the world as it is are called conservative republicans. The people who ask what it could be are called liberal democrates. The republicans believe in fiscal responsibility, but the dems will take all your tax dollars and squander them on their friends in the banking business, and take their cut of course. Isn't life simple?
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