Is there one thing about your body that makes you feel really self conscious? How does it affect your life? Do you think changing it would make it easier for you to fit in?
I'm doing research for my dissertation so detailed answers would be great. xWould you like to have cosmetic surgery? What would you change about yourself?
i had breast implants 2 years ago,it was the best thing i ever done.i was an a cup and went up to a c cup.i was really conscious about them and then i went out clubbing one nite and some horrible fella started to tell me how small my boobs were,this really really upset me and i made an appointment with a plastic surgeon and had my surgery 3 weeks later.i wish i could bump into that fella now i would stick them in his face lolWould you like to have cosmetic surgery? What would you change about yourself?
no thankyou, i'll stay as i am.
Not for me personally but I have no problems for other people to do so if it gives them confidence and a better way of living.
I get my teeth whitened if that helps :)
Make my penis 12';. I'd do it myself but be painful chopping off six inches without any anasthetic.
Well... I have an appointment in Jan for a consulatation for breast augmentation. I am not self conscious but I know I would look alot better if I had bigger breasts... I am currently a A cup and wanted to go to a small C.
Also, I would get lipo on my upper thights and upper arms.
These things dont really affects my life... and I fit in just fine as I am. I am just my own worst critic and if changing something can make you look better then why not.
im not so fond of my nose.
its a little wide
and i think id be prettier with a smaller nose.
but im not gunna get surgery for it.
its not that extreme where i hate it and cant bare to look at myself.
besides, my mom says that so many people are getting plastic surgery that its hard to tell their background and what nationality they are
I think plastic surgery would improve my life; however I think I would regret it one day.
I am 22 but I would like to have a boob reduction. I am a size 10/12 (uk) but my boobs are 32FF. it means I cant wear most clothes, can never find nice dresses, have to buy special bras, have trouble running, swimming and it makes me feel terrible about my self.
However I think I shall wait, till I have enough money to get it done with the best doctor I can find and till I am 100% sure... its not something I would want to go through twice.
wouldnt mind a bit of lipo on my legs and bum!
I did have cosmetic surgery 20 years ago and I've never looked back.
Id definetly get palstic surgery , on my breasts, and my body .
Id like larger **** and id want them to suck the fat out of my love handles and my cellulite thighs.
and when im older i plan on gettin botox and such
I think my nose is a little crooked. It would be nice to have that fixed, but definitely not worth the risks of surgery, as it has caused me no problems.
I would get the perfect smile or another nose shape.
Nah i wouldnt am happy the way i am newez u should be ur serf not listening to others. just be the way god created u
If money were no object, I would get nose done cos its too upturned, ears pinned back, breasts uplifted and enlarged, lipo on arms, tummy, legs, and I have a badly scarred belly button so i'd like a new one of those please santa. lol oh and i'd like a brace to sort my wonky tooth.
I sound like a great catch don't I?
But i know I can never afford this unless I win the lottery (which I don't play anyway)
It's not stuff that depresses me and I feel insecure about, it's just stuff that could do with a helping hand.
I don't think it would help me fit in better at all, cos i'm an outcast for other reasons anyway. lol
And if I got rid of all my excess baggage i'd get into loadsa debt cos i'd be buying new clothes all the time cos i'd have more to choose from.
no way i would never
Monday, November 22, 2010
Have you ever changed yourself to please someone else and they still don't appreciate you been how they?
wanted you to be?Have you ever changed yourself to please someone else and they still don't appreciate you been how they?
Definitely yes. Its a bad thing...Have you ever changed yourself to please someone else and they still don't appreciate you been how they?
I don't try to change others and sure will not change myself to please someone else.
yes :(
No. But sometimes I can't do right for doing wrong. I think that happens to everyone sometimes.help finding niche healthy hair
Definitely yes. Its a bad thing...Have you ever changed yourself to please someone else and they still don't appreciate you been how they?
I don't try to change others and sure will not change myself to please someone else.
yes :(
No. But sometimes I can't do right for doing wrong. I think that happens to everyone sometimes.
Girls, Have you ever changed yourself to get a guy???- be honest!
i did.....once, haha
the guy liked girls who wore short stuff,
so on the last day of school i wore sumthing short, and he noticed!!!
i know, i know, you shouldn't change urself for a guy, but sometimes i think you have to.
anyways, how about you? = ]Girls, Have you ever changed yourself to get a guy???- be honest!
I wouldn't say I changed myself for him, but being with him definitely influenced me in certain aspects of my life. I still have my own interests, he just added a couple more to the list. I like to call it my own little evolution. Change is part of growth, ya know?Girls, Have you ever changed yourself to get a guy???- be honest!
Lol, hm...
I can't remember a time. But I probably did :-D
I'll edit, if I remember.
xox- Julie
I changed my whole life around
i like it better now
we arent together anymore
but i have so many new friendships with great people
sometimes changing yourself isnt that bad :]
no i dont think so. i usually like guys who i have most in common with.
No. If i have to change for a guy, he isnt worth it. He has to like me for me.
Haha that's not changing yourself, just what you wore for one day. That's nothing bad =]. With one of my boyfriends things were really bad and my friend asked what happened to me and I didn't know what she meant so she started explaining how I was different and I realized that I no longer had any opinions on anything. He did all my thinking for me. After 9 months of that we ended it permanently and I didn't know what to do with myself. I wanted to die because I didn't think I could live without him. HA! I'm so glad that's over.
I hanen't if you need to change to get a guy to like you then he is probably not for you..x
Yesh
I turned emo %26amp;%26amp; im a prep
yepp.
i acted like a slut
changing how i talked and stuff
so everything was sexual.
i don't reccomend it.
Yes I have I went gothic / emo to get this guy to notice me and we went out for like 2 weeks then I had to get homeschooled and he moved to another state. Sad
I actually haven't changed to GET a guy, but I've changed myself to KEEP a guy. Like I thought he was going to break up with me, so I started acting like the girl I thought he was going to dump me for. Bad idea. He dumped me anyways, for being 'fake'. Guess that's how the cookie crumble. Cookies....mmmmm. Lol.
yes badly and i regret it i changed to wearing jeans and shirts to short skirts and tank tops for 1 guy and he didnt even like me
When I was little like 14, I wore a miniskirt to win my ex back and it worked haha.
No I haven't and I promise myself that I never will. To me and my point of view, it is not worth it to change yourself to impress a guy because it is better to be yourself so they can see right through you and who you really are and not what they want to see. If a guy is noticing you are changing yourself for him ,he might take advantage of you and think you are a suck-up. Don't take the risk.
the guy liked girls who wore short stuff,
so on the last day of school i wore sumthing short, and he noticed!!!
i know, i know, you shouldn't change urself for a guy, but sometimes i think you have to.
anyways, how about you? = ]Girls, Have you ever changed yourself to get a guy???- be honest!
I wouldn't say I changed myself for him, but being with him definitely influenced me in certain aspects of my life. I still have my own interests, he just added a couple more to the list. I like to call it my own little evolution. Change is part of growth, ya know?Girls, Have you ever changed yourself to get a guy???- be honest!
Lol, hm...
I can't remember a time. But I probably did :-D
I'll edit, if I remember.
xox- Julie
I changed my whole life around
i like it better now
we arent together anymore
but i have so many new friendships with great people
sometimes changing yourself isnt that bad :]
no i dont think so. i usually like guys who i have most in common with.
No. If i have to change for a guy, he isnt worth it. He has to like me for me.
Haha that's not changing yourself, just what you wore for one day. That's nothing bad =]. With one of my boyfriends things were really bad and my friend asked what happened to me and I didn't know what she meant so she started explaining how I was different and I realized that I no longer had any opinions on anything. He did all my thinking for me. After 9 months of that we ended it permanently and I didn't know what to do with myself. I wanted to die because I didn't think I could live without him. HA! I'm so glad that's over.
I hanen't if you need to change to get a guy to like you then he is probably not for you..x
Yesh
I turned emo %26amp;%26amp; im a prep
yepp.
i acted like a slut
changing how i talked and stuff
so everything was sexual.
i don't reccomend it.
Yes I have I went gothic / emo to get this guy to notice me and we went out for like 2 weeks then I had to get homeschooled and he moved to another state. Sad
I actually haven't changed to GET a guy, but I've changed myself to KEEP a guy. Like I thought he was going to break up with me, so I started acting like the girl I thought he was going to dump me for. Bad idea. He dumped me anyways, for being 'fake'. Guess that's how the cookie crumble. Cookies....mmmmm. Lol.
yes badly and i regret it i changed to wearing jeans and shirts to short skirts and tank tops for 1 guy and he didnt even like me
When I was little like 14, I wore a miniskirt to win my ex back and it worked haha.
No I haven't and I promise myself that I never will. To me and my point of view, it is not worth it to change yourself to impress a guy because it is better to be yourself so they can see right through you and who you really are and not what they want to see. If a guy is noticing you are changing yourself for him ,he might take advantage of you and think you are a suck-up. Don't take the risk.
Society and how people change for it?
Do you believe that ones persona sense of self-fullfillment is directly related to one's social status?
(for example, you change yourself with surgeores and stuff to reinforce your identity.)Society and how people change for it?
People are stupid. They do what they think they want and aren't satisfied. This is of course, because it's incredibly difficult to pin down what you want. Takes people decades to figure it out. Nobody really knows what they're doing, so no matter how high their social status, they're just as unsettled as the rest of the world. Society gets blamed for a lot, but we are society. We call the shots. Society and how people change for it?
yes i do. People tend to only feel good about themselves when they are accepted and that is a proven fact. You learn in all sociology clases that people who are not rich or cool think they would be soo happy if they were. I don't really think it would make anyone happy because once you got then theres nothing to want anymore. People will do anything to fit in!
people who do that are those who don't have self confidence of themselves. i believe that real beauty comes from within you.
(for example, you change yourself with surgeores and stuff to reinforce your identity.)Society and how people change for it?
People are stupid. They do what they think they want and aren't satisfied. This is of course, because it's incredibly difficult to pin down what you want. Takes people decades to figure it out. Nobody really knows what they're doing, so no matter how high their social status, they're just as unsettled as the rest of the world. Society gets blamed for a lot, but we are society. We call the shots. Society and how people change for it?
yes i do. People tend to only feel good about themselves when they are accepted and that is a proven fact. You learn in all sociology clases that people who are not rich or cool think they would be soo happy if they were. I don't really think it would make anyone happy because once you got then theres nothing to want anymore. People will do anything to fit in!
people who do that are those who don't have self confidence of themselves. i believe that real beauty comes from within you.
Change Everything About Yourself, Could you do it?
If you were able to change everything about yourself, do you think you could do it? Throw genetics out the door and just simply look in the mirror and change anything or everything about how you look, talk, your personality,how your hair looks, how tall, how skinny, eye color...ANYTHING! Could you really do it? We all have these pictures in our head about how we should look, but when we get asked this question, for some it's not so easy. Tell me what you would change about yourself.Change Everything About Yourself, Could you do it?
No, You wouldn't be yourself. It is like an act against nature.Change Everything About Yourself, Could you do it?
I did that. You could say that by doing that im not myself anymore, but in fact, I wasn't myself before. I was DUMB, i remember the state of mind when you just don't understand anything. I had no friends and no life... until i started understanding something. I changed my habit, appearance and even personality. The only thing that's still there is the way im really careless. Now i've found myself and im very well aware of everything around me. I have many friends and a life. :)
A big key to everything of this was a haircut :P I never had a picture of my head who i should be and how i am supposed to look. I used all the good qualities within myself. I'm short, and i live with it. even though sometimes i wish my chest wasn't this flat and iwas a bit taller, im happy to be me :)
if we did, i wouldnt change everything, because its what makes me who i am, but i would probably change little things like tanned skin, and as for personality, you can change things you dont like about your personality if you put your mind to it, and if you really want to become a better person.
-as a huge doctor who fan i cant help but think *REGENERATE!*
^__^
No, You wouldn't be yourself. It is like an act against nature.Change Everything About Yourself, Could you do it?
I did that. You could say that by doing that im not myself anymore, but in fact, I wasn't myself before. I was DUMB, i remember the state of mind when you just don't understand anything. I had no friends and no life... until i started understanding something. I changed my habit, appearance and even personality. The only thing that's still there is the way im really careless. Now i've found myself and im very well aware of everything around me. I have many friends and a life. :)
A big key to everything of this was a haircut :P I never had a picture of my head who i should be and how i am supposed to look. I used all the good qualities within myself. I'm short, and i live with it. even though sometimes i wish my chest wasn't this flat and iwas a bit taller, im happy to be me :)
if we did, i wouldnt change everything, because its what makes me who i am, but i would probably change little things like tanned skin, and as for personality, you can change things you dont like about your personality if you put your mind to it, and if you really want to become a better person.
-as a huge doctor who fan i cant help but think *REGENERATE!*
^__^
How do you change the world?
Only by changing yourself. You cannot change anyone. You cannot change someone's mind. You can present information but ultimately it is up to that OTHER person to change.
Why do I say this? As christians we are commanded to go spread the message and make disciples. We were not commanded to change people. We are commanded to change OURSELVES.
However, this principles applies to all people. Change the world, change yourself.
What do you think?How do you change the world?
Educate the world around you with the knowledge you gained but don't force or bribe them to accept it. If it is true the world will come to know one day and it'll changeHow do you change the world?
Thanks buddy
i pay taxes.
How do you change the world? Change yourself....I agree
I'm ignoring you.
I will write a book and make it a best selling book. And go into politic and do revolution.
i think thats true. in order to change the world, every person in the world has to be willing to change so the world can be a better place. the world would be completly changed if everyone would be able to change themselves.
In the Bible we see that only the Holy Spirit has the power to change people. He convinces the world of sin, righteousness, and judgment. He enlightens our minds and guides us into truth.
Our job is just to get the word out. The rest is up to Him.
I think you could make the world better by keeping your opinions to yourself.
You only isolate others with your preaching, which doesn't help mankind.
The only thing you have to do is be nice to another person, without judgment.
I agree with your statement, but you don't have to use ';religion'; to validate it.
Ever heard that song ';I don't want to set the world on fire---I just want to light a fire in your heart.';? If you want to change the world for the better, find somebody to love.
I think your delusional and not living in reality.
The world changes itself through a unstoppable sequence of events that once set into motion carry themselves out.
It's called entropy. Random decay and chance.
That was not a question, that was preaching.
I agree that for most situations where you are unhappy with the way the world works, it's better to adjust yourself rather than try to change everyone else. However, one can subscribe to that philosophy without invoking any mythologies, superstitions, or ancient legends.
the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world
I am raising my children to be intellect and faithful to Jesus, by being a good example of faith and love to Jesus and others
Change the world change yourself.....i like that.
Because the devil is a liar.....people will unfortunately continue to fall victim to his lies and deceptions.
That's why I think things will always be this way...until the coming of Christ of course.
God Bless you brother.
I agree. We can all change but we cant make others agree with us. but i think it says in the bible that when you hang out with someone you can rub off on them so maybe we can rub off on our friends! lol
Good Luck!
~love love love~
don't change the world. that could be a good change or a bad change, you never know.
instead, make a difference. wheather that be in just one person or in a huge way to many people.
but start with yourself.
I beg to differ , you can change the world by giving knowlede to someone who is lacking therefore you have changed them they in turn will make more educated decisions that could make a difference in their life and in their community
you can change someones mind by presenting facts depending on the situation. ultimately it is their choice but we all have choices
change starts within all of us christian or not I prefer to leave religion out of it all together
nothing has stifeled change more than religion.
I totally disagree and feel your view is overly self-centered. The Renewed Mind of a Christian can not ignore ';fighting the good fight';.
I look at ';some'; of the New Age Yoga types and all they do is work on themselves - it is so completely narcissistic and vain.
Whether one is a Christian or not, one changes the world by respecting those around them. This respect allows others to strive for greatness: changing this world to a better place.
If the Bible serves; we are given Teachers and Shepard's and Leaders, even Apostles and Evangelists -- all five are lifting up others and are not directed back on themselves.
Yes, the first step is your step - but no one has to walk alone.
Oh boy, this one I could really go crazy with but I'll try to stick to your actual question so I don't get into every little thing I believe about things or not because it'd take a day to read and a month to understand. :D
I am glad that you see that you weren't commanded to actual change people just to spread the message and give them their choice.
I believe changing yourself changes you not the world. However, I do believe that extraordinary people touch peoples lives. I also believe that some people really are connected by heartstrings.
(Not literally, don't get confused,I'm not insane :P)
I believe the way to change the world is to try.
Once again, the person before has inspired to me to write more. It is not vain. Truly, you can not change anyone but yourself. You could beat someone half to death, but it won't change his/her mind. Let alone the fact that it would be ridiculously cruel to try and force someone to believe as you do like that.
A little at a time.
think globally, act locally, boycott Walmart, conserve energy, recycle, plant trees.
It's a start.
