You need to make these changes slowly, and you have to be prepared to do that. In other words, becoming an outgoing, very confident, high self esteem person is likely not going to happen over night. You made the first step, realizing your dilemma and seeing that there could be more for yourself. Just start small with your inner self- don't believe in yourself, rather KNOW in yourself (know you can do it, rather than think you can do it, for example). For relationships, I don't think your ready yet, basically. If your having problems when you get the point of ';almost'; bf/gf, then instead when you like someone, just try to be friends with them plus some flirting to show interest if you'd want to. Expand your social network, meet more people, join clubs, etc. This will make you more outgoing and confident. After this, then go for relationships, and this time in you'll be confident and ahead of the game so to speak. I think a lot of people feel like they ';need'; to be in a relationship (even I feel like that sometimes), but wait until you feel great personally, and then go for it. People feel just like you all the time, including myself. You're not cursed or anything, you just gotta have faith and live your life :-) Make little changes and things should fall into place. Hope it helps.How do you change yourself?
you might need to get out more,,meet people,,join clubs,volunteer...you know,,,get a life,,,make a life of your own.
no, you're not fated to be cursed. no one is. maybe you have to see a psychologist. and maybe you have to have a good look at yourself in the mirror and change your outlook in yourself. having straight A's is not an easy feat. that alone must give you some self confidence. not all people get that. also, learn to love yourself. tell yourself you love you.at first you might not believe it, but later on, you will. and give yourself the best of life you can give. don't rush into a relationship first. concentrate on making yourself whole. then look for someone worthy of your love. you'll make it, girl.just hang on.
You can achieve your goal of having good relationships and of feeling better about yourself, but it will take time. Working on YOU should come first, but in doing so, practice the simple habit of being friendly and outgoing. I know it is a stretch for your personality, but it can be done. It just takes more effort.
Time is needed because time will allow your hurts to heal and your talents to mend your self-image. It will require patience, but as you see what God wants you to do with your life, you will gain the confidence you need. You will realize that you do deserve to be with someone kind and loving and you won't sabotage relationships and hold back because of fear.
before changing myself first i should know what is my weaknesses then through this weakness i will change my living strategy . hope u got the ans.
its hard for others to see your worth if you yourself believe youre worthless.its hard to change who we really are but asking god everyday to bless us with guidance and help us to make things better if not change everything about us would be of great help.never give up on yourself,god hears us all we need is ask him.goodluck.
You are definately not cursed. You have not met the right person yet. The right person will accept you for who you are (shy and/or timid), being yourself is most appealing to the right person. Now, self confidence is different. Start by excentuatng your positives. Than decide what you want to be different and work on that ONE thing. Take baby steps. Many, and I mean MANY people have to work though difficult childhoods. You are not alone. However, it is the first step to recognize there is a problem. So, you are on your way. Seek counseling, someone you trust, and work through your past. My favorite saying is '; there is NO future in your past'; So, you will not be able to move forward if the past is still a part of the present. Good luck.
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