How do you become popular without changing yourself too much?

Ok. Here's the deal... At school no one likes meh cause they all say that i'm scary? O.o don't know how i'm scary but anyway... i can't seem to make many friends... i have r few, but i mostly think they only hang around meh so they don't get picked on, they hardly talk to meh at all. does anyone know how i can make proper friends without scarin everyone off????? ur help is appreciated.How do you become popular without changing yourself too much?
You have to make a choice in things like this. Kind of like here on Yahoo Answers. Do you want LOTS of answers -- that are shallow and pretty meaningless? Or do you want one or 2 really GOOD answers that help you move on with your life? The same is true about being popular. A single GOOD friend that you know you can trust and completely rely on is much more valuable than having a whole slew of 'popular' friends that will turn on you the minute your back is turned. And don't think they won't! Just listen to them talk about their 'other' friends some time.



So, my advice? Maybe try to be a bit more outgoing, but don't push yourself where you don't belong. Open up a bit to your 'friends' and ask them why they think you are scary. You will all probably have a good laugh about it, if you can bring yourself to be that vulnerable to them. Now, THAT part can be scary, for sure, but being vulnerable to others is often the way to get them to return the favor -- and develop a closer friendship.



Another bit of advice is to shift your focus. If you focus too much on you and not on them, you can seem unapproachable. So, if your friends don't talk to you that much, talk to THEM, find out what they are into and get them to talk about it, etc. You might find you have more in common than you first though.



Finally, do some research. Read about the childhood and school experiences of many of the most important people in the world. You'll probably discover that many of them felt like they had no friends, were isolated in school, felt 'different' from their classmates, etc. Being an individual -- and not just one of the popular kids -- is not always a drawback!



Good luck.