Becoming a better person, by whatever means or inspiration or religious influence, actually does very little to change the world everyone else lives in.
great question and comment- I agree with you wholeheartedly. We are responsible for sharing Christ, but not responsible for making people come to Him- that is the Holy Spirit's job.
How do you change the world, was asked in the movie ';Evan, Almighty'; the answer- ';by doing random acts of kindness';. Maybe if we were to look at ourselves more, to see what needed changing and loved those around us more, maybe then people would come to know the love of Christ, that we talk about. Great point- thanks for bringing it up
I think we can change the world but it takes a lot of us working together. I saw that during Viet Nam. We stood up and said we weren't going to take it any more and it was FINALLY ended.
I want to accept all faiths and peoples on this planet, I truly do. If I could change one major thing it would be to eliminate all those ';holy books'; for the hate filled fiction they are.
I see the bible used as justification to spread hate every single day. I see terrorist murdering in the name of their quaran.
';Change the world, change yourself.';
It has to start with me but I am not capable of love either.
We have to try to change others, If it is not possible let us accept the condition %26amp; be an observer.
Why do I say this? As christians we are commanded to go spread the message and make disciples. We were not commanded to change people. We are commanded to change OURSELVES.
However, this principles applies to all people. Change the world, change yourself.
What do you think?How do you change the world?
Educate the world around you with the knowledge you gained but don't force or bribe them to accept it. If it is true the world will come to know one day and it'll changeHow do you change the world?
Thanks buddy
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i pay taxes.
How do you change the world? Change yourself....I agree
I'm ignoring you.
I will write a book and make it a best selling book. And go into politic and do revolution.
i think thats true. in order to change the world, every person in the world has to be willing to change so the world can be a better place. the world would be completly changed if everyone would be able to change themselves.
In the Bible we see that only the Holy Spirit has the power to change people. He convinces the world of sin, righteousness, and judgment. He enlightens our minds and guides us into truth.
Our job is just to get the word out. The rest is up to Him.
I think you could make the world better by keeping your opinions to yourself.
You only isolate others with your preaching, which doesn't help mankind.
The only thing you have to do is be nice to another person, without judgment.
I agree with your statement, but you don't have to use ';religion'; to validate it.
Ever heard that song ';I don't want to set the world on fire---I just want to light a fire in your heart.';? If you want to change the world for the better, find somebody to love.
I think your delusional and not living in reality.
The world changes itself through a unstoppable sequence of events that once set into motion carry themselves out.
It's called entropy. Random decay and chance.
That was not a question, that was preaching.
I agree that for most situations where you are unhappy with the way the world works, it's better to adjust yourself rather than try to change everyone else. However, one can subscribe to that philosophy without invoking any mythologies, superstitions, or ancient legends.
the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world
I am raising my children to be intellect and faithful to Jesus, by being a good example of faith and love to Jesus and others
Change the world change yourself.....i like that.
Because the devil is a liar.....people will unfortunately continue to fall victim to his lies and deceptions.
That's why I think things will always be this way...until the coming of Christ of course.
God Bless you brother.
I agree. We can all change but we cant make others agree with us. but i think it says in the bible that when you hang out with someone you can rub off on them so maybe we can rub off on our friends! lol
Good Luck!
~love love love~
don't change the world. that could be a good change or a bad change, you never know.
instead, make a difference. wheather that be in just one person or in a huge way to many people.
but start with yourself.
I beg to differ , you can change the world by giving knowlede to someone who is lacking therefore you have changed them they in turn will make more educated decisions that could make a difference in their life and in their community
you can change someones mind by presenting facts depending on the situation. ultimately it is their choice but we all have choices
change starts within all of us christian or not I prefer to leave religion out of it all together
nothing has stifeled change more than religion.
I totally disagree and feel your view is overly self-centered. The Renewed Mind of a Christian can not ignore ';fighting the good fight';.
I look at ';some'; of the New Age Yoga types and all they do is work on themselves - it is so completely narcissistic and vain.
Whether one is a Christian or not, one changes the world by respecting those around them. This respect allows others to strive for greatness: changing this world to a better place.
If the Bible serves; we are given Teachers and Shepard's and Leaders, even Apostles and Evangelists -- all five are lifting up others and are not directed back on themselves.
Yes, the first step is your step - but no one has to walk alone.
Oh boy, this one I could really go crazy with but I'll try to stick to your actual question so I don't get into every little thing I believe about things or not because it'd take a day to read and a month to understand. :D
I am glad that you see that you weren't commanded to actual change people just to spread the message and give them their choice.
I believe changing yourself changes you not the world. However, I do believe that extraordinary people touch peoples lives. I also believe that some people really are connected by heartstrings.
(Not literally, don't get confused,I'm not insane :P)
I believe the way to change the world is to try.
Once again, the person before has inspired to me to write more. It is not vain. Truly, you can not change anyone but yourself. You could beat someone half to death, but it won't change his/her mind. Let alone the fact that it would be ridiculously cruel to try and force someone to believe as you do like that.
A little at a time.
think globally, act locally, boycott Walmart, conserve energy, recycle, plant trees.
It's a start.
Becoming a better person, by whatever means or inspiration or religious influence, actually does very little to change the world everyone else lives in.
great question and comment- I agree with you wholeheartedly. We are responsible for sharing Christ, but not responsible for making people come to Him- that is the Holy Spirit's job.
How do you change the world, was asked in the movie ';Evan, Almighty'; the answer- ';by doing random acts of kindness';. Maybe if we were to look at ourselves more, to see what needed changing and loved those around us more, maybe then people would come to know the love of Christ, that we talk about. Great point- thanks for bringing it up
I think we can change the world but it takes a lot of us working together. I saw that during Viet Nam. We stood up and said we weren't going to take it any more and it was FINALLY ended.
I want to accept all faiths and peoples on this planet, I truly do. If I could change one major thing it would be to eliminate all those ';holy books'; for the hate filled fiction they are.
I see the bible used as justification to spread hate every single day. I see terrorist murdering in the name of their quaran.
';Change the world, change yourself.';
It has to start with me but I am not capable of love either.
We have to try to change others, If it is not possible let us accept the condition %26amp; be an observer.
How do you draw the line between changing yourself for someone, and correcting behaviors that lead to conflict
I am a firm believer that you should never try to change someone that you are in a relationship with. My girlfriend is too...but she has been getting her feelings hurt by my joking behavior lately...and that's normal behavior for me..just who I am. The problem is, I love her...and I hate to think that I hurt her in anyway...so I feel compelled to joke less. So now as I am trying to make an effort to joke less, and generally just be more considerate of her feelings...I feel like I am not being myself. It bothers me because she and I have always been able to have fun with each other...but its like in the middle of the fun something will just strike a chord in her.
What am I missing? What should I do? Am I doing the right thing by trying to be different...or should I just continue to be myself and hope that she adapts?How do you draw the line between changing yourself for someone, and correcting behaviors that lead to conflict
There is a difference between offending or hurting someone and them finding or choosing to be offended or hurt.
If there is conflict concerning the manner in which someone reacts towards you, then you need to determine how much of that conflict is due to your own actions and how much is due to the manner in which they react. Then find some balance in the way you behave to offset any valid reactions to your behaviour they might have. If they are over-reacting to your behaviour, then they too need to find a balance.How do you draw the line between changing yourself for someone, and correcting behaviors that lead to conflict
we all put on a '; air ';while dating, but we are who we are in the end and true colors surface sooner or later, hopefully we dont marry them in the meantime,
woman dont appreciate a mans sense of humor, read the book men are from mars and woman are from venus it gives some insight into womans thinking,
Find a new girlfriend that isn't so uptight.
some people don't like people that joke around all the time its a time and place for everything okay. she knew that you joked around when you she became apart of you and yes this is your personality perhaps you need to find someone who is compatible to you. Best of luck
Instead of joking about something negative about her, joke about other things so that it doesnt hurt her feelings. This is likely bringing her self esteem down, and could lead to larger problems. You are still being yourself if you stop making her the key to your jokes, use someone else instead. You are making her feel bad by doing this, how would you feel if she made fun of you over things and it hurt you as well? Just be careful of what you say and do, and make sure that it is nothing negative about her.
If she enjoyed your joking personality before, and is now suddenly more sensitive to it, there could be something going on with her. You know like hormones or something. Maybe she is depressed. She might want to see her doctor. It is very nice of you though to be sensitive to her feelings.
yes there is a difference and i think you are touching on it a bit but i guess the best way to be you and spare her feelings is to think about her threshold for insults because most jokes are exactly that. you know her pretty well right. so as long as you can make her laugh and still maintain her feelings then i think you wont feel like you are not being yourself so much. so you don't have to joke less, just joke smart.
I say I follow my priunciples first and foremost. They are not for sale, cannot be compromised, and if they are brought into question, they are off limits for changing. They are the core of who I am. Beyond that, I'd say I would change my behaviors if I could see it was hurting her. There is usually a compromise involved, though.
I don't think that you are hurting her feelings by joking. However the topic is what she is being upset about.
Think about it, is it really a joke or poking fun at someone
else expense. My husband likes to joke as well, I thought he
was very funny and that I guess is one of the many reasons I married him. I can tell you that when his jokes turn into insults I do not find him that funny. So, I can relate to your girl friend. No one is asking you to change but, one persons fun is an insult to another.
if you see that something is bothering her just try to think before you speak..u dont have to change for nobody but we all need lessons so that we can grow..this is how we grow....when people tell us about ourselfs.its not 2 hurt us..but to help us...we have 2 step back and examine ourselves and say hey you know what maybe if i improve this area then i can get a different result...remember this there is a time and a place for everyting...its a time to play, joke, be serious etc...learn these things and it will make you a better person. if u choose to stay the same then you might want to consider choosing a different mate
You need to ask her what is on her mind. Something else is probably going on in her life right now and so she is a little more on edge. She may want to talk to you about something but is having a hard time.....this would make her more ';sensitive'; to comments, jokes.
Talk to her and ask her what is going on in her life right now. Does she feel the same about you now?
You may have to break out the ';us'; conversation and see what is going on.
what is your jokin behavior? if you've been this way with her all along then she should be usto it by now,,,my hubby makes comments about other women,,and i tell him like this,,,u can look all u want ,,but dont comment bout them in front of me ,,is disrespectful,,would be like me sayin (while he is beside me) wow look at that package that guys carryin around ,,wonder if he deliver's ,,,which i would never do,,,but then i will usually say,,just make sure she takes the kids on the weekends,,,jokin back to him, its all in how comfortable you are in the relationship,,if she really knows u mean no harm than u shouldnt change to suit her,,
I had the same problem....
It sucks when you can't be sarcastic...or joke around without her feeling like you hurt her....
I mean unless your saying some real terrible ****, I think its a clash in personality....
give it some time...girls hormones really effect their moods and its not ther fault...they can be super sensitive...
hopefully it goes back to normal....so you'll just have to keep testing the waters....
unfortunatley sometimes you really don't get to know a person 100% until your waist deep in the relationship...
this one could go either way....
If her feelings are getting hurt by your jokes then change your jokes. If you change yourself to suit her then you have a new set of problems. Maybe she isn't sure of the relationship and needs to have a serious talk to feel reassured. Talking seriously about your relationship with her should relieve some of the pressure you're feeling to hold back. If your jokes are directed towards her in anyway, you may need to rethink your punchlines, before you say them.
Hey, you!! You said your girlfriend is completly aginst changing someone and you too. So I don't understand why you are doing it although you refused it. You love her and she loves you. May be you love her more than she does. So you make her feel good and happy. But you are getting depressed and uncomfortable with yourself. This should not happen not in a boyfriend girlfriend relationship. Aren't these nice little flaws the reason why you love her and she loves you. In mind you should keep on joking around and be just yourself! If she loves you, she needs to adapt your whole personality and not only the parts she likes. That you love her is obvious, you try to change for her, but think about it, is it that what she really expected from you to change. May be she likes getting mad about you, because you tease her?
some jokes just aren't funny. my boyfriend does the same thing. If the other person is not laughing then its not a joke, it's hurtful. Also, sometimes it just has to be the right time and mood to say certain things. Like my boyfriend can say something one day, and im soo into it, but on another a occasion, it may hurt my feelings. Let her now that they're just jokes and that they are coming from a place of love, not hate. Try to sense whether she is even in the mood to joke around or not...good luck
Relax! I understand your point totally now. Is it to change or not to change all under the umbrella of ';Love';.
Well, take your breath and let me tell you that by posting this question here is a sign of ';change'; in yourself even if it was involuntary. You mean by a way or another to keep your personality at same time holding back your ruling self to a kind of refined tame. Love is a change in itself ... can you count that changing not to hurt her feelings is a good change keeping you both with one another ... I guess you mentioned ';I love her';, isn't it a change in your physical and mental attitudes towards her and I guess its happening to her too? Can't you understand that she is changing too the way you ';joke less'; in other ways suiting your character?! May be you cant realize that coz she is exerting an effort to keep your love ...
Love demands a subtle change ... to keep each other, no matter the cost might be.
I am willing to change if love was the reward.
Try it ...
Experience is my sweet bitter tutor.
I don't think a relationship is about who has to change. A relationship is about loving someone enough to consider their feelings in any given situation.
What are the jokes about? Her? Other women? If you are making jokes about her or remarks about other women, I would have to say.......grow up!!! No woman wants to be joked about or laughed at by anyone, especially the person they love. No woman wants to hear jestures or comments coming from their boyfriend about another woman. That is just flat out rude and disrespectful. Sure you can look at the menu, but that doesn't mean you have to drool over it or act like a dog in heat. This behavior only causes issues with trust and builds resentment.
My suggestion is for you to put yourself in your girlfriend's shoes. Pretend she was ';joking'; around with you like you do her. How would you feel? Putting yourself in someone else's shoes is usually the best way to clarify the problem.
Jokes are great and everyone loves to laugh, but when the joking becomes personal in some way...';the joke is over';.
I have no idea what your situation is, but I have reason to believe that if your girlfriend feels offended by your joking behavior it is effecting her self-esteem or causing her to feel unloved and insecure.
Set down and talk. There is no greater bridge than communication. Find out how she feels. Tell her how you feel and find out what her anxiety is stemming from. If you truly love each other as you say you do, there shouldn't be anything you can't work out together. Good luck!!!How do i wash a white velvet duvet cover how to cook lobster in butter
What am I missing? What should I do? Am I doing the right thing by trying to be different...or should I just continue to be myself and hope that she adapts?How do you draw the line between changing yourself for someone, and correcting behaviors that lead to conflict
There is a difference between offending or hurting someone and them finding or choosing to be offended or hurt.
If there is conflict concerning the manner in which someone reacts towards you, then you need to determine how much of that conflict is due to your own actions and how much is due to the manner in which they react. Then find some balance in the way you behave to offset any valid reactions to your behaviour they might have. If they are over-reacting to your behaviour, then they too need to find a balance.How do you draw the line between changing yourself for someone, and correcting behaviors that lead to conflict
we all put on a '; air ';while dating, but we are who we are in the end and true colors surface sooner or later, hopefully we dont marry them in the meantime,
woman dont appreciate a mans sense of humor, read the book men are from mars and woman are from venus it gives some insight into womans thinking,
Find a new girlfriend that isn't so uptight.
some people don't like people that joke around all the time its a time and place for everything okay. she knew that you joked around when you she became apart of you and yes this is your personality perhaps you need to find someone who is compatible to you. Best of luck
Instead of joking about something negative about her, joke about other things so that it doesnt hurt her feelings. This is likely bringing her self esteem down, and could lead to larger problems. You are still being yourself if you stop making her the key to your jokes, use someone else instead. You are making her feel bad by doing this, how would you feel if she made fun of you over things and it hurt you as well? Just be careful of what you say and do, and make sure that it is nothing negative about her.
If she enjoyed your joking personality before, and is now suddenly more sensitive to it, there could be something going on with her. You know like hormones or something. Maybe she is depressed. She might want to see her doctor. It is very nice of you though to be sensitive to her feelings.
yes there is a difference and i think you are touching on it a bit but i guess the best way to be you and spare her feelings is to think about her threshold for insults because most jokes are exactly that. you know her pretty well right. so as long as you can make her laugh and still maintain her feelings then i think you wont feel like you are not being yourself so much. so you don't have to joke less, just joke smart.
I say I follow my priunciples first and foremost. They are not for sale, cannot be compromised, and if they are brought into question, they are off limits for changing. They are the core of who I am. Beyond that, I'd say I would change my behaviors if I could see it was hurting her. There is usually a compromise involved, though.
I don't think that you are hurting her feelings by joking. However the topic is what she is being upset about.
