How can you get over something quickly?

I do not even want to post my ';issue'; it is nonexistent anymore. It is something that has happened in the past and i am still upset over it. it is pretty lame. anyway, what are ways to actually change yourself and get over things faster? i keep saying i'll change but i never do until something changes me.How can you get over something quickly?
past is past , you cannot change it , just think that everything happens for a reason and what doesn't break you makes you stronger , just live your life to the last minute with faithHow can you get over something quickly?
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Focus on something else. Do some sport, meet other people, have fun! Learn to juggle! Go rockclimbing! Bake a cake! Just focus on other things to take your mind off it.
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I'd say 99% of it is mental. You just have to start recognizing yourself following that pattern, and nip it in the butt.
Find something you enjoy. And it will be effortless to get involved and eventually your ';issue'; will become a trivial matter of the past.
try to keep yourself busy. try new things and go new places. don't worry about the past: it's the past and it's over.
Focus on more positive things. What I do to forget about stuff if it's brought up and I'm not comfortable is work out or play a video game (or both-Dance Dance Revolution!). It helps to get my mind of whatever it is and focus on something else.
By not concentrating on what you are trying to get over.
If you're suffering from heart break, it's probably no consolation to hear that time will hear your wounds. When you think about it, the only thing that you have in this world no matter what is time. Therefore, giving away such a precious commodity for an indefinite period just isn't very practical. I'm here to give you a step by step guide for getting over your last relationship quickly.



Setting Boundaries for Grieving



Before you can even think about moving past your last relationship, you need to give yourself the space to grieve the relationship you just lost. Most people find this comes naturally. The dilemma is that you may get stuck in this phase for longer than you would like. Kim Erickson from Couple-Me.com, a fabulous online dating site, recommends setting a time limit for grieving. I think this is an excellent idea!



The Steps



1) Give yourself a time frame for getting over your last relationship.



2) Grab a calendar



3) Put a large symbol (such as a happy face) on the day that you're going to stop grieving about your last relationship.



4) Decorate that date. Write something like PARTY TIME!



5) Allow yourself to grieve. You can cry, look at pictures, talk to your friends, even look at their MySpace page every once in a while.



6) Once you reach your date for getting over your relationship, stop grieving. This means, not speaking about your ex to your friends, stop looking at pictures of them and checking out their websites, and most importantly - DO NOT CONTACT YOUR EX AGAIN!



Stage Two



Now that you're no longer preoccupied with your last relationship, you're ready to really start to move on. I am not implying that you won't think about your last relationship from time to time. Erickson at Couple-Me.com warns, ';You may actually find yourself thinking about them more than you'd like.'; But, you are no longer in the grieving stage. You're moving on baby!



A New You



Ever notice how you get into a relationship and it seems as if a whole new world becomes available to you? You find yourself experiencing different things that your new partner is interested in etc. Well, the same idea can hold true when you find yourself single again. I call it creating a new you.



Simple Ideas for Creation:



-- Try a new hobby. This will introduce you to something fun and give you the opportunity to socialize with new people.



-- Change something physical about yourself. This can be your hair, the way you dress, or even something so simple such as your perfume/cologne.



-- Try a new restaurant or different type of food. Taste and smell have high links to memory. This will allow you to create new ones that aren't associated with your ex.



-- Make some new friends. If you and your ex had many mutual friendships, a new circle of amigos will help you make a fresh start.



Get Back in the Game



Now you're finally ready to have some fun! It's time to get back into the dating game. Notice I didn't say anything about finding love again. Dating and finding love or a relationship are two very different things. You'll know when you're ready for love. But, in the mean time, get out there and explore the dating world again!



Take Some Time to Stroke the Ego



Hands down the easiest and most fun way to start dating again is to head to the internet. I recommend using one of the more popular dating sites such as http://www.Couple-Me.com. This way you'll have plenty of suitors to choose from. All you have to do is put up a profile and some photos of yourself and let others contact you. Remember, you don't need to date everyone that writes to you. Just enjoy the attention that your ego receives and choose who you want to give your time to.



Keep the Faith



The very last step to getting over your last relationship is simply a matter of faith. You'll find that when you open yourself up to the possibility of being part of a relationship once again, it will happen. And even if your new relationship doesn't work out, giving love a chance is never something you can fault yourself for or regret.
Self development/ improvement takes time. Start with a small habit to break or get into (depending on your situation). You really can't rush it. You'll know when you've truly gotten to where you want to be because it will be like second ... well, first nature. Remember to look at yourself with an honest eye and be true to yourself (corny but true). Listen to that little voice. Good luck!
First you have to reinvent yourself NOT as a victim. That is not to say you even have to forget what happened. What you have to decide is that this bad thing cannot take away all the good things that have ever happened to you, nor can it prevent good things ever happening again. Make a list of all the good things in the past that you value and want to remember. Make a plan for good things you hope for in the future (life, family, books to read, places to go etc) and start working on them. If there is a lesson to be learned from the bad thing that happened tuck it away for now and work on the new you......One or even many bad things happening does not mean that is all you can expect.....
oh, just post it and then delete it after you get some answers. Even 5 minutes would be enough time.



