What are the best ways to change yourself so you and everyone around you feels good about you?

i'm not exactly great looking and i suffer from low self esteem and can b very paranoid about how people view me. recently i decided to do a few things different by caring less wat people think of me and trying to smile more, to be more friendly as well as changing my look a little (i wear glasses but i hope to get new thick frame ones, tryin new clothes and spiking my hair up) but still being me who people say is funny, caring, hard-working, kind and sweet. is there anything else i can do cus i want people to give me respect and get girls to just notice me? thanks :)What are the best ways to change yourself so you and everyone around you feels good about you?
the only way to change what other people think about it is to change the way you feel about yourself.

Its hard, i know, i used to suffer from low self esteem and i had many problems when i was younger from it, but you can only be you!!

And those people who care about you will love you for that.

Spend more time making sure you feel better about yourself. If that means spending longer doing your hair, or buying some new clothes then do it.

and make sure you spend a lot of time with people you care about, because they will boost your confidence more than anything.

People underestimate the values of friends.



Just be yourself, because at the end of the day, thats who a girls going to notice, someone whos different!! And someone who's themselves.



Good luck!!

(By the way, with the girl thing... listen :P Girls like good listeners!)What are the best ways to change yourself so you and everyone around you feels good about you?
I guess you could really work on your low self esteem issue. If you're confident in yourself than others will be confident in you :) I'm pretty sure girls dig guys that are confident with themselves that they know what they're doing. There's really not a specific way to dress to get girls to like you. It's just gotta be you. Be yourself, because if you change yourself - completely, they'll only like you for your changes. Maybe you could improve on your looks ya know, fix your hair differently or whatever, but make it a twist that it'll still be you in there :) I say good luck to you! Just be yourself, really.

And work on that self confidence.
If you want girls to notice you.. dont be insensitive. By this i mean dont say oh your hot! nice ****! go out with me! thats the WORST.. unless shes just around to flirt... Try get to know girls? become closer to a perticular one? get to be good friends. Then maybe she will start to like you more than a friend. Also if its guys that arent respecting you. Tell them where to go! you dont need respect from others you should be happy as you are =)
u dont have to go through all the hard work by making u look good.

most girls like guys that have a nice personality. r funny, honest, caring, loyal, trustworthy. if u have all those characteristics then your perfect.

guys who are really good looking have a bad personality and girls dont like them very much

however if u want to change the way u look u can get contacts or yeah, where thick rimmed glasses. spiking your hair is good and if u have acne problem (who cares if u do, almost everyone does) then get medicine from the doctor to put on.



but girls usually like guys like u. and having low esteem will pass. i have them and still do but i dont care how people think of me. i like the way i am and i'm proud of it and u should be too



glad to help!

good luck: - )
I think you just gotta keep plugging at it. The one thing I always find, people like to share...they love to communicate. Give them the oppertunity to do this, ask lots of questions. Don't think too hard about the questions, eventually conversation will flow! This is a great way of talking to women. :)
I know people say looks don't matter and there right some of the times, it just depends where. I personally don't care what i guys face is like and geeky turns people on. what i do mind however is TEETH!!! There is a boy who likes me and he isn't the best looking but i only really don't go out with him coz his teeth are what i call cheesy wotsit teeth. They are thick with yellow gunge, im not even sure its plaque, and i cant see myself EVER kissing him. Who would want there tongue in a mouth like that?? eww!! Totally puts me off. But if i cant bare to kiss him then how can i expect anything else to happen? the relationship there obviously would never last! Also becarefull when spiking your hair up, sometimes it can make people look worse rather than better. As long as your hair is NEVER greasy you should be ok. Also what do you smell like?? I think smell is important in a relationship. B.O isn't nice where as lynx is! Your personality sounds great and that is good because you shouldn't have to change that for ANYONE. There are LOTS of fish in the sea!! Getting girls isn't just chatting them up in night cubs, have you tried speed or internet dating?? Why just stick to local girls when you have the whole world to explore??



I hope I helped you anyway babess and I hope i don't sound TOO awfull.



Chloe. xxx
I'm an old man now but after unhappy teenage years I observed someone who I worked with. He never had trouble attracting friends of both sexes. I tried to Model myself on him, never with his success but with much better results than previously. The answer is

1. smile and be happy on the outside no matter how much you hurt on the inside.

2. Ask questions about the people you meet and listen carefully to what they say, try to play down talking to much about your self.

3. Don't run other people down every one has their problems.

Finally don't worry you will get more confident as you get older.
Maybe ask some of your girlfriends to help change your look a little that way you know what they want. Never try and be something your not and always stay true to yourself. If someone really likes you they will like you for you and not what you look like (:

goodluck

xo