Think about it, is it really a joke or poking fun at someone
else expense. My husband likes to joke as well, I thought he
was very funny and that I guess is one of the many reasons I married him. I can tell you that when his jokes turn into insults I do not find him that funny. So, I can relate to your girl friend. No one is asking you to change but, one persons fun is an insult to another.
if you see that something is bothering her just try to think before you speak..u dont have to change for nobody but we all need lessons so that we can grow..this is how we grow....when people tell us about ourselfs.its not 2 hurt us..but to help us...we have 2 step back and examine ourselves and say hey you know what maybe if i improve this area then i can get a different result...remember this there is a time and a place for everyting...its a time to play, joke, be serious etc...learn these things and it will make you a better person. if u choose to stay the same then you might want to consider choosing a different mate
You need to ask her what is on her mind. Something else is probably going on in her life right now and so she is a little more on edge. She may want to talk to you about something but is having a hard time.....this would make her more ';sensitive'; to comments, jokes.
Talk to her and ask her what is going on in her life right now. Does she feel the same about you now?
You may have to break out the ';us'; conversation and see what is going on.
what is your jokin behavior? if you've been this way with her all along then she should be usto it by now,,,my hubby makes comments about other women,,and i tell him like this,,,u can look all u want ,,but dont comment bout them in front of me ,,is disrespectful,,would be like me sayin (while he is beside me) wow look at that package that guys carryin around ,,wonder if he deliver's ,,,which i would never do,,,but then i will usually say,,just make sure she takes the kids on the weekends,,,jokin back to him, its all in how comfortable you are in the relationship,,if she really knows u mean no harm than u shouldnt change to suit her,,
I had the same problem....
It sucks when you can't be sarcastic...or joke around without her feeling like you hurt her....
I mean unless your saying some real terrible ****, I think its a clash in personality....
give it some time...girls hormones really effect their moods and its not ther fault...they can be super sensitive...
hopefully it goes back to normal....so you'll just have to keep testing the waters....
unfortunatley sometimes you really don't get to know a person 100% until your waist deep in the relationship...
this one could go either way....
If her feelings are getting hurt by your jokes then change your jokes. If you change yourself to suit her then you have a new set of problems. Maybe she isn't sure of the relationship and needs to have a serious talk to feel reassured. Talking seriously about your relationship with her should relieve some of the pressure you're feeling to hold back. If your jokes are directed towards her in anyway, you may need to rethink your punchlines, before you say them.
Hey, you!! You said your girlfriend is completly aginst changing someone and you too. So I don't understand why you are doing it although you refused it. You love her and she loves you. May be you love her more than she does. So you make her feel good and happy. But you are getting depressed and uncomfortable with yourself. This should not happen not in a boyfriend girlfriend relationship. Aren't these nice little flaws the reason why you love her and she loves you. In mind you should keep on joking around and be just yourself! If she loves you, she needs to adapt your whole personality and not only the parts she likes. That you love her is obvious, you try to change for her, but think about it, is it that what she really expected from you to change. May be she likes getting mad about you, because you tease her?
some jokes just aren't funny. my boyfriend does the same thing. If the other person is not laughing then its not a joke, it's hurtful. Also, sometimes it just has to be the right time and mood to say certain things. Like my boyfriend can say something one day, and im soo into it, but on another a occasion, it may hurt my feelings. Let her now that they're just jokes and that they are coming from a place of love, not hate. Try to sense whether she is even in the mood to joke around or not...good luck
Relax! I understand your point totally now. Is it to change or not to change all under the umbrella of ';Love';.
Well, take your breath and let me tell you that by posting this question here is a sign of ';change'; in yourself even if it was involuntary. You mean by a way or another to keep your personality at same time holding back your ruling self to a kind of refined tame. Love is a change in itself ... can you count that changing not to hurt her feelings is a good change keeping you both with one another ... I guess you mentioned ';I love her';, isn't it a change in your physical and mental attitudes towards her and I guess its happening to her too? Can't you understand that she is changing too the way you ';joke less'; in other ways suiting your character?! May be you cant realize that coz she is exerting an effort to keep your love ...
Love demands a subtle change ... to keep each other, no matter the cost might be.
I am willing to change if love was the reward.
Try it ...
Experience is my sweet bitter tutor.
I don't think a relationship is about who has to change. A relationship is about loving someone enough to consider their feelings in any given situation.
What are the jokes about? Her? Other women? If you are making jokes about her or remarks about other women, I would have to say.......grow up!!! No woman wants to be joked about or laughed at by anyone, especially the person they love. No woman wants to hear jestures or comments coming from their boyfriend about another woman. That is just flat out rude and disrespectful. Sure you can look at the menu, but that doesn't mean you have to drool over it or act like a dog in heat. This behavior only causes issues with trust and builds resentment.
My suggestion is for you to put yourself in your girlfriend's shoes. Pretend she was ';joking'; around with you like you do her. How would you feel? Putting yourself in someone else's shoes is usually the best way to clarify the problem.
Jokes are great and everyone loves to laugh, but when the joking becomes personal in some way...';the joke is over';.
I have no idea what your situation is, but I have reason to believe that if your girlfriend feels offended by your joking behavior it is effecting her self-esteem or causing her to feel unloved and insecure.
Set down and talk. There is no greater bridge than communication. Find out how she feels. Tell her how you feel and find out what her anxiety is stemming from. If you truly love each other as you say you do, there shouldn't be anything you can't work out together. Good luck!!!
What is one thing you would want to change about yourself?
It can be anything like looks, how smart you are, your personality, etc.What is one thing you would want to change about yourself?
My self-esteem.
The way my face looks, a little bit taller, a little bit skinner.
basically everything.What is one thing you would want to change about yourself?
nothing :)
nothing.
I wish I wasn't so stubborn. Sometimes I can be dogmatic too.
i wish that i wasnt so shy.
I wish I didn't get so angry. When I am in school or in a public place that is crowded and someone gets in my way or is in front of me and is walking so damn slow (that one may be my fault - I'm a speed walker), I literally want to punch them in their face.
NOTHING? The first two people say NOTHING? Dude, I don't know where to start...
I guess if I had to change one thing about myself, I'd be more at ease talking to people. Less socially awkward.
I wish I could change my cup size. Which is why when I'm 18 im totally getting a boob job.
My sensitive skin, my cheeks, my teeth, my hair, and a bit taller would help. And not so awkward.
Haha, I know it's not one.
:]
wieght
Where to even start...I would probably make myself stronger. Not physically, but emotionally.
My hips and my temper
and i get attached to people too easily
My nose.
the end.
I wish I wasn't so shy. That is the only thing I want to change. But thankfully I sort of can. I feel so much more confident when I wear heels. And then even more confident when I get dressed up. So when ever I need to be a little less shy I wear heels. Although that doesn't always work.
my anger issues -.-
My self-esteem.
The way my face looks, a little bit taller, a little bit skinner.
basically everything.What is one thing you would want to change about yourself?
nothing :)
nothing.
I wish I wasn't so stubborn. Sometimes I can be dogmatic too.
i wish that i wasnt so shy.
I wish I didn't get so angry. When I am in school or in a public place that is crowded and someone gets in my way or is in front of me and is walking so damn slow (that one may be my fault - I'm a speed walker), I literally want to punch them in their face.
NOTHING? The first two people say NOTHING? Dude, I don't know where to start...
I guess if I had to change one thing about myself, I'd be more at ease talking to people. Less socially awkward.
I wish I could change my cup size. Which is why when I'm 18 im totally getting a boob job.
My sensitive skin, my cheeks, my teeth, my hair, and a bit taller would help. And not so awkward.
Haha, I know it's not one.
:]
wieght
Where to even start...I would probably make myself stronger. Not physically, but emotionally.
My hips and my temper
and i get attached to people too easily
My nose.
the end.
I wish I wasn't so shy. That is the only thing I want to change. But thankfully I sort of can. I feel so much more confident when I wear heels. And then even more confident when I get dressed up. So when ever I need to be a little less shy I wear heels. Although that doesn't always work.
my anger issues -.-
If you could start over somewhere new...how would you change?
so if you got the opportunity to go somewhere completely new and be whatever person you wanted...how would you change yourself?
it seems like when people know you its hard to change. so if you got this opportunity who would you become and why?If you could start over somewhere new...how would you change?
I would ... wish I'd been nicer when I was younger, especially to my family. I would go back and be more hard-working, and I would want to become a doctor. I would be more religious. I would learn how to talk to people and make friends. I would have stopped being so lazy. But mostly, I would have been nicer. A lot nicer.If you could start over somewhere new...how would you change?
Well, I wouldn't have 5 kids, I guarantee you that!
I'm kind of happy with who I am, to be honest. I just wish I had more time to do things.
it seems like when people know you its hard to change. so if you got this opportunity who would you become and why?If you could start over somewhere new...how would you change?
I would ... wish I'd been nicer when I was younger, especially to my family. I would go back and be more hard-working, and I would want to become a doctor. I would be more religious. I would learn how to talk to people and make friends. I would have stopped being so lazy. But mostly, I would have been nicer. A lot nicer.If you could start over somewhere new...how would you change?
Well, I wouldn't have 5 kids, I guarantee you that!
I'm kind of happy with who I am, to be honest. I just wish I had more time to do things.
How to coordinate yourself if you feel disappointed with your surroundings
i know when you can't change your environment,change yourself.
but maybe ';yourself'; is the hardest thing to change.
so let's change a word. coordinate.
how to coordinate yourself
any tips from you will be helpfulHow to coordinate yourself if you feel disappointed with your surroundings
i guess you just need to accept what is going on around you and what surrounds you.
you may also try different activities by yourself, such as learning new things, reading, or whatever it is that you like to do so that you can cope with that part of your life you don't really like.
but maybe ';yourself'; is the hardest thing to change.
so let's change a word. coordinate.
how to coordinate yourself
any tips from you will be helpfulHow to coordinate yourself if you feel disappointed with your surroundings
i guess you just need to accept what is going on around you and what surrounds you.
you may also try different activities by yourself, such as learning new things, reading, or whatever it is that you like to do so that you can cope with that part of your life you don't really like.
How do you do it yourself change, 1989 cadillac eldorado motor mount?
if can direct me to illustrated do it yourself-ferHow do you do it yourself change, 1989 cadillac eldorado motor mount?
Motor mounts are actually really easy, they are pretty much just a big bushing with a bolt running through it, all you have to do is jack up the car and put it on jack stands, than jack up the engine a little bit with a 1/2 inch thick piece of wood under the transmission, than unbolt the old mount and bolt on the new mount, than lower the engine, and lower the vehicle.
as for finding an illustration online, good luck, best thing i ever found was http://www.chiltononline.com, you have to pay like $30 to be a member, but if you work on cars alot its worth it... other than that, just buy a chilton or haynes book at your local auto parts store for about $15.How do you do it yourself change, 1989 cadillac eldorado motor mount?
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Go to your local auto parts store and buy a Haynes manual, they are only about $20 and have detailed illustrated instructions on anything you can imagine. Good luck!
Motor mounts are actually really easy, they are pretty much just a big bushing with a bolt running through it, all you have to do is jack up the car and put it on jack stands, than jack up the engine a little bit with a 1/2 inch thick piece of wood under the transmission, than unbolt the old mount and bolt on the new mount, than lower the engine, and lower the vehicle.
as for finding an illustration online, good luck, best thing i ever found was http://www.chiltononline.com, you have to pay like $30 to be a member, but if you work on cars alot its worth it... other than that, just buy a chilton or haynes book at your local auto parts store for about $15.How do you do it yourself change, 1989 cadillac eldorado motor mount?
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THANKS A LOT !
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Go to your local auto parts store and buy a Haynes manual, they are only about $20 and have detailed illustrated instructions on anything you can imagine. Good luck!
How are or did you reinvent yourself for highschool? do you regret changing yourself?
i am trying to figure out if i should be myself or be myself while not being myself. what would you do? also answer the first question.. thankyou!!How are or did you reinvent yourself for highschool? do you regret changing yourself?
Yeah and I'm glad I did, I started to hang out with the smart kids instead of soccer players. Now the soccer players smoke pot, I kind of wanted to try it once, but they are basically addictedHow are or did you reinvent yourself for highschool? do you regret changing yourself?
Well In like 7th grade i had a fat face, but then i got REALLY tall and it evened out alot, and i straigtened my hair, and I wear mascara and eyeshadow and I went from wearing like elbow length t-shirts to regular girl t-shirts, and i wear jeans now.
If you dont already wear makeup just try a little but dont overdue it. And if your hair is curly/frizzy straigten it! it works wonders.
I figure, it's my life I am who I want to be, being myself is about being who I want to be, and if I want to change into something else, I am still being myself. I don't think it's not possible to be yourself unless you are telling lies about the things you like (saying you like Blue when you really like Red, lame example), but that means yourself is fake.
I'm not in highschool yet, but I will be next year. The only thing I am changing is some of my wardrobe I no longer like... I wear more make up now then I did, but I don't consider this not being myself I just consider it changing myself because I want too.how to value cat
Yeah and I'm glad I did, I started to hang out with the smart kids instead of soccer players. Now the soccer players smoke pot, I kind of wanted to try it once, but they are basically addictedHow are or did you reinvent yourself for highschool? do you regret changing yourself?
Well In like 7th grade i had a fat face, but then i got REALLY tall and it evened out alot, and i straigtened my hair, and I wear mascara and eyeshadow and I went from wearing like elbow length t-shirts to regular girl t-shirts, and i wear jeans now.
If you dont already wear makeup just try a little but dont overdue it. And if your hair is curly/frizzy straigten it! it works wonders.
I figure, it's my life I am who I want to be, being myself is about being who I want to be, and if I want to change into something else, I am still being myself. I don't think it's not possible to be yourself unless you are telling lies about the things you like (saying you like Blue when you really like Red, lame example), but that means yourself is fake.
I'm not in highschool yet, but I will be next year. The only thing I am changing is some of my wardrobe I no longer like... I wear more make up now then I did, but I don't consider this not being myself I just consider it changing myself because I want too.
How do you unban yourself/change your ip?
I've tried ipconfig and all that. even restarted my arris modem. Nothing works and I really need to get back onto the chatbox because I'm the mod.
If you need to seen what I'm trying to get back onto its at prowrestlingscoops.comHow do you unban yourself/change your ip?
I know Linksys routers such as the WRT54G model will let you do a ';Mac Address Clone';. That is, emulate the physical address on your router to query your cable modem to receive a new IP address from your Internet Provider. You'll want to find any Mac Address -- use your computers if you will. Then restart the modem. This has worked for me in the past using an Arris modem.How do you unban yourself/change your ip?
You can change ur ip but cant break the mac binding,if you do it,in the next step u ill loose ur internet connection.
If you need to seen what I'm trying to get back onto its at prowrestlingscoops.comHow do you unban yourself/change your ip?
I know Linksys routers such as the WRT54G model will let you do a ';Mac Address Clone';. That is, emulate the physical address on your router to query your cable modem to receive a new IP address from your Internet Provider. You'll want to find any Mac Address -- use your computers if you will. Then restart the modem. This has worked for me in the past using an Arris modem.How do you unban yourself/change your ip?
You can change ur ip but cant break the mac binding,if you do it,in the next step u ill loose ur internet connection.
How much have you (actively) changed yourself...?
It's said that one's personality is that set of traits fairly stable. Most of all systems of personal/spiritual development promote the evolution of the person towards a more perfect stage.
What have you been/are you able to change in yourself?How much have you (actively) changed yourself...?
I have changed myself.
I think we have to evolve and grow.
I have a long way to go but I am trying.How much have you (actively) changed yourself...?
well, I'm a recovering alcoholic and addict, a decade of clean time. The irony is that I have actively changed myself, but have done so by seeking help and direction from others(when it became clear that I really was powerless).
It is clear to me that my life is totally different than what is would have been. In fact, without recovery, I feel certain that I wouldn't even BE alive...
I've become more tolerant with everyone and everything sacrificing what were my steady beliefs in Christianity.
Where to begin.
I have found self confidence, empowerment, wisdom, joy, even faith it's self. ...I had lost faith in God and with the change in religions and believes I have now a stronger connection to God.
I actively brought myself out of a deep depression %26amp; worked on the issues that got me there in the first place.
I discovered that I have ADD %26amp; worked on ways to work around it.
All of this in the span of two years. I feel so much more confident %26amp; adult.
What have you been/are you able to change in yourself?How much have you (actively) changed yourself...?
I have changed myself.
I think we have to evolve and grow.
I have a long way to go but I am trying.How much have you (actively) changed yourself...?
well, I'm a recovering alcoholic and addict, a decade of clean time. The irony is that I have actively changed myself, but have done so by seeking help and direction from others(when it became clear that I really was powerless).
It is clear to me that my life is totally different than what is would have been. In fact, without recovery, I feel certain that I wouldn't even BE alive...
I've become more tolerant with everyone and everything sacrificing what were my steady beliefs in Christianity.
Where to begin.
I have found self confidence, empowerment, wisdom, joy, even faith it's self. ...I had lost faith in God and with the change in religions and believes I have now a stronger connection to God.