It depends what it was, obviously.



Who cares if it's lame, there's a high chance other people have experienced the same thing. Just put that in your question. ';I know this is lame but it's still really bothering me'; and that should stop the people who were going to tell you to ';just get over it';



Seriously. Just do it. You're not going to lose anything and if it might help you fix this issue then it's worth trying
it doesn't work like that you don't just think Ka-Ching and your all better it takes time - Months sometimes years, have your tried counselling it really helped me deal with my past.
You need to talk to a journal and never stop journalling cause the

book journal will keep you on track if in it you list your goals and what you did toward your goals daily. if you list the one thing youd did toward your goals and reached one goal a day or two you will feel better an=bout your life and have accomplished allot more and you will be less likely to fail and fall back to your sloven or lazy ways when you have to write down the journal entry only one goal one thing you did to get a job or to save ofr a car or worked at your job to get a better pay or you studied and wrote a better paper or did more homework that required or you did all your and your families laundry or some other

sacrafice for others and yourself in one day do one thing dont make

your effort so incredible that you cant do it realistically have a positive

outlook be happy look at tyour writings make sure your truthful to yourself dont lie you did all the laundry and there is a load of towels int he hampers. Make your list of things I need to do and to fulfill all your lifes needs like clean your room when you dont know what to do

clean work space and a clean body and mind will help the journalong

you will see a increase in multitasking you learn you can do laundry and read some chapters of school work and get in some exercise while vacuuming the house and get a run to the post office and shop for dinner cook it and clean after it so mom aint so tired too. journall all your successes as you finish them and make sure your last one every noght is you brushed your teeth drank some water and took care of your health by eating a natcsh of turkey to fall asleep faster so you can rise and start your journaling lists off to complete more and more every day so your days no longer are empty and unfulfilling they are full and you get out and us your listing to improve buying and spending anf budgeting so your every effort becomes a new way to learn to grow and do something better learn what recycles and what does not lean your health care to healthy works cleanliness is closest to godlyness and helping others gains and motivates others around you

reward your new found productivity with treats like make yourself some soothing hot chocolate you love with little marchmellows every time you

got up made your bed washed some clothes and hanged up another load of laundry yours and others help others help you you start the load inlist your mom to transfer the loads to the dryer and your little sister to fold the towels while you start another load of clothes.

then make breakfast for all and clean it up afterwards so dad gets out the door today with a hot meal and maybe he will be less tired

at work or after to take you to the library where you make a stop in town to buy postal stamps u all can use for bills and buy some groceries plan out coupons for tuesdays are swithc marjet days when

coupons end for the next wednesday delivery of fresh foods

do learn when your grocery resupplies food and sendss out coupons so you get the most groceries for the least money and buy in bulk so you can take the extra over to your mother or sisters house they will then share their extras they buy in bulk too you buy the five flats of two dozen eggs and shared between three or four family members

they buy the two gallons of milk buy and share a trade for the eggs with you that way your milk purchase dollars can go for a pound of chicken tenders or more than 2 pounds of hamburger.

then share your extra savings by buying more effecient lighting

bulbs buy one bulb a month swap all your lighting over to flourescents

then the electric bills lower use the extra saving in dollars to buy more insullation for the roof so your heating and cooling bills lower then use the money to buy things you would not have gotten before like set aside a new tires for the car account or a fatter xmas fund

or to buy those new jeans you need make lists journal the work

and keep track of what is next in your life mutlitask and make life work for you inlist others to make bulk purchases and never fail them

by not making the commitment to the needs you provide if they use more oatmeal and raisins cause they have kids then try buying those in bulk and trade the savings you get or share the bulk and they can share theirs so you reply and rely on their buying five dozen eggs

then go out and trade off the things they get in bulk for the things you get in bulk pass the savings down in the form of bigger better birthday

gifts and your education will improve every time you work on it and journal your success and that you got the dishes and the laundry and cleaned one thing in the house and took ou the garbage made alist for needed things in the pantry made a list toplan the meals out for more

better planned meals than fast foods. save the bucks and eat better

just by slicing carrots and celery enough for snacks so your diet never goes

off track and you plan to eat better so you s