Why are men expected to change, alter and put effort into attracting women, yet women won't do like wise?

They won't accept men such as nice ones for who and how they are in their personality and characteristics, and men are expected to always be the ones to put in to get out - put all the study, preparation, work and effect into attracting, approaching and asking asking out a woman. Particulary mentally and emotionally we're expected to change our personality to suit what matches/is compatible to their strict critreria, asessment and attitude.



Why is it we always have to be the ones to ask them out/and or chase them, not both ways, and alter, change our lifestyle, personality?

Although I suppose in history, it wasn't regarded as lady like for a woman to ';chase'; (pursue) men and ask them out, let alone propose marriage to them.



We're not all naturally or are the same as those who are called/regarded as: confident, suave, charismatic, charming, adventurous, daring, extroverted, macho, egotistical.



Men have far more interest in women, than women will ever have in men, they're content enough with they're defined worth of how many friends they have.



Women could probably live without men except usually where spatial ability comes in handy for building, constucting and maintaining social infrastructure, navigation/orienteering, and operation of society running smoothly where spatial ability is required.

(Not intented as sexist comment by the way, I did do a little Gender Studies at Uni and have bought quite a number of Self Help/Motivation/Improvement/Relationship?related books over the past several years)

They wouldn't even miss us.

Like a sticker on the back window of a woman's car I remember once seeing: ';Husband and Dog Missing - Reward for Dog';



I spent ages being a romance writer and am seriosuly considering not contiuning/completing what I had left to do, and just destroying it, having nothing to do with women, and be content with the environment, nature if not animals too.

I was preparing to write one of the best statements a man could write about a woman - particularly in a romantic sense. Now I'm wondering whether it's worth it at all.



At least a dog will show you unconditional love and will be by your side, and think the world of you, without you having/needing/being required to drastically change yourself and your personality from say a so called ';S.N.A.G.'; or ';nice'; type of man to a macho, egotistical, smug, thinks he Mr cool and terrific, alpha male ';king pin'; bad guy to be eligible and qaulify to date and be involved/a part in relationships with women.

A cat will probably only hang around to be fed, but they'll let you pat them, brush their coat (provided their in a good mood and temperament) and pets are said to be beneficial to people.



I don't know if some other men out there agree, but if it's essential and necessary that a man has to change, alter his personality, characteristics, then what has the world and society come to, and what's the point, if a woman won't show you with acceptance that you have a lot of worth as you are, regardless of if say for instance you don't know a lot of people (so called ';social worth'; rubbish) or your not the same, or necessarily the same, similar to other people and or have a different personality in particular and or interest, beliefs, values to what they do, even if your introverted?



I'm not saying/asking this to be awful, but do any men out there think women or some women can be if not are picky, fussy and too particular about what they want and look for?



Oh yeah, a final mention, ladies what do you think of the two following online services for men to learn how to attract women?

(Although I'm risking the fact other men will discover these sites)



www.guygetsgirl.com

www.themodernman.com



Sorry if I sounded like I was ranting and raving.



Why are men expected to change, alter and put effort into attracting women, yet women won't do like wise?
In modern culture, it is perfectly acceptable for men to chase after women, but just seems slutty and forward for women to chase after men. Men would not be attracted to us if we showed them that we cared if they were attracted. We do try to change a little for men we like, but not too much, and only privately.



I personally do not believe that anyone should change for anyone else. If you do not suit me now, I do not expect a you pretending to be somebody else to suit me. Maybe my philosophy on the issue prevents me from accepting less than perfect men, but I'm alright with that. Everyone has SOMEONE out there that is just right for then, and I found mine all the way on the other side of the country. I didn't have to change, and neither did he. In fact, I don't even wear makeup, I see it as dishonest.



I agree that too much pressure is put on men to change, and I think that I know a way to cure it for you. If you want the freedom women have, do what women do, pretend you don't care. Act as though it makes no difference to you whether that girl likes you until you're sure she does. I works for women, why not for you, eh?Why are men expected to change, alter and put effort into attracting women, yet women won't do like wise?
Apparently because men will do almost anything to get the ';prize';. Women are aware of this and use it to their advantage.
I disagree with you. Women have a lot of pressure to look ';hot'; and when they're in the relationship they have a lot of pressure to keep things together. We have pressures too, they're just different ones.



I just think that you need to take a good look at yourself, if you know you need to change things then change them, if you know you're okay then keep looking until the right woman finds you.



I don't want a guy that I like to change himself, personally I hate guys that are whipped, it makes me think they are weak. I want someone with a personality and backbone.
A man is supposed to be a macho, while a woman is supposed to be a babe.



Women by nature and by most cultures are supposed to be centripetal, to more be tending towards the nest, to the assiduous care of their own children and of the home



while men are supposed to be centrifugal, to daringly venture and conquer out into the deadly dangerous surroundings and far away into wild unexplored nature.



It was Columbus, and not his wife, to very daringly try sailing away into the unknown and to discover America, and when he came home and wanted to tell about all his adventures, she was not even much impressed.



It was Odysseus, and not his wife, to spend his life and his fights towards the dire waters and the very deadly dangerous shores of the Mediterranean.



Hope this did not sound all too ranting and raving.