I actively brought myself out of a deep depression %26amp; worked on the issues that got me there in the first place.
I discovered that I have ADD %26amp; worked on ways to work around it.
All of this in the span of two years. I feel so much more confident %26amp; adult.
If you could change anything about yourself what would it be?
If there was one thing you could change about yourself what would it be?
I would learn how to chnage the way I think.If you could change anything about yourself what would it be?
I would quit smoking, quit drinking, and find religion. After that, everything else would change for the better.
I would learn how to chnage the way I think.If you could change anything about yourself what would it be?
I would quit smoking, quit drinking, and find religion. After that, everything else would change for the better.
What do you wish you could change about yourself?
im writing a poem for school about how so many people are never satisfied with the way they look, what are some of your insecurities and ways that you cover them up/ try to change them? thanks so much, I really appreciate it!What do you wish you could change about yourself?
Nothing. If I feel there is something 'wrong,' I fix it. I'm happy with who/what I am, I accept myself as I am (height, hair color, blah, blah, blah). There are things outside of myself I would change, but I'm fine, just as I am.What do you wish you could change about yourself?
my tendency to worry incessantly. i try not to let this show in public. i act confident about my life and decisions around people, but inside i'm screaming as i vascillate back and forth between telling myself that i'm on the right course and saying that i'm always making mistakes.
I wish I didn't look like a little boy. I'm almost thirty, and I still look like a high-school skater boy. Makes it hard for people to take you seriously, sometimes.
My tallness i wish i was a bit shorter
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I think its being really hairy as a guy and i shave cause i can't stand it but also my height because i wish i was taller
my height; my nose, well my entire head; the hair on the crack of my ***
Nothing. If I feel there is something 'wrong,' I fix it. I'm happy with who/what I am, I accept myself as I am (height, hair color, blah, blah, blah). There are things outside of myself I would change, but I'm fine, just as I am.What do you wish you could change about yourself?
my tendency to worry incessantly. i try not to let this show in public. i act confident about my life and decisions around people, but inside i'm screaming as i vascillate back and forth between telling myself that i'm on the right course and saying that i'm always making mistakes.
I wish I didn't look like a little boy. I'm almost thirty, and I still look like a high-school skater boy. Makes it hard for people to take you seriously, sometimes.
My tallness i wish i was a bit shorter
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I think its being really hairy as a guy and i shave cause i can't stand it but also my height because i wish i was taller
my height; my nose, well my entire head; the hair on the crack of my ***
Have you ever changed yourself for somebody?
In a good way or a bad way?
And how did it turn out?
I will never. There's been PLENTY of times I've wanted to, but no way, I'm me and that's what you're gonna get! What about you?Have you ever changed yourself for somebody?
No. I really wanted to this past year for someone, and I came REALLY close to doing it, but then I realized what's the point in that when I can find someone who likes me for who I really am.Have you ever changed yourself for somebody?
I can't say that I have. I've played up certain characteristics (that I already have) the he likes but I've never (and will never) change who I am for anyone but me. If my significant other can't love me for who I am then then he doesn't really love me, does he?
No i wanted to but them i said why the hell should i do that I'm not going to change they way i am for someone else they either like me or notcat stop oil leak in car
And how did it turn out?
I will never. There's been PLENTY of times I've wanted to, but no way, I'm me and that's what you're gonna get! What about you?Have you ever changed yourself for somebody?
No. I really wanted to this past year for someone, and I came REALLY close to doing it, but then I realized what's the point in that when I can find someone who likes me for who I really am.Have you ever changed yourself for somebody?
I can't say that I have. I've played up certain characteristics (that I already have) the he likes but I've never (and will never) change who I am for anyone but me. If my significant other can't love me for who I am then then he doesn't really love me, does he?
No i wanted to but them i said why the hell should i do that I'm not going to change they way i am for someone else they either like me or not
How do you change when you...?
How do you change when you rarely interact with the people you need to change for? Why do you change for them, or are you just changing yourself to be able to absorb and endure that person so you don't get hurt?
Is this change just temporary until you don't have to deal with that person/those people anymore?
Is it worth it to change yourself when you know they will never change themselves and the general opinion is that you're the only one in need of change?
How do you show people that you've changed when you're only different away from them?How do you change when you...?
Be yourself only
Is this change just temporary until you don't have to deal with that person/those people anymore?
Is it worth it to change yourself when you know they will never change themselves and the general opinion is that you're the only one in need of change?
How do you show people that you've changed when you're only different away from them?How do you change when you...?
Be yourself only
Has anyone out there tried to change their personality? did it work?
I want to change mine to become a better person.
because I dont like the way I am so negative and agitated, I would like a complete turnaround for myself. I want to act happier and more carefree instead of angry and high strung. Have any of you changed yourself in a big way? How did others react to the new you?Has anyone out there tried to change their personality? did it work?
Habit is the main influence on us. If you want to change then you should change your routine. Tell yourself positive things and get in the habit of doing things the way you would like to see yourself doing them.
Sometimes you also need a vacation to get your mind off of the grind so that's not the only thing you see in life.Has anyone out there tried to change their personality? did it work?
Get some therapy to find out why you get angry so easily. Use creative visualization to become the person you want to be and to get what you want from life.
You will never be happy if you try to change your personality. If you're negative and agitated, try changing your surroundings. Don't be like other sheeple.
That is a beautiful thing for any personality to want. You already are that way and it is not a matter of changing as much as it is a matter of opening up that part of you that is that way. You will find that all the material is already there. It is just a matter of you giving yourself permission to do so. When you succeed you will find that the change was actually more of an addition that enhanced the other in a way that will be satisfactory to you as a personality.
Yeah, I tried to act happy all the time and alot of mean people were on my back about that. I still try to to do the really nice thing yet then people try to take advantage of that, so I just get really mean and stingy, let em rot right along with me. Still I keep trying to come back with that from time to time, like from when I was 12, but it makes me vulnerable to bad feelings so I take breaks.
Lots of people make big changes in their lives and have it reflect on how negative they are percieved to be. Working with a counselor to solve what has made you so negative and agitated will help a whole lot.
People react to positive changes in others positively, they feel great now, too.
Yes, gradually. I am shy so I impersonated people whose qualities I admire - like confident and charming - imagining what they would do and how they would react in a given situation. Eventually I have instilled such values that they became natural.
yeah i was in that ship too but i crossed my sea. you see, its good to have a good personality but to make sure you don't get demotivated or startle others, take very small and simple steps..
changing you personality all of a sudden will make others think you stoned or something. and the way others look at you because of this will make you lose confidence in yourself..
use your negativity with humor at first so that it doesn't look bad and then use you remove the negativity and use the humor.
Humor has always worked for me because i had the problem of being too straightforward. tell everything straight to the face without realizin how much hurt they get..
all the best, and dont give up..
rome wasnt built in a day, but it was built eventually..
Change is good
It is possible to change your entire way of thinking not your personality. With a positive mind you become more patient %26amp; tolerant of everything. Ive changed entirely from what I used to be like. I learnt to clicker train dogs %26amp; learnt the art of positive reinforcement. I think different now %26amp; take my time in everything I do. I think this helps to keep me calm %26amp; not be highly strung like I used to be. It also brushes off on other members of my family %26amp; I have more power over them than before. I no longer do as I am told. I do as I am asked. I have the power to change the way I am spoken to. Try to study the art of positive thinking %26amp; you can not only change yourself, you can change others too.
because I dont like the way I am so negative and agitated, I would like a complete turnaround for myself. I want to act happier and more carefree instead of angry and high strung. Have any of you changed yourself in a big way? How did others react to the new you?Has anyone out there tried to change their personality? did it work?
Habit is the main influence on us. If you want to change then you should change your routine. Tell yourself positive things and get in the habit of doing things the way you would like to see yourself doing them.
Sometimes you also need a vacation to get your mind off of the grind so that's not the only thing you see in life.Has anyone out there tried to change their personality? did it work?
Get some therapy to find out why you get angry so easily. Use creative visualization to become the person you want to be and to get what you want from life.
You will never be happy if you try to change your personality. If you're negative and agitated, try changing your surroundings. Don't be like other sheeple.
That is a beautiful thing for any personality to want. You already are that way and it is not a matter of changing as much as it is a matter of opening up that part of you that is that way. You will find that all the material is already there. It is just a matter of you giving yourself permission to do so. When you succeed you will find that the change was actually more of an addition that enhanced the other in a way that will be satisfactory to you as a personality.
Yeah, I tried to act happy all the time and alot of mean people were on my back about that. I still try to to do the really nice thing yet then people try to take advantage of that, so I just get really mean and stingy, let em rot right along with me. Still I keep trying to come back with that from time to time, like from when I was 12, but it makes me vulnerable to bad feelings so I take breaks.
Lots of people make big changes in their lives and have it reflect on how negative they are percieved to be. Working with a counselor to solve what has made you so negative and agitated will help a whole lot.
People react to positive changes in others positively, they feel great now, too.
Yes, gradually. I am shy so I impersonated people whose qualities I admire - like confident and charming - imagining what they would do and how they would react in a given situation. Eventually I have instilled such values that they became natural.
yeah i was in that ship too but i crossed my sea. you see, its good to have a good personality but to make sure you don't get demotivated or startle others, take very small and simple steps..
changing you personality all of a sudden will make others think you stoned or something. and the way others look at you because of this will make you lose confidence in yourself..
use your negativity with humor at first so that it doesn't look bad and then use you remove the negativity and use the humor.
Humor has always worked for me because i had the problem of being too straightforward. tell everything straight to the face without realizin how much hurt they get..
all the best, and dont give up..
rome wasnt built in a day, but it was built eventually..
Change is good
It is possible to change your entire way of thinking not your personality. With a positive mind you become more patient %26amp; tolerant of everything. Ive changed entirely from what I used to be like. I learnt to clicker train dogs %26amp; learnt the art of positive reinforcement. I think different now %26amp; take my time in everything I do. I think this helps to keep me calm %26amp; not be highly strung like I used to be. It also brushes off on other members of my family %26amp; I have more power over them than before. I no longer do as I am told. I do as I am asked. I have the power to change the way I am spoken to. Try to study the art of positive thinking %26amp; you can not only change yourself, you can change others too.
Honestly, would you ever change the way you look for your bg/gf?
This goes out to both girls and guys - would you ever change yourself just to please your significant other?
If you would, how far would you go?
I'm really interested in knowing what some of you think. :)Honestly, would you ever change the way you look for your bg/gf?
If it is minor changes why not. Like hair color or losing a little weight, it all depends on what both sides are comfortable with. Everyone has to adjust a little to their partner and make compromises.Honestly, would you ever change the way you look for your bg/gf?
hmmm nope u are who u are never change for nobody cuz then u wont be happy with urself
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no
No, they should accept you how you are.
depends. i wouldnt be opposed to helpful suggestions on the way that i dressed from a girlfriend, but if she was completely trying to change everything i wore then no i wouldnt.
Well I might changes little things but not the whole way I am because first of all they met me the way I am that's the way they feel in love. So if i change I would be someone I'm not and I wouldn't be the same person they met and fell in love with. By changing I might change the way I dress one day or go out some where I normally won't but they would.
Normally, I would say no, but if I know I will enjoy being new, and that makes him happy then I would consider changing a little, i would anything to please him!
i think that theres only so much you can change about yourself before to gets too hard to maintain. i think i would put more effort in to impress a guy but thats probably it.
If I liked his idea I would. I wouldnt do something I wasnt comfortable with tho.
well if ur together in the 1st place than u should like eachother for who u r...no need to change
I think no matter what we change for a boy or girl we're with, even in the slightest. You adapt to eachother. That being said, I would think that a true love wouldn't ask you to change youreself. So I wouldn't change in any way besides the ways I felt I needed to. Do things for yourself, they should like you for who you are.
helll no!
they get with you cuz of how your are right? so they shouldnt try to change you for anything because he/she shose you for you.. guys or MOSTLY GIRLS that do that are stupid as hell just insecure and not matture..
I dont think anyone should change for their significant other. THEY SHOULD LOVE YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE
No. They chose me for who I was then, if they didn't like what they got, then they can move the **** along :)
If she wanted me to gain a little weight (which she does) or keep my hair short, it's not a big deal.
doesnt make much sense your question being that i wouldnt date someone unless i could always be myself around them. i think everyone should agree with me on that
If you would, how far would you go?
I'm really interested in knowing what some of you think. :)Honestly, would you ever change the way you look for your bg/gf?
If it is minor changes why not. Like hair color or losing a little weight, it all depends on what both sides are comfortable with. Everyone has to adjust a little to their partner and make compromises.Honestly, would you ever change the way you look for your bg/gf?
hmmm nope u are who u are never change for nobody cuz then u wont be happy with urself
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no
No, they should accept you how you are.
depends. i wouldnt be opposed to helpful suggestions on the way that i dressed from a girlfriend, but if she was completely trying to change everything i wore then no i wouldnt.
Well I might changes little things but not the whole way I am because first of all they met me the way I am that's the way they feel in love. So if i change I would be someone I'm not and I wouldn't be the same person they met and fell in love with. By changing I might change the way I dress one day or go out some where I normally won't but they would.
Normally, I would say no, but if I know I will enjoy being new, and that makes him happy then I would consider changing a little, i would anything to please him!
i think that theres only so much you can change about yourself before to gets too hard to maintain. i think i would put more effort in to impress a guy but thats probably it.
If I liked his idea I would. I wouldnt do something I wasnt comfortable with tho.
well if ur together in the 1st place than u should like eachother for who u r...no need to change
I think no matter what we change for a boy or girl we're with, even in the slightest. You adapt to eachother. That being said, I would think that a true love wouldn't ask you to change youreself. So I wouldn't change in any way besides the ways I felt I needed to. Do things for yourself, they should like you for who you are.
helll no!
they get with you cuz of how your are right? so they shouldnt try to change you for anything because he/she shose you for you.. guys or MOSTLY GIRLS that do that are stupid as hell just insecure and not matture..
I dont think anyone should change for their significant other. THEY SHOULD LOVE YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE
No. They chose me for who I was then, if they didn't like what they got, then they can move the **** along :)
If she wanted me to gain a little weight (which she does) or keep my hair short, it's not a big deal.
doesnt make much sense your question being that i wouldnt date someone unless i could always be myself around them. i think everyone should agree with me on that
What do you do when you start doubting if you can change yourself?
So I have worked really hard to get rid of my perfectionism but everytime I get rid of it, it comes back. I was making good progress last semester but I lost it all after finals.
What do you do?? Its SO annoying I hate my perfectionism but its kind of complicated to throw off.
Its like a balancing act.
Therapists.. Psychologists.. whoever.. What do you do when your client tries really hard to throw offsomething like perfectionism and but it sneaks back up on them...?
How do you keep it away? I want to get rid of it before I get out of college. I cant take it with me to my career you know.
TIAWhat do you do when you start doubting if you can change yourself?
It sounds like possibly a bit of Obsessive/Compulsive disorder......';Habits'; can be very deeply ingrained over long periods of time and many don't realize it until they become obstacles.I think you can eventually untie any mental hindrance but somewhat like the habit was formed it must be systematically undone.You'll probably have to really learn to grasp your immediate consciousness and just keep not letting it get to your perfectionist mind state.It will get easier and easier the more you do this.There are a lot worse things than ';perfectionism'; though....but maybe you can get used to the notion of ';good'; is good enough and you don't need the pressure of ';perfect';(which is impossible)....good luck...take it easy and don't get too hard on yourself.What do you do when you start doubting if you can change yourself?
stop doubting yourself and believe and push yourself
You can pray about your life. Tell God about your problems. Know that God can help you live a better life if you want Him to help you. You can have a personal relationship with God by saying the prayer below. God is our Creator, all-knowing, all-powerful, eternal, holy, love. God loves us and sent us His Son, Jesus Christ, so we can go to heaven if we know and follow Him. Forever means without end -- time on and on without death. Forever is what happens after we die. Either we go to heaven and be with God forever, or we go to hell which is very bad and painful forever. The good people who are saved believers in Jesus Christ go to heaven. The bad people go to hell. We need to know and follow God in this world to get to heaven in the next world. We follow God by loving and obeying Him and loving others for Him. Jesus Christ, God's Son, is our bridge to God. Jesus died on the cross to cancel our sins. We need to accept Jesus into our life as our Lord and Savior forever to receive God's blessing and forgiveness plus go to heaven to be with God forever after we die. This is about being a born-again Christian. Faith in God is a gift from God. You can pray for faith in God. Just speak out and ask God for the faith to believe in Him and to follow Him. Some people find faith in God when they realize the beauty in the world is made by God. Evolution can't explain the world's natural beauty, for example, the parks in the world, animals, flowers, peacocks, sunsets, butterflies, rainbows, etc. After you have your faith on, you can pray a sinner's prayer to be a born-again Christian. This prayer is very important and should be said with a sincere heart and faith in God. This is the prayer: ';Dear God, I know that I am a sinner and that Jesus Christ is the sacrifice for our sins. I have done the following sins (state these out) and I pray to discontinue these sins. I pray to receive Jesus Christ into my life as my Lord and Savior forever. In Jesus' name, amen.'; I'm Lutheran and I like the Baptist churches too. You could check out a Christian church and also see about their weekly Bible study group as a good way to learn about God's will for your life. You can pray to God about your daily life and have a Christian church pray for you.
What do you do?? Its SO annoying I hate my perfectionism but its kind of complicated to throw off.
Its like a balancing act.
Therapists.. Psychologists.. whoever.. What do you do when your client tries really hard to throw offsomething like perfectionism and but it sneaks back up on them...?
How do you keep it away? I want to get rid of it before I get out of college. I cant take it with me to my career you know.
TIAWhat do you do when you start doubting if you can change yourself?
It sounds like possibly a bit of Obsessive/Compulsive disorder......';Habits'; can be very deeply ingrained over long periods of time and many don't realize it until they become obstacles.I think you can eventually untie any mental hindrance but somewhat like the habit was formed it must be systematically undone.You'll probably have to really learn to grasp your immediate consciousness and just keep not letting it get to your perfectionist mind state.It will get easier and easier the more you do this.There are a lot worse things than ';perfectionism'; though....but maybe you can get used to the notion of ';good'; is good enough and you don't need the pressure of ';perfect';(which is impossible)....good luck...take it easy and don't get too hard on yourself.What do you do when you start doubting if you can change yourself?
stop doubting yourself and believe and push yourself
You can pray about your life. Tell God about your problems. Know that God can help you live a better life if you want Him to help you. You can have a personal relationship with God by saying the prayer below. God is our Creator, all-knowing, all-powerful, eternal, holy, love. God loves us and sent us His Son, Jesus Christ, so we can go to heaven if we know and follow Him. Forever means without end -- time on and on without death. Forever is what happens after we die. Either we go to heaven and be with God forever, or we go to hell which is very bad and painful forever. The good people who are saved believers in Jesus Christ go to heaven. The bad people go to hell. We need to know and follow God in this world to get to heaven in the next world. We follow God by loving and obeying Him and loving others for Him. Jesus Christ, God's Son, is our bridge to God. Jesus died on the cross to cancel our sins. We need to accept Jesus into our life as our Lord and Savior forever to receive God's blessing and forgiveness plus go to heaven to be with God forever after we die. This is about being a born-again Christian. Faith in God is a gift from God. You can pray for faith in God. Just speak out and ask God for the faith to believe in Him and to follow Him. Some people find faith in God when they realize the beauty in the world is made by God. Evolution can't explain the world's natural beauty, for example, the parks in the world, animals, flowers, peacocks, sunsets, butterflies, rainbows, etc. After you have your faith on, you can pray a sinner's prayer to be a born-again Christian. This prayer is very important and should be said with a sincere heart and faith in God. This is the prayer: ';Dear God, I know that I am a sinner and that Jesus Christ is the sacrifice for our sins. I have done the following sins (state these out) and I pray to discontinue these sins. I pray to receive Jesus Christ into my life as my Lord and Savior forever. In Jesus' name, amen.'; I'm Lutheran and I like the Baptist churches too. You could check out a Christian church and also see about their weekly Bible study group as a good way to learn about God's will for your life. You can pray to God about your daily life and have a Christian church pray for you.
What do you do when you start doubting if you can change yourself?
So I have worked really hard to get rid of my perfectionism but everytime I get rid of it, it comes back. I was making good progress last semester but I lost it all after finals.
What do you do?? Its SO annoying I hate my perfectionism but its kind of complicated to throw off.
Its like a balancing act.
Therapists.. Psychologists.. whoever.. What do you do when your client tries really hard to throw offsomething like perfectionism and but it sneaks back up on them...?
How do you keep it away? I want to get rid of it before I get out of college. I cant take it with me to my career you know.
TIAWhat do you do when you start doubting if you can change yourself?
Add details on what you mean by perfectionism? Trying to be perfect is great.windows web server cheap web host
What do you do?? Its SO annoying I hate my perfectionism but its kind of complicated to throw off.
Its like a balancing act.
Therapists.. Psychologists.. whoever.. What do you do when your client tries really hard to throw offsomething like perfectionism and but it sneaks back up on them...?
How do you keep it away? I want to get rid of it before I get out of college. I cant take it with me to my career you know.
TIAWhat do you do when you start doubting if you can change yourself?
Add details on what you mean by perfectionism? Trying to be perfect is great.
How do you become popular without changing yourself too much?
Ok. Here's the deal... At school no one likes meh cause they all say that i'm scary? O.o don't know how i'm scary but anyway... i can't seem to make many friends... i have r few, but i mostly think they only hang around meh so they don't get picked on, they hardly talk to meh at all. does anyone know how i can make proper friends without scarin everyone off????? ur help is appreciated.How do you become popular without changing yourself too much?
You have to make a choice in things like this. Kind of like here on Yahoo Answers. Do you want LOTS of answers -- that are shallow and pretty meaningless? Or do you want one or 2 really GOOD answers that help you move on with your life? The same is true about being popular. A single GOOD friend that you know you can trust and completely rely on is much more valuable than having a whole slew of 'popular' friends that will turn on you the minute your back is turned. And don't think they won't! Just listen to them talk about their 'other' friends some time.
So, my advice? Maybe try to be a bit more outgoing, but don't push yourself where you don't belong. Open up a bit to your 'friends' and ask them why they think you are scary. You will all probably have a good laugh about it, if you can bring yourself to be that vulnerable to them. Now, THAT part can be scary, for sure, but being vulnerable to others is often the way to get them to return the favor -- and develop a closer friendship.
Another bit of advice is to shift your focus. If you focus too much on you and not on them, you can seem unapproachable. So, if your friends don't talk to you that much, talk to THEM, find out what they are into and get them to talk about it, etc. You might find you have more in common than you first though.
Finally, do some research. Read about the childhood and school experiences of many of the most important people in the world. You'll probably discover that many of them felt like they had no friends, were isolated in school, felt 'different' from their classmates, etc. Being an individual -- and not just one of the popular kids -- is not always a drawback!
Good luck.
You have to make a choice in things like this. Kind of like here on Yahoo Answers. Do you want LOTS of answers -- that are shallow and pretty meaningless? Or do you want one or 2 really GOOD answers that help you move on with your life? The same is true about being popular. A single GOOD friend that you know you can trust and completely rely on is much more valuable than having a whole slew of 'popular' friends that will turn on you the minute your back is turned. And don't think they won't! Just listen to them talk about their 'other' friends some time.
So, my advice? Maybe try to be a bit more outgoing, but don't push yourself where you don't belong. Open up a bit to your 'friends' and ask them why they think you are scary. You will all probably have a good laugh about it, if you can bring yourself to be that vulnerable to them. Now, THAT part can be scary, for sure, but being vulnerable to others is often the way to get them to return the favor -- and develop a closer friendship.
Another bit of advice is to shift your focus. If you focus too much on you and not on them, you can seem unapproachable. So, if your friends don't talk to you that much, talk to THEM, find out what they are into and get them to talk about it, etc. You might find you have more in common than you first though.
Finally, do some research. Read about the childhood and school experiences of many of the most important people in the world. You'll probably discover that many of them felt like they had no friends, were isolated in school, felt 'different' from their classmates, etc. Being an individual -- and not just one of the popular kids -- is not always a drawback!
Good luck.
How do you began to change yourself?
after all of lifes bumps and bruises how do you forget so that you can move on? i dont want to be bitter all my lifeHow do you began to change yourself?
C - Cultivate Positive Attitude Everywhere
H - Harness Bountiful Energy Within You
A - Ask More From Life Not From Others
N - Never Say Die And Never Give Up
G - Gather Happiness All Around Yourself
E - Excite Everyone With Your Energy
This is what change is all about. Just be simple to yourself. Do not complicate things in your mind. Because we always create certain images in our mind before they are actually realised in the outside world. So, always keep your mind cool %26amp; you'll have a clear vision.
Just for once try this -
#1) Help somebody when you are angry
#2) Make someone laugh when you are sad
#3) Do something good without any expectation
If you can do these three things in your life, you'll never feel sad about anything. Life will be a pleasureable journey!How do you began to change yourself?
Medication has helped me get out of the past. I am less in my head with medication.
you can never forget the past but focus on the future.
If there were any faults you've made during those bumps and bruises, learn from them. If there were any mistakes, forgive them and yourself if you've made one. Take a walk outside for a couple of minutes and just see nature. If you're spiritual, or willing to give it a chance, consult with God.
decide first as to what you would you like to be... then strive hard to change yourself and become one...
Realize no matter how bad you have it, someone else has it worst. Or meds, but thats cheating.
i jus took a paper and a pen and wrote all the good points on one side and bad ones(things that made me unhappy and disappointed) on the next.
and then jus tried to make my bad things become good with the help of those few good points which i had and trust me the list in my good points keep on increasing
from leaving my bad habbits
C - Cultivate Positive Attitude Everywhere
H - Harness Bountiful Energy Within You
A - Ask More From Life Not From Others
N - Never Say Die And Never Give Up
G - Gather Happiness All Around Yourself
E - Excite Everyone With Your Energy
This is what change is all about. Just be simple to yourself. Do not complicate things in your mind. Because we always create certain images in our mind before they are actually realised in the outside world. So, always keep your mind cool %26amp; you'll have a clear vision.
Just for once try this -
#1) Help somebody when you are angry
#2) Make someone laugh when you are sad
#3) Do something good without any expectation
If you can do these three things in your life, you'll never feel sad about anything. Life will be a pleasureable journey!How do you began to change yourself?
Medication has helped me get out of the past. I am less in my head with medication.
you can never forget the past but focus on the future.
If there were any faults you've made during those bumps and bruises, learn from them. If there were any mistakes, forgive them and yourself if you've made one. Take a walk outside for a couple of minutes and just see nature. If you're spiritual, or willing to give it a chance, consult with God.
decide first as to what you would you like to be... then strive hard to change yourself and become one...
Realize no matter how bad you have it, someone else has it worst. Or meds, but thats cheating.
i jus took a paper and a pen and wrote all the good points on one side and bad ones(things that made me unhappy and disappointed) on the next.
and then jus tried to make my bad things become good with the help of those few good points which i had and trust me the list in my good points keep on increasing
from leaving my bad habbits
How do you change yourself?
I am sick of who i am currently. I do not want to talk to anyone lately because right now I feel like a mess. I do not feel like hearing people's commentary on why I am acting the way I am. I am pretty weak person, I have this tendency to tell people everything they want to know from me. Is there a way I can change myself?
Here's my goal
-3.5 or higher grades
-attend more school events
-spend more time with myself
-stop being such a blabbermouth
I hate how desperate I am for attention or my friends. My friends have lives outside of me but I do not have a life outside them. They go out places with other friends, spend time by themselves, etc.
I am that friend that is always too available and all I do is whine.How do you change yourself?
It sounds like you have already realized that you would like to change and that is half of it right there.
What about scheduling specific times during the week to work on studying, review, homework etc. Then stick to it...no interruptions like going online for fun or chatting w friends until the work is done.
How about starting small, like joining a new sport/club/activity on your own, something that you've always been interested to try but that your current group of friends isn't necessarily interested in. It could even be something outside of school, like art/music/photography lessons, a part time job or volunteer opportunity, etc. That will give you a little time to yourself, you are exploring new interests and making new friends that are outside your original group. That will also give you options of new ways to spend your time and maybe even new people to spend time with. You'll become less available because you'll be busy with your own interests, and having interests is what makes people more interesting =)How do you change yourself?
Set little goals for yourself that lead up to the bigger goal.
if your a christian pray.if not straighten up that walk,get out of your comfort zone and do what needs to be done, no ones gonna do it for you.
Take up a unique hobby like playing an instrument . Spend more time alone, once you do that you'll discover that you dont really need freinds at all. If you become too trusting of these people because you are too busy always trying to be their freind it could come back to bite you. You might tell them something that is too personal, and they might tell other people. So for now, just chill out and stop caring about them soo much. Just stop caring!
I too have been in a situation just like yours. Until recently, I thought I was stuck and was going no where in life.
The only advice I can give you is to just get up one day, look in the mirror, take a deep breath and do what you want to do.
3.5 or higher grades
- It may seem selfish, but your future comes first, blow off your friends every once in awhile to study if you have to
Attend more school events
- Just go, it's not that hard. If anxiety is getting to you, take a deep breath and keep psyching yourself up before you arrive
Spend more time with yourself
- This is where you and I are different. I have too much time to spend with myself as I have no friends. You on the otherhand have the choice to just stay at home and enjoy the roses kiddo
Stop speaking
- Whenever you think you should inject yourself into the conversation, don't. It'll become more natural for you to just shut up the more you do it.
Find new friends of a different stature of the friends you have. You need to be with people whose going to speak their minds and tell you about yourself. Evidently these people that you know are not your friends because they are using you to their advantage from your bad babble mouth habbit. It also sounds like you're trying to act like someone you're not for the attention, just be yourself. Next time someone comes to you for some mess and didn't have the decency to spend time with you over the weekend tell them to keep steppin because you're a new person now.
Here's my goal
-3.5 or higher grades
-attend more school events
-spend more time with myself
-stop being such a blabbermouth
I hate how desperate I am for attention or my friends. My friends have lives outside of me but I do not have a life outside them. They go out places with other friends, spend time by themselves, etc.
I am that friend that is always too available and all I do is whine.How do you change yourself?
It sounds like you have already realized that you would like to change and that is half of it right there.
What about scheduling specific times during the week to work on studying, review, homework etc. Then stick to it...no interruptions like going online for fun or chatting w friends until the work is done.
How about starting small, like joining a new sport/club/activity on your own, something that you've always been interested to try but that your current group of friends isn't necessarily interested in. It could even be something outside of school, like art/music/photography lessons, a part time job or volunteer opportunity, etc. That will give you a little time to yourself, you are exploring new interests and making new friends that are outside your original group. That will also give you options of new ways to spend your time and maybe even new people to spend time with. You'll become less available because you'll be busy with your own interests, and having interests is what makes people more interesting =)How do you change yourself?
Set little goals for yourself that lead up to the bigger goal.
if your a christian pray.if not straighten up that walk,get out of your comfort zone and do what needs to be done, no ones gonna do it for you.
Take up a unique hobby like playing an instrument . Spend more time alone, once you do that you'll discover that you dont really need freinds at all. If you become too trusting of these people because you are too busy always trying to be their freind it could come back to bite you. You might tell them something that is too personal, and they might tell other people. So for now, just chill out and stop caring about them soo much. Just stop caring!
I too have been in a situation just like yours. Until recently, I thought I was stuck and was going no where in life.
The only advice I can give you is to just get up one day, look in the mirror, take a deep breath and do what you want to do.
3.5 or higher grades
- It may seem selfish, but your future comes first, blow off your friends every once in awhile to study if you have to
Attend more school events
- Just go, it's not that hard. If anxiety is getting to you, take a deep breath and keep psyching yourself up before you arrive
Spend more time with yourself
- This is where you and I are different. I have too much time to spend with myself as I have no friends. You on the otherhand have the choice to just stay at home and enjoy the roses kiddo
Stop speaking
- Whenever you think you should inject yourself into the conversation, don't. It'll become more natural for you to just shut up the more you do it.
Find new friends of a different stature of the friends you have. You need to be with people whose going to speak their minds and tell you about yourself. Evidently these people that you know are not your friends because they are using you to their advantage from your bad babble mouth habbit. It also sounds like you're trying to act like someone you're not for the attention, just be yourself. Next time someone comes to you for some mess and didn't have the decency to spend time with you over the weekend tell them to keep steppin because you're a new person now.
Have you ever tried to change yourself? ?
But maybe failed or you have really changed yourself ? how do you do that? Have you ever tried to change yourself? ?
i changed myself on the inside first, i changed my attitude and the way i see things (i became more optimistic, and stopped playing the victim in everything, and stopped feeling sorry for myself), and that change eventually reflected itself on the outside, people like me more now that im not so doom and gloom all the time, and i feel happier and much better about myselfHave you ever tried to change yourself? ?
yes - think it out, take the time to learn from past mistakes. We change a bit everyday.
No I changed but that was after some traumatic things that happened in my life and mistakes I made that made me want to change or know that I had to.
Sometimes its more about others accepting that you've changed for it to become a reality.
yeah i have.. with a lot of thinking, patience and practice
you?
You change every time you go threw something in your life. If you don't learn from it than their is no change. Than it all comes around again and again. So I have learned and changed many times !
I tried to change my personality but I failed
I change a little every day.....hopefully for the better.
Mostly I just have to toughen up....I'm way too sensitive.
No. I'd never change myself--no matter what people think of me.
Unless, I myself, think that I should change myself then I will.
Other than that--I love my personality and I'd never change it for someone else--they're just gonna have to accept it.
=]
no i dont cuz i love myself cuz im nice
yep ..just got over it and stuck with it ..its me why would i change it ?
if people don like my shyness ,my gayness,
then leave!!
i have a nanny for that
i changed myself on the inside first, i changed my attitude and the way i see things (i became more optimistic, and stopped playing the victim in everything, and stopped feeling sorry for myself), and that change eventually reflected itself on the outside, people like me more now that im not so doom and gloom all the time, and i feel happier and much better about myselfHave you ever tried to change yourself? ?
yes - think it out, take the time to learn from past mistakes. We change a bit everyday.
No I changed but that was after some traumatic things that happened in my life and mistakes I made that made me want to change or know that I had to.
Sometimes its more about others accepting that you've changed for it to become a reality.
yeah i have.. with a lot of thinking, patience and practice
you?
You change every time you go threw something in your life. If you don't learn from it than their is no change. Than it all comes around again and again. So I have learned and changed many times !
I tried to change my personality but I failed
I change a little every day.....hopefully for the better.
Mostly I just have to toughen up....I'm way too sensitive.
No. I'd never change myself--no matter what people think of me.
Unless, I myself, think that I should change myself then I will.
Other than that--I love my personality and I'd never change it for someone else--they're just gonna have to accept it.
=]
no i dont cuz i love myself cuz im nice
yep ..just got over it and stuck with it ..its me why would i change it ?
if people don like my shyness ,my gayness,
then leave!!
i have a nanny for that
How do you change yourself?
i'll admit that i'm messed up.. i've been emotionally scarred in my life growing up due to numerous family problems and a sucky life. what i mean by i'm messed up is that i have no self-esteem due to my growing up thinking i'm going to fail at life. i get straight A's however and everyone says i'm Too nice. in relationships i want to change and be able to be myself and open up and be outgoing.. but i am really shy and timid.. due to a Great fear of hurt. i've been hurt and given way too much crap in my life. but i want to change and be able to have a greater self-confidence and be able to think of things to say and talk about. i don't know how to do it though. i've really been trying, but it's hard to just change after everything. but i'm sick of ruining relationships because of this fact, because it only makes my life worse. i've Always gotten to the point of Just literally Before being an official ';girlfriend'; and then something always goes wrong.. am i just fated to be cursed?How do you change yourself?
You need to make these changes slowly, and you have to be prepared to do that. In other words, becoming an outgoing, very confident, high self esteem person is likely not going to happen over night. You made the first step, realizing your dilemma and seeing that there could be more for yourself. Just start small with your inner self- don't believe in yourself, rather KNOW in yourself (know you can do it, rather than think you can do it, for example). For relationships, I don't think your ready yet, basically. If your having problems when you get the point of ';almost'; bf/gf, then instead when you like someone, just try to be friends with them plus some flirting to show interest if you'd want to. Expand your social network, meet more people, join clubs, etc. This will make you more outgoing and confident. After this, then go for relationships, and this time in you'll be confident and ahead of the game so to speak. I think a lot of people feel like they ';need'; to be in a relationship (even I feel like that sometimes), but wait until you feel great personally, and then go for it. People feel just like you all the time, including myself. You're not cursed or anything, you just gotta have faith and live your life :-) Make little changes and things should fall into place. Hope it helps.How do you change yourself?
you might need to get out more,,meet people,,join clubs,volunteer...you know,,,get a life,,,make a life of your own.
no, you're not fated to be cursed. no one is. maybe you have to see a psychologist. and maybe you have to have a good look at yourself in the mirror and change your outlook in yourself. having straight A's is not an easy feat. that alone must give you some self confidence. not all people get that. also, learn to love yourself. tell yourself you love you.at first you might not believe it, but later on, you will. and give yourself the best of life you can give. don't rush into a relationship first. concentrate on making yourself whole. then look for someone worthy of your love. you'll make it, girl.just hang on.
You can achieve your goal of having good relationships and of feeling better about yourself, but it will take time. Working on YOU should come first, but in doing so, practice the simple habit of being friendly and outgoing. I know it is a stretch for your personality, but it can be done. It just takes more effort.
Time is needed because time will allow your hurts to heal and your talents to mend your self-image. It will require patience, but as you see what God wants you to do with your life, you will gain the confidence you need. You will realize that you do deserve to be with someone kind and loving and you won't sabotage relationships and hold back because of fear.
before changing myself first i should know what is my weaknesses then through this weakness i will change my living strategy . hope u got the ans.
its hard for others to see your worth if you yourself believe youre worthless.its hard to change who we really are but asking god everyday to bless us with guidance and help us to make things better if not change everything about us would be of great help.never give up on yourself,god hears us all we need is ask him.goodluck.
You are definately not cursed. You have not met the right person yet. The right person will accept you for who you are (shy and/or timid), being yourself is most appealing to the right person. Now, self confidence is different. Start by excentuatng your positives. Than decide what you want to be different and work on that ONE thing. Take baby steps. Many, and I mean MANY people have to work though difficult childhoods. You are not alone. However, it is the first step to recognize there is a problem. So, you are on your way. Seek counseling, someone you trust, and work through your past. My favorite saying is '; there is NO future in your past'; So, you will not be able to move forward if the past is still a part of the present. Good luck.finding duvet covers howtofalloutoflovewithsomeone
You need to make these changes slowly, and you have to be prepared to do that. In other words, becoming an outgoing, very confident, high self esteem person is likely not going to happen over night. You made the first step, realizing your dilemma and seeing that there could be more for yourself. Just start small with your inner self- don't believe in yourself, rather KNOW in yourself (know you can do it, rather than think you can do it, for example). For relationships, I don't think your ready yet, basically. If your having problems when you get the point of ';almost'; bf/gf, then instead when you like someone, just try to be friends with them plus some flirting to show interest if you'd want to. Expand your social network, meet more people, join clubs, etc. This will make you more outgoing and confident. After this, then go for relationships, and this time in you'll be confident and ahead of the game so to speak. I think a lot of people feel like they ';need'; to be in a relationship (even I feel like that sometimes), but wait until you feel great personally, and then go for it. People feel just like you all the time, including myself. You're not cursed or anything, you just gotta have faith and live your life :-) Make little changes and things should fall into place. Hope it helps.How do you change yourself?
you might need to get out more,,meet people,,join clubs,volunteer...you know,,,get a life,,,make a life of your own.
no, you're not fated to be cursed. no one is. maybe you have to see a psychologist. and maybe you have to have a good look at yourself in the mirror and change your outlook in yourself. having straight A's is not an easy feat. that alone must give you some self confidence. not all people get that. also, learn to love yourself. tell yourself you love you.at first you might not believe it, but later on, you will. and give yourself the best of life you can give. don't rush into a relationship first. concentrate on making yourself whole. then look for someone worthy of your love. you'll make it, girl.just hang on.
You can achieve your goal of having good relationships and of feeling better about yourself, but it will take time. Working on YOU should come first, but in doing so, practice the simple habit of being friendly and outgoing. I know it is a stretch for your personality, but it can be done. It just takes more effort.
Time is needed because time will allow your hurts to heal and your talents to mend your self-image. It will require patience, but as you see what God wants you to do with your life, you will gain the confidence you need. You will realize that you do deserve to be with someone kind and loving and you won't sabotage relationships and hold back because of fear.
before changing myself first i should know what is my weaknesses then through this weakness i will change my living strategy . hope u got the ans.
its hard for others to see your worth if you yourself believe youre worthless.its hard to change who we really are but asking god everyday to bless us with guidance and help us to make things better if not change everything about us would be of great help.never give up on yourself,god hears us all we need is ask him.goodluck.
You are definately not cursed. You have not met the right person yet. The right person will accept you for who you are (shy and/or timid), being yourself is most appealing to the right person. Now, self confidence is different. Start by excentuatng your positives. Than decide what you want to be different and work on that ONE thing. Take baby steps. Many, and I mean MANY people have to work though difficult childhoods. You are not alone. However, it is the first step to recognize there is a problem. So, you are on your way. Seek counseling, someone you trust, and work through your past. My favorite saying is '; there is NO future in your past'; So, you will not be able to move forward if the past is still a part of the present. Good luck.
How do you change yourself?
So you can like yourself more?
I dislike my personality right now. I really want to change but it seems so hard. Every time I decide to change and try to, I find myself nervous and end up being my old self again.
My personality:
1. I can't socialize. Honestly, if you were walking with me or sitting with me, I'll just be quiet. I have no idea what to say. That's all I can think about in my head: What should I say?
2. I'm too self-conscious. Because I have acne, braces and reading glasses, I'm self-conscious about the way I look.
3. I'm not comfortable with myself or around people.
4. I'm too quiet. Up to the point where if you didn't look at me or if I didn't say anything, or if no one said my name, you probably wouldn't even know I was there.
5. I'm scared of embarrassing myself. I can't do anything. I'm being honest. I suck at sports, I can't dance since I'm too stiff, I can't sing because I don't think I have a good voice. I sound horrible especially when I try to sing loud.
6. I don't know how to make people smile, be comfortable around me, wanna talk to me, like me. I'm not funny at all.
7. I complain too much.
8. I don't have any fashion sense.
Basically, I have way too much flaws. And this gets in the way of my life. I want to know how do people overcome these flaws and change so you can like yourself more?
This is how I want people to see me: The girl who you can talk to when you're unhappy or just wanna chat, trust with secrets, be comfortable around, the one that knows what to say and isn't scared to embarrass herself.
I want people to look beyond my appearance (since I'm not pretty at all) and not judge me by my looks. I don't want people to just notice my acne or my braces when they first see me.
I have no idea how. I can't seem to get myself out of my comfort zone and be comfortable with everyone. I can't seem to bring myself to socialize with anyone because I have no idea what to talk about.
So, how can I overcome these flaws? How did you overcome it? Please be specific and give me guide lines/ideas. This is really important. Also, how do you start a conversation with someone and keep it going? I have a lot of trouble with socializing like I said.How do you change yourself?
Well, hello there. You know, don't feel too bad, I'm kinda like that as well and yea, it sucks. What you need to do Is try to find a group of people you feel you'll be comfortable around. You haven't said your age so I can't tell if you are at school or not. If you are, try to look around you and join a group that you feel will accept you for who you are no matter the acne no matter the braces. There has to be at least somebody. If not, then go outside school and find other hobbies you can do. Singing and dancing are not the only activities a human being can do, don't feel bad for that! Nobody's perfect. There HAS to be something you feel you are good at, when you find out what that Is, then go for it and do it, do the things you love and meet people who share your passions and interests. I absolutely understand how you feel, I also feel nearvous and quite weak when I'm around people, it's just the way we are, it's our personalities. But wait, you see you are suffering...so to try to stop this,, then try to stop thinking too much. Life is short, don't waste your time on thinking,, DISTRACT yourself, do WHATEVER you love cause that's what everyone deserves. If you dont find you have people you can relate to, then go outside home and join classes or clubs of people in or outside school. Never forget that everything WILL get better if YOU want it to get better, nobody's gonna change for you. Honey, stay strong and live your life as happier as you can. Ask for help if necessary, contact me or see a doctor or psychologist (those people are there to help you), STOP THINKING AND JUST BE YOURSELF! Never give up!! be strong and good luck! :) good things come for those who wait ;)
P.S.: Don't let the fears get over you!! remember fears are just an illusion of something that won't happen, and they are there just to make you suffer and feel sad. So keeping that in mind, don't let them get over you!! Be strong and face them!
I dislike my personality right now. I really want to change but it seems so hard. Every time I decide to change and try to, I find myself nervous and end up being my old self again.
My personality:
1. I can't socialize. Honestly, if you were walking with me or sitting with me, I'll just be quiet. I have no idea what to say. That's all I can think about in my head: What should I say?
2. I'm too self-conscious. Because I have acne, braces and reading glasses, I'm self-conscious about the way I look.
3. I'm not comfortable with myself or around people.
4. I'm too quiet. Up to the point where if you didn't look at me or if I didn't say anything, or if no one said my name, you probably wouldn't even know I was there.
5. I'm scared of embarrassing myself. I can't do anything. I'm being honest. I suck at sports, I can't dance since I'm too stiff, I can't sing because I don't think I have a good voice. I sound horrible especially when I try to sing loud.
6. I don't know how to make people smile, be comfortable around me, wanna talk to me, like me. I'm not funny at all.
7. I complain too much.
8. I don't have any fashion sense.
Basically, I have way too much flaws. And this gets in the way of my life. I want to know how do people overcome these flaws and change so you can like yourself more?
This is how I want people to see me: The girl who you can talk to when you're unhappy or just wanna chat, trust with secrets, be comfortable around, the one that knows what to say and isn't scared to embarrass herself.
I want people to look beyond my appearance (since I'm not pretty at all) and not judge me by my looks. I don't want people to just notice my acne or my braces when they first see me.
I have no idea how. I can't seem to get myself out of my comfort zone and be comfortable with everyone. I can't seem to bring myself to socialize with anyone because I have no idea what to talk about.
So, how can I overcome these flaws? How did you overcome it? Please be specific and give me guide lines/ideas. This is really important. Also, how do you start a conversation with someone and keep it going? I have a lot of trouble with socializing like I said.How do you change yourself?
Well, hello there. You know, don't feel too bad, I'm kinda like that as well and yea, it sucks. What you need to do Is try to find a group of people you feel you'll be comfortable around. You haven't said your age so I can't tell if you are at school or not. If you are, try to look around you and join a group that you feel will accept you for who you are no matter the acne no matter the braces. There has to be at least somebody. If not, then go outside school and find other hobbies you can do. Singing and dancing are not the only activities a human being can do, don't feel bad for that! Nobody's perfect. There HAS to be something you feel you are good at, when you find out what that Is, then go for it and do it, do the things you love and meet people who share your passions and interests. I absolutely understand how you feel, I also feel nearvous and quite weak when I'm around people, it's just the way we are, it's our personalities. But wait, you see you are suffering...so to try to stop this,, then try to stop thinking too much. Life is short, don't waste your time on thinking,, DISTRACT yourself, do WHATEVER you love cause that's what everyone deserves. If you dont find you have people you can relate to, then go outside home and join classes or clubs of people in or outside school. Never forget that everything WILL get better if YOU want it to get better, nobody's gonna change for you. Honey, stay strong and live your life as happier as you can. Ask for help if necessary, contact me or see a doctor or psychologist (those people are there to help you), STOP THINKING AND JUST BE YOURSELF! Never give up!! be strong and good luck! :) good things come for those who wait ;)
P.S.: Don't let the fears get over you!! remember fears are just an illusion of something that won't happen, and they are there just to make you suffer and feel sad. So keeping that in mind, don't let them get over you!! Be strong and face them!
If you can't change yourself then how do you expect to change the world?
good point
always expect more from yourself than you do of others and if you want someone to do something, make sure you would do it as well, and it isnt something you yourself would not doIf you can't change yourself then how do you expect to change the world?
almost everything is possible so...its possibleIf you can't change yourself then how do you expect to change the world?
I've been trying the rope-a-dope....but's it's not really working out as I hoped.
I'm not trying to change the world! I just live in my little corner of it and try to be the best person i can be. Peace to you....
With a whole lot of gasoline and a reliable lighter.
You can change yourself. It's called taking on personal responsibility. It takes work and a willingness to accept your own faults and attitudes.
The majority of people, in the US, do not accept personal responsibility, therefore do not work to change themselves for the better.
o my fren your looosing ...
b coz when people start to think about change the world ...they already changed much ..???
again they doing hard to change the things in world then he changed self and over ...
and u know what no body dare to think that much easyly that
';i can change world '; to say this they want many more things where you cant see in ordinary peoples ...
always expect more from yourself than you do of others and if you want someone to do something, make sure you would do it as well, and it isnt something you yourself would not doIf you can't change yourself then how do you expect to change the world?
almost everything is possible so...its possibleIf you can't change yourself then how do you expect to change the world?
I've been trying the rope-a-dope....but's it's not really working out as I hoped.
I'm not trying to change the world! I just live in my little corner of it and try to be the best person i can be. Peace to you....
With a whole lot of gasoline and a reliable lighter.
You can change yourself. It's called taking on personal responsibility. It takes work and a willingness to accept your own faults and attitudes.
The majority of people, in the US, do not accept personal responsibility, therefore do not work to change themselves for the better.
o my fren your looosing ...
b coz when people start to think about change the world ...they already changed much ..???
again they doing hard to change the things in world then he changed self and over ...
and u know what no body dare to think that much easyly that
';i can change world '; to say this they want many more things where you cant see in ordinary peoples ...
How do you change yourself?
I feel like a bitter person today, it maybe that I am over-reacting but I didn't feel like myself.
I went to the gym today and I usually chat to my instructor casually, because I went in late, I totally ignored him and trying basically to miss his questions he ususally asks me and bascially kills time.
I felt really bitter when I just blanked him out but he does try his best to make everyone feel welcome.
When I leave we usually sum up what we have done today and just chat about whether it been a good sessions but I was basically just peed off about not even getting enough work-out.
So I just turned my back on him and said yes to him when he ask me something and just walked straight out! He was just trying to be sociable and friendly but it felt really bad at the moment.
Im pretty good friends with the instructor maybe becuase he just makes us feel welcome at the gym but I think im partially being bitter because he always keeps forgetting these gym golves that he keeps forgetting to bring as he promised he would lend them to me.
I feel I need to change my attitude a little, so how do you usually change yourself?How do you change yourself?
Well I feel that I need a change in my life, too (for different reasons) and I am doing that by moving away to another state... Lol.. I know it's a little drastic but I feel like moving away is the only way to truly change my lifestyle and experience something completly different, resulting in an attitude change. And it's going to be fun!How do you change yourself?
It sounds like your gym instructor is a really nice person. It also sounds like it's just a matter of gym gloves!! If this is the case - save your money and buy your own gym gloves!!
If you learn to rely on other people for things and have high expectations of people you will always end up being bitter because people will always disappoint you!!! People are human and no one can live up to high expectations.
So - to answer your question to stop being bitter... Start taking charge of your own life - Take control of your life and don't expect things from other people.
When they do give you something or are nice to you - it will be a pleasant surprise.
Good luck with your transformation!
well if you will change yourself.. be sure it will do you good in return...
enjoying life as it is is the best thing to do... you don't need to change yourself if your happy...
Oh, don't worry about today sweet. Forget about it and look for tomorrow. If you CAN or if it seems fit. Apologise to him the next time you see him. Saying 'sorry mate for how i acted yesterday, i was just really peeved off about something' and that should clear everything up!
You don't need to change yourself, its just today is a down day for you. Tomorrow will be better. Tell yourself that your a good person (which you are, because your clearly regret full about how nasty you was to this mate of yours)
Don't worry!
I have these days all the time, i just watch a film to calm my nerves. Watch a horror or something romantic or funny. Get your mind off everything. :)
xxx
I went to the gym today and I usually chat to my instructor casually, because I went in late, I totally ignored him and trying basically to miss his questions he ususally asks me and bascially kills time.
I felt really bitter when I just blanked him out but he does try his best to make everyone feel welcome.
When I leave we usually sum up what we have done today and just chat about whether it been a good sessions but I was basically just peed off about not even getting enough work-out.
So I just turned my back on him and said yes to him when he ask me something and just walked straight out! He was just trying to be sociable and friendly but it felt really bad at the moment.
Im pretty good friends with the instructor maybe becuase he just makes us feel welcome at the gym but I think im partially being bitter because he always keeps forgetting these gym golves that he keeps forgetting to bring as he promised he would lend them to me.
I feel I need to change my attitude a little, so how do you usually change yourself?How do you change yourself?
Well I feel that I need a change in my life, too (for different reasons) and I am doing that by moving away to another state... Lol.. I know it's a little drastic but I feel like moving away is the only way to truly change my lifestyle and experience something completly different, resulting in an attitude change. And it's going to be fun!How do you change yourself?
It sounds like your gym instructor is a really nice person. It also sounds like it's just a matter of gym gloves!! If this is the case - save your money and buy your own gym gloves!!
If you learn to rely on other people for things and have high expectations of people you will always end up being bitter because people will always disappoint you!!! People are human and no one can live up to high expectations.
So - to answer your question to stop being bitter... Start taking charge of your own life - Take control of your life and don't expect things from other people.
When they do give you something or are nice to you - it will be a pleasant surprise.
Good luck with your transformation!
well if you will change yourself.. be sure it will do you good in return...
enjoying life as it is is the best thing to do... you don't need to change yourself if your happy...
Oh, don't worry about today sweet. Forget about it and look for tomorrow. If you CAN or if it seems fit. Apologise to him the next time you see him. Saying 'sorry mate for how i acted yesterday, i was just really peeved off about something' and that should clear everything up!
You don't need to change yourself, its just today is a down day for you. Tomorrow will be better. Tell yourself that your a good person (which you are, because your clearly regret full about how nasty you was to this mate of yours)
Don't worry!
I have these days all the time, i just watch a film to calm my nerves. Watch a horror or something romantic or funny. Get your mind off everything. :)
xxx
How to change yourself.. ?
I am 30 years old, and am sigle, am sure that there is something wrong with the way am thinking and decisions i made in life... but just don't know how to figure it out.. I may repeate the same wrong actions and take the same paths in life.. how to know that am right or wrong in life and how to change the way of thinking so not to make the same mistakes again... How to change yourself.. ?
The thing about life is that you can never know what you're doing is right or wrong. There is no inherent value of right or wrong in any decision, just the value you appropriate to it. Some things are up to us, and some things are not up to us. Progress is made by a single day and a single action. Don't neglect yourself.How to change yourself.. ?
whether single or married everyone has his own personality,be sure about onething ,NEVER REGRET,it only brings frustrations just make a list of do';%26amp;dont';s for yourself ,thus every time a new thought erupts pen it down %26amp;think about its outcome never about what happened last time,always trust your conscience if it allows follow the route else forget the path
Unfortunately it is very difficult for people to change once they are in their thirties. But luckily for you, you may still be able to change since you're not yet the at the emotional level of a thirty year old. Look to the relationships that you currently have with people and ask yourself if you are satisfied or dissatisfied. If dissatisfied end the relationship. Meeting new people will make this much easier.
The thing about life is that you can never know what you're doing is right or wrong. There is no inherent value of right or wrong in any decision, just the value you appropriate to it. Some things are up to us, and some things are not up to us. Progress is made by a single day and a single action. Don't neglect yourself.How to change yourself.. ?
whether single or married everyone has his own personality,be sure about onething ,NEVER REGRET,it only brings frustrations just make a list of do';%26amp;dont';s for yourself ,thus every time a new thought erupts pen it down %26amp;think about its outcome never about what happened last time,always trust your conscience if it allows follow the route else forget the path
Unfortunately it is very difficult for people to change once they are in their thirties. But luckily for you, you may still be able to change since you're not yet the at the emotional level of a thirty year old. Look to the relationships that you currently have with people and ask yourself if you are satisfied or dissatisfied. If dissatisfied end the relationship. Meeting new people will make this much easier.
Have you ever tried to change yourself?
I have! And it sucks. Change is so FREAKING difficult!!!! I used to be positive and optimistic... that change was possible. After trying to change for years, I am tired.
How about you?Have you ever tried to change yourself?
Yes I have...Have you ever tried to change yourself?
depends on what you're changing..
yes
yeah...went for my morning walk..took.my little chihuahua with me....
nahh i'm always going to be psycho might as well embrace it
my new year's resolution is... to change my wardrobe... easy eh?
Lol! Actually I did, a couple years ago. And thank goodness I did....
If you need help, this song gave me lots:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y944YxuE1
xx
i don't know how to change :(
i think i will always be the same
definetly
tried to talk less, and be less boring.... and act more girly.... NOOOOTTTTT happening
Yea. I lost 20lbs. Now I feel healthier and look better... change can be good
Yes. It's a lot of hard work but sometimes you really need to change.
of course not, i'm perfect :)
I trying to go from likeing guys to likeing girls. I like girls emotionally, like friendship, and guys physically, emotionally (as in more that friendship) and mentally, i naturally look for guys.
Put it this way: when i see a pretty girl, i'll think, ';hmmm i wonder if she's a good friend'; and when i see a cute guy, i'll think, ';he's cute. Should i talk to him? No, he night be str8. But who cares he's cute.';
And i'm trying to change that to the other way around. so far, i'm only hurting myself. My church is trying to help convert me. I want to, but it's like a part of me thats hard wired. I think Its who i am.
I've been trying to change that since the begining of december. So far, the only improvement i see is i masterbate less.
I still like, love, guys and i just like girls.
Yesguy myspace scene hair
How about you?Have you ever tried to change yourself?
Yes I have...Have you ever tried to change yourself?
depends on what you're changing..
yes
yeah...went for my morning walk..took.my little chihuahua with me....
nahh i'm always going to be psycho might as well embrace it
my new year's resolution is... to change my wardrobe... easy eh?
Lol! Actually I did, a couple years ago. And thank goodness I did....
If you need help, this song gave me lots:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y944YxuE1
xx
i don't know how to change :(
i think i will always be the same
definetly
tried to talk less, and be less boring.... and act more girly.... NOOOOTTTTT happening
Yea. I lost 20lbs. Now I feel healthier and look better... change can be good
Yes. It's a lot of hard work but sometimes you really need to change.
of course not, i'm perfect :)
I trying to go from likeing guys to likeing girls. I like girls emotionally, like friendship, and guys physically, emotionally (as in more that friendship) and mentally, i naturally look for guys.
Put it this way: when i see a pretty girl, i'll think, ';hmmm i wonder if she's a good friend'; and when i see a cute guy, i'll think, ';he's cute. Should i talk to him? No, he night be str8. But who cares he's cute.';
And i'm trying to change that to the other way around. so far, i'm only hurting myself. My church is trying to help convert me. I want to, but it's like a part of me thats hard wired. I think Its who i am.
I've been trying to change that since the begining of december. So far, the only improvement i see is i masterbate less.
I still like, love, guys and i just like girls.
Yes
How do you change yourself?
I've always had this ';take-advantage-of-my-kindness'; look.
i'm always the nicest person around, so people tend to boss me.
i want to change, yet i don't know how..How do you change yourself?
Funny, i've always had this ';He's going to screw you over as soon as your back is turned'; look, judging from the way people treat me.How do you change yourself?
Welcome to the world I was in! The first step is to understand the person you are! I mean you need to dissect your personality. Take as many personality profiles as you can, take IQ tests over and over, take study habits tests to find your tendencies. There are many on line! I've got a few bookmarked if you want them. Next, find the strengths and use them! Lastly you need to (this is so lame sounding but true) ';LOVE'; yourself! Let me explain. I was teaching self defense to a bunch of little old ladies at a country club. When I asked them, if I told them I was going to attack them, how would they react, all said they would freak out and run. When I asked them that I had just face slapped their grand daughter and was about to do it again, how would they react. I got almost a unanimous ';I'd Kick your azz';!
What changed? Same old ladies, same 6 foot 4 inch 220 pound guy. The difference was the attitude of love. They needed to get to the ';How Dare You'; attitude toward themselves. After that, the class was a breeze! In fact I still have some bruising!
You need to get the ';How Dare You'; mindset! Never let anyone take advantage of you. Just the expression on your face can change how people interact with you. The change from nice girl to ';What did you just say to me'; can turn people from aggressive to submissive in seconds! Give it a try!
hey, there is absolutley nothing wrong with the way you face situations! in fact i would like to have more people like u at my school, but i see what you mean by the bossing around. be nice but set lines, and dont let people cross them. here is an example, if you need to lend someone a pen, go ahead and lend it but make sure you tell them you want it back after that class, or something, thats just a example, you may be older than a high school student. dont let people walk on you, but dont make them hate you! u must find that in between where they RESPET you and ur kindness. but pleas,e dont change!
i'm always the nicest person around, so people tend to boss me.
i want to change, yet i don't know how..How do you change yourself?
Funny, i've always had this ';He's going to screw you over as soon as your back is turned'; look, judging from the way people treat me.How do you change yourself?
Welcome to the world I was in! The first step is to understand the person you are! I mean you need to dissect your personality. Take as many personality profiles as you can, take IQ tests over and over, take study habits tests to find your tendencies. There are many on line! I've got a few bookmarked if you want them. Next, find the strengths and use them! Lastly you need to (this is so lame sounding but true) ';LOVE'; yourself! Let me explain. I was teaching self defense to a bunch of little old ladies at a country club. When I asked them, if I told them I was going to attack them, how would they react, all said they would freak out and run. When I asked them that I had just face slapped their grand daughter and was about to do it again, how would they react. I got almost a unanimous ';I'd Kick your azz';!
What changed? Same old ladies, same 6 foot 4 inch 220 pound guy. The difference was the attitude of love. They needed to get to the ';How Dare You'; attitude toward themselves. After that, the class was a breeze! In fact I still have some bruising!
You need to get the ';How Dare You'; mindset! Never let anyone take advantage of you. Just the expression on your face can change how people interact with you. The change from nice girl to ';What did you just say to me'; can turn people from aggressive to submissive in seconds! Give it a try!
hey, there is absolutley nothing wrong with the way you face situations! in fact i would like to have more people like u at my school, but i see what you mean by the bossing around. be nice but set lines, and dont let people cross them. here is an example, if you need to lend someone a pen, go ahead and lend it but make sure you tell them you want it back after that class, or something, thats just a example, you may be older than a high school student. dont let people walk on you, but dont make them hate you! u must find that in between where they RESPET you and ur kindness. but pleas,e dont change!
How do you change yourself?
I'm trying to make a career change in my life but I'm finding nothing that suits me. I have a real problem being self motivating and I can't stay focused worth a darn. How do I change the way I do things. I want to be proactive but I can't ';just do it'; so help please!How do you change yourself?
Our life is so fast. Living in the same way for long time is useless nowadays... Changing is the only way. When anyone changes anything related with him/her, he/she will feel the pulse of his/her life.
Steps
1.Accept and admit that you need to change. This is a huge step. The fact that you already clicked on this article shows that you want to change, and know somewhere you have a problem.
2.Think of all the things in your life you want better. Make a list of all the things, or the thing, that you want to change.
3.Don't set any limits to your change. If you think maybe, someone will make fun of you for trying to change, or maybe it isn't possible, or that you just can't, realize that it doesn't matter! It's a psychological change, so attitude plays a big part in your ability to succeed. Set small, easy goals that you know you can achieve and work your way up.
4. Write the steps that you need to take to achieve the changes you wrote down. Be reasonable, but don't be afraid to reach high at the same time. Set a day when you'll start taking all these steps.
5.When that day comes to start doing those steps, just do it. Don't even think about it. Abandon everything you don't want and just throw yourself into the new you!How do you change yourself?
Try doing something you like. Money isn't everything, remember that...
It's a waste. I haven't changed in years, despite people telling me how much they hate me. Hell, one person even told me she prays I die a painful death. Not that I value the opinions of people who pray all that much anyways.
The key is to be as abrasive to everyone as possible. They'll start changing soon. At least that's what I've found. Unfortunately, the only friend I have isn't changing much, and the horrifying thing is that she's the exact opposite of me. She gives a **** about everyone.
So how do you change? I wouldn't know. Come spend a day or two with me. You'll probably change.
Our life is so fast. Living in the same way for long time is useless nowadays... Changing is the only way. When anyone changes anything related with him/her, he/she will feel the pulse of his/her life.
Steps
1.Accept and admit that you need to change. This is a huge step. The fact that you already clicked on this article shows that you want to change, and know somewhere you have a problem.
2.Think of all the things in your life you want better. Make a list of all the things, or the thing, that you want to change.
3.Don't set any limits to your change. If you think maybe, someone will make fun of you for trying to change, or maybe it isn't possible, or that you just can't, realize that it doesn't matter! It's a psychological change, so attitude plays a big part in your ability to succeed. Set small, easy goals that you know you can achieve and work your way up.
4. Write the steps that you need to take to achieve the changes you wrote down. Be reasonable, but don't be afraid to reach high at the same time. Set a day when you'll start taking all these steps.
5.When that day comes to start doing those steps, just do it. Don't even think about it. Abandon everything you don't want and just throw yourself into the new you!How do you change yourself?
Try doing something you like. Money isn't everything, remember that...
It's a waste. I haven't changed in years, despite people telling me how much they hate me. Hell, one person even told me she prays I die a painful death. Not that I value the opinions of people who pray all that much anyways.
The key is to be as abrasive to everyone as possible. They'll start changing soon. At least that's what I've found. Unfortunately, the only friend I have isn't changing much, and the horrifying thing is that she's the exact opposite of me. She gives a **** about everyone.
So how do you change? I wouldn't know. Come spend a day or two with me. You'll probably change.
How do you change yourself?
If you're not the person that you want to be, how do you figure out the necessary changes to be made and then make them?How do you change yourself?
Keep a daily diary. Include in it the events of the day, how you reacted to them and how your feelings and emotions were effected. This will give you the ability to see what changes you would like to make, as well as a record of your progress.How do you change yourself?
wow u shouldnt want to change yourself. be happy with who you are. you dont need to be anyone else
Small steps. I had a horrible temper. I started with just not acting on it, but letting myself be angry. Then I started looking at why I was angry and started chipping on that, until I didnt' get angry so much. It is just like losing weight.. can't do it overnight, you chip away at the stuff you don't like and replace it with the stuff you do. You stumble along the way and you have to start again. Multiple studies show it takes 30 or 40 days for a human to change a habit.
We all change throughout our lives. I am not the same person I was when I was in my 20's or 30's. (41 now). I think if you want to make improvements, you need to write down what those improvements would be....such as being more at ease around others or feeling more comfortable in your own skin. There's nothing wrong about thriving to do better or be better....it's healthy....and normal to evolve. It's also healthy to realize what you already have going for you so make a list of things that you like about yourself too if need be. :-)
Plastic Surgery.
Start on your anger, non forgiveness, and looking back on the past so much. You can make slow changes. Make an effort every day to see what you can do to help someone else. Love and kindness go a long way. You can make your self happy or not. Life is not perfect, but find what makes you happy!
Anna if you are not the person you want to be find people who are what you want to become, for they have the answers you so desperately seek. I was always told that if you want to be successful then you need to surround yourself with those who are a success. You can not hang with people who are the very thing you want to get away from and expect to find a way out.
Taking honest assessments are a necessary part of personal growth, I use the Bible as my standard to tell me what needs to be changed. I pray to God to ask him to help me change and trust his direction for this to happen. I can not change myself without his help.
Keep a daily diary. Include in it the events of the day, how you reacted to them and how your feelings and emotions were effected. This will give you the ability to see what changes you would like to make, as well as a record of your progress.How do you change yourself?
wow u shouldnt want to change yourself. be happy with who you are. you dont need to be anyone else
Small steps. I had a horrible temper. I started with just not acting on it, but letting myself be angry. Then I started looking at why I was angry and started chipping on that, until I didnt' get angry so much. It is just like losing weight.. can't do it overnight, you chip away at the stuff you don't like and replace it with the stuff you do. You stumble along the way and you have to start again. Multiple studies show it takes 30 or 40 days for a human to change a habit.
We all change throughout our lives. I am not the same person I was when I was in my 20's or 30's. (41 now). I think if you want to make improvements, you need to write down what those improvements would be....such as being more at ease around others or feeling more comfortable in your own skin. There's nothing wrong about thriving to do better or be better....it's healthy....and normal to evolve. It's also healthy to realize what you already have going for you so make a list of things that you like about yourself too if need be. :-)
Plastic Surgery.
Start on your anger, non forgiveness, and looking back on the past so much. You can make slow changes. Make an effort every day to see what you can do to help someone else. Love and kindness go a long way. You can make your self happy or not. Life is not perfect, but find what makes you happy!
Anna if you are not the person you want to be find people who are what you want to become, for they have the answers you so desperately seek. I was always told that if you want to be successful then you need to surround yourself with those who are a success. You can not hang with people who are the very thing you want to get away from and expect to find a way out.
Taking honest assessments are a necessary part of personal growth, I use the Bible as my standard to tell me what needs to be changed. I pray to God to ask him to help me change and trust his direction for this to happen. I can not change myself without his help.
How can you truely change yourself ?
I want to change myself i want to be less clumsy and i want stop making stupid comments i know you probably think just change but it's not that easy i keep trying but it doesn't work. I want to try again and i want it to work. How can i change without giving up because every time i try i will be clumsy a few times and it will put me down and i have to start all over again ?How can you truely change yourself ?
i think lot of things are messed up in ur life
do not worry...
what u can do is think why those things happened and try to avoid the mistakes
u can try meditating
it helps
collect confidence
all d bestHow can you truely change yourself ?
Stop thinking about ';how not to be clumsy'; instead... remember to always take a deep breath before doing/saying/comment on anything. Count 1 to 10 if necessary before you do that.
You'll see a progress.
Good luck
its not about changeing your movements its about what you think about yourself if you always say your clumsy you will be clumsy instead think about how gracefull you are
Just keep trying...eventually, your new ways will become your regular habits. Sometimes it helps to have a physical reminder...like a ribbon or wearing a certain color. Some people wear purple, for example, everyday to remind them of a certain task that they must complete. Try creating some more obvious reminders for yourself.
its really hard. like really hard. so it takes a lot of effort and patience and perserverance.
clikc the chat on my profile if you want advie on change. or not. up to you
i think lot of things are messed up in ur life
do not worry...
what u can do is think why those things happened and try to avoid the mistakes
u can try meditating
it helps
collect confidence
all d bestHow can you truely change yourself ?
Stop thinking about ';how not to be clumsy'; instead... remember to always take a deep breath before doing/saying/comment on anything. Count 1 to 10 if necessary before you do that.
You'll see a progress.
Good luck
its not about changeing your movements its about what you think about yourself if you always say your clumsy you will be clumsy instead think about how gracefull you are
Just keep trying...eventually, your new ways will become your regular habits. Sometimes it helps to have a physical reminder...like a ribbon or wearing a certain color. Some people wear purple, for example, everyday to remind them of a certain task that they must complete. Try creating some more obvious reminders for yourself.
its really hard. like really hard. so it takes a lot of effort and patience and perserverance.
clikc the chat on my profile if you want advie on change. or not. up to you
How can you change yourself from thinking negatively about everyone?
I tend to have a bad expectation set on certain people and it really affects me socially. How can I change my ways of thinking so I can turn a potential ugly situation into a positive situation?How can you change yourself from thinking negatively about everyone?
My mom always said, ';Think that the worst is going to happen because it usually does, and if it doesn't happen then it will be a nice surprise'; ha... thanks mom. I don't think like that though, it's not my nature. I think you just have to take small steps in your thinking. You can't change the way you are all at once, it takes some time. You have to be super aware of what you are thinking all of the time at first, but then it gets easier. Set some goals for yourself, like, I will think one good thought a day about a situation, or make a list of 10 things you are grateful for each day. How can you change yourself from thinking negatively about everyone?
As soon as you start, force yourself to think of something positive about the person. Focus on that.
I look at people and think of something I like about them, before thinking about what I dislike about them. If I focus more about what I admire in them, I am less likely to show any kind of negativity towards them. It takes practice, but the more you do it, the easier it becomes and the better you become at interacting with people.
have you ever thought about some people don't know any better and some were raised the way they are or someone else habits grew on them but don't judge a book by its cover
First examine yourself. Even if you think that you are perfect, that is an imperfection, hubris.
Second, try to perform good works for people and find out more about them. Most likely you can find that everyone is trying to get through life as much as best they can.
hmm, i'm not sure
well that's so simple!! take away all those bad expectations out of your mind, think about stuffs they did good for you!! i know if you don't have any just try thinking..you'll feel much better, i have tried it, my mom always gives me good thoughts..find a good friends or cousin...or it would be if your mom can help you! a friend with whom you can share your feelings... when feeling bad listen to your favorite music,..
have a nice day and good luck!!!!
It sounds like you have allowed certain people or situations to get into your head, the longer they stay there, the worst the situation will become.
If they are not paying you rent money to be in your head, why allow them to stay?
It really is not so difficult you know.fish get rid of beauty marks
My mom always said, ';Think that the worst is going to happen because it usually does, and if it doesn't happen then it will be a nice surprise'; ha... thanks mom. I don't think like that though, it's not my nature. I think you just have to take small steps in your thinking. You can't change the way you are all at once, it takes some time. You have to be super aware of what you are thinking all of the time at first, but then it gets easier. Set some goals for yourself, like, I will think one good thought a day about a situation, or make a list of 10 things you are grateful for each day. How can you change yourself from thinking negatively about everyone?
As soon as you start, force yourself to think of something positive about the person. Focus on that.
I look at people and think of something I like about them, before thinking about what I dislike about them. If I focus more about what I admire in them, I am less likely to show any kind of negativity towards them. It takes practice, but the more you do it, the easier it becomes and the better you become at interacting with people.
have you ever thought about some people don't know any better and some were raised the way they are or someone else habits grew on them but don't judge a book by its cover
First examine yourself. Even if you think that you are perfect, that is an imperfection, hubris.
Second, try to perform good works for people and find out more about them. Most likely you can find that everyone is trying to get through life as much as best they can.
hmm, i'm not sure
well that's so simple!! take away all those bad expectations out of your mind, think about stuffs they did good for you!! i know if you don't have any just try thinking..you'll feel much better, i have tried it, my mom always gives me good thoughts..find a good friends or cousin...or it would be if your mom can help you! a friend with whom you can share your feelings... when feeling bad listen to your favorite music,..
have a nice day and good luck!!!!
It sounds like you have allowed certain people or situations to get into your head, the longer they stay there, the worst the situation will become.
If they are not paying you rent money to be in your head, why allow them to stay?
It really is not so difficult you know.
What are the best ways to change yourself so you and everyone around you feels good about you?
i'm not exactly great looking and i suffer from low self esteem and can b very paranoid about how people view me. recently i decided to do a few things different by caring less wat people think of me and trying to smile more, to be more friendly as well as changing my look a little (i wear glasses but i hope to get new thick frame ones, tryin new clothes and spiking my hair up) but still being me who people say is funny, caring, hard-working, kind and sweet. is there anything else i can do cus i want people to give me respect and get girls to just notice me? thanks :)What are the best ways to change yourself so you and everyone around you feels good about you?
the only way to change what other people think about it is to change the way you feel about yourself.
Its hard, i know, i used to suffer from low self esteem and i had many problems when i was younger from it, but you can only be you!!
And those people who care about you will love you for that.
Spend more time making sure you feel better about yourself. If that means spending longer doing your hair, or buying some new clothes then do it.
and make sure you spend a lot of time with people you care about, because they will boost your confidence more than anything.
People underestimate the values of friends.
Just be yourself, because at the end of the day, thats who a girls going to notice, someone whos different!! And someone who's themselves.
Good luck!!
(By the way, with the girl thing... listen :P Girls like good listeners!)What are the best ways to change yourself so you and everyone around you feels good about you?
I guess you could really work on your low self esteem issue. If you're confident in yourself than others will be confident in you :) I'm pretty sure girls dig guys that are confident with themselves that they know what they're doing. There's really not a specific way to dress to get girls to like you. It's just gotta be you. Be yourself, because if you change yourself - completely, they'll only like you for your changes. Maybe you could improve on your looks ya know, fix your hair differently or whatever, but make it a twist that it'll still be you in there :) I say good luck to you! Just be yourself, really.
And work on that self confidence.
If you want girls to notice you.. dont be insensitive. By this i mean dont say oh your hot! nice ****! go out with me! thats the WORST.. unless shes just around to flirt... Try get to know girls? become closer to a perticular one? get to be good friends. Then maybe she will start to like you more than a friend. Also if its guys that arent respecting you. Tell them where to go! you dont need respect from others you should be happy as you are =)
u dont have to go through all the hard work by making u look good.
most girls like guys that have a nice personality. r funny, honest, caring, loyal, trustworthy. if u have all those characteristics then your perfect.
guys who are really good looking have a bad personality and girls dont like them very much
however if u want to change the way u look u can get contacts or yeah, where thick rimmed glasses. spiking your hair is good and if u have acne problem (who cares if u do, almost everyone does) then get medicine from the doctor to put on.
but girls usually like guys like u. and having low esteem will pass. i have them and still do but i dont care how people think of me. i like the way i am and i'm proud of it and u should be too
glad to help!
good luck: - )
I think you just gotta keep plugging at it. The one thing I always find, people like to share...they love to communicate. Give them the oppertunity to do this, ask lots of questions. Don't think too hard about the questions, eventually conversation will flow! This is a great way of talking to women. :)
I know people say looks don't matter and there right some of the times, it just depends where. I personally don't care what i guys face is like and geeky turns people on. what i do mind however is TEETH!!! There is a boy who likes me and he isn't the best looking but i only really don't go out with him coz his teeth are what i call cheesy wotsit teeth. They are thick with yellow gunge, im not even sure its plaque, and i cant see myself EVER kissing him. Who would want there tongue in a mouth like that?? eww!! Totally puts me off. But if i cant bare to kiss him then how can i expect anything else to happen? the relationship there obviously would never last! Also becarefull when spiking your hair up, sometimes it can make people look worse rather than better. As long as your hair is NEVER greasy you should be ok. Also what do you smell like?? I think smell is important in a relationship. B.O isn't nice where as lynx is! Your personality sounds great and that is good because you shouldn't have to change that for ANYONE. There are LOTS of fish in the sea!! Getting girls isn't just chatting them up in night cubs, have you tried speed or internet dating?? Why just stick to local girls when you have the whole world to explore??
I hope I helped you anyway babess and I hope i don't sound TOO awfull.
Chloe. xxx
I'm an old man now but after unhappy teenage years I observed someone who I worked with. He never had trouble attracting friends of both sexes. I tried to Model myself on him, never with his success but with much better results than previously. The answer is
1. smile and be happy on the outside no matter how much you hurt on the inside.
2. Ask questions about the people you meet and listen carefully to what they say, try to play down talking to much about your self.
3. Don't run other people down every one has their problems.
Finally don't worry you will get more confident as you get older.
Maybe ask some of your girlfriends to help change your look a little that way you know what they want. Never try and be something your not and always stay true to yourself. If someone really likes you they will like you for you and not what you look like (:
goodluck
xo
the only way to change what other people think about it is to change the way you feel about yourself.
Its hard, i know, i used to suffer from low self esteem and i had many problems when i was younger from it, but you can only be you!!
And those people who care about you will love you for that.
Spend more time making sure you feel better about yourself. If that means spending longer doing your hair, or buying some new clothes then do it.
and make sure you spend a lot of time with people you care about, because they will boost your confidence more than anything.
People underestimate the values of friends.
Just be yourself, because at the end of the day, thats who a girls going to notice, someone whos different!! And someone who's themselves.
Good luck!!
(By the way, with the girl thing... listen :P Girls like good listeners!)What are the best ways to change yourself so you and everyone around you feels good about you?
I guess you could really work on your low self esteem issue. If you're confident in yourself than others will be confident in you :) I'm pretty sure girls dig guys that are confident with themselves that they know what they're doing. There's really not a specific way to dress to get girls to like you. It's just gotta be you. Be yourself, because if you change yourself - completely, they'll only like you for your changes. Maybe you could improve on your looks ya know, fix your hair differently or whatever, but make it a twist that it'll still be you in there :) I say good luck to you! Just be yourself, really.
And work on that self confidence.
If you want girls to notice you.. dont be insensitive. By this i mean dont say oh your hot! nice ****! go out with me! thats the WORST.. unless shes just around to flirt... Try get to know girls? become closer to a perticular one? get to be good friends. Then maybe she will start to like you more than a friend. Also if its guys that arent respecting you. Tell them where to go! you dont need respect from others you should be happy as you are =)
u dont have to go through all the hard work by making u look good.
most girls like guys that have a nice personality. r funny, honest, caring, loyal, trustworthy. if u have all those characteristics then your perfect.
guys who are really good looking have a bad personality and girls dont like them very much
however if u want to change the way u look u can get contacts or yeah, where thick rimmed glasses. spiking your hair is good and if u have acne problem (who cares if u do, almost everyone does) then get medicine from the doctor to put on.
but girls usually like guys like u. and having low esteem will pass. i have them and still do but i dont care how people think of me. i like the way i am and i'm proud of it and u should be too
glad to help!
good luck: - )
I think you just gotta keep plugging at it. The one thing I always find, people like to share...they love to communicate. Give them the oppertunity to do this, ask lots of questions. Don't think too hard about the questions, eventually conversation will flow! This is a great way of talking to women. :)
I know people say looks don't matter and there right some of the times, it just depends where. I personally don't care what i guys face is like and geeky turns people on. what i do mind however is TEETH!!! There is a boy who likes me and he isn't the best looking but i only really don't go out with him coz his teeth are what i call cheesy wotsit teeth. They are thick with yellow gunge, im not even sure its plaque, and i cant see myself EVER kissing him. Who would want there tongue in a mouth like that?? eww!! Totally puts me off. But if i cant bare to kiss him then how can i expect anything else to happen? the relationship there obviously would never last! Also becarefull when spiking your hair up, sometimes it can make people look worse rather than better. As long as your hair is NEVER greasy you should be ok. Also what do you smell like?? I think smell is important in a relationship. B.O isn't nice where as lynx is! Your personality sounds great and that is good because you shouldn't have to change that for ANYONE. There are LOTS of fish in the sea!! Getting girls isn't just chatting them up in night cubs, have you tried speed or internet dating?? Why just stick to local girls when you have the whole world to explore??
I hope I helped you anyway babess and I hope i don't sound TOO awfull.
Chloe. xxx
I'm an old man now but after unhappy teenage years I observed someone who I worked with. He never had trouble attracting friends of both sexes. I tried to Model myself on him, never with his success but with much better results than previously. The answer is
1. smile and be happy on the outside no matter how much you hurt on the inside.
2. Ask questions about the people you meet and listen carefully to what they say, try to play down talking to much about your self.
3. Don't run other people down every one has their problems.
Finally don't worry you will get more confident as you get older.
Maybe ask some of your girlfriends to help change your look a little that way you know what they want. Never try and be something your not and always stay true to yourself. If someone really likes you they will like you for you and not what you look like (:
goodluck
xo
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