You know how everyone says that attractiveness is just about personality?

Well i was wondering, isn't that unfair? I mean everyone is like ';it's not about how you look it's about your personality'; But i think that's unfair, because your born with your personality and i think everyone should be themselves. For example it's considered a lot better to be outgoing than quite, but if you are naturally quite than you shouldn't change yourself just to fit in, right?

Am i making Sense here? Tell me your opinion.You know how everyone says that attractiveness is just about personality?
You are the person you make yourself.. You build who you are.. Yeah this is a bunch of BS but you know how many people out there build themselves to have the personality they have now.. They changed because they felt that it was necessary to change.. Some people do there best and they are still awesome..You know how everyone says that attractiveness is just about personality?
theres nothing wrong with being quiet. lots of people prefer quiet people to loud/outgoing ones
what is your question?
Well, maybe someone finds a naturally quiet personality attractive....so beauty or attractiveness is in the eye of the beholder...
Its not ONLY about personality though personality has a lot more to do with attraction (especially long-term) than anything else.



Its not unfair. We all like different things. Different personality types are attracted to different personality types. I don't think people should change just to fit in. They may want to change if they're unhappy with themselves or the responses they're getting from others.



I've always liked thinking of it this way - there's a screw for every nut. Bottom line - be yourself (and patient?) and you'll find someone perfect for you. If you're fake just to find a mate, you won't be happy anyhow.
yes this does make since, i am veryy shy. i wont speak unless im spoken to. but i have found a wonderful boyfriend. who is outgoing, but shy as well. i mean its all on who you meet. i dont really think it is unfair unless you really cant findsomeone. and there are some who do look upon beauty and not personality, but those are really the jerks. i hadnt kissed a boy until i found who i am currently with. and that was at 15 i found him. and i dont find that unfair. it all on how you look at it really
some what but attractiveness is usually based on pheromones, im no scientist but as I recall ur much more likely to be attractive if u have opposite pheromones
No, it is a combination of both physical and personality traits. And if you are a quiet person, than you don't have to be any different just to fit in. I'll bet when you find a conversation about something you are interested in and know about, you have alot to say. To get over my shyness I took a voice class. It was so hard, but now when I need to I can say something alot easier than before the class.


id like to say that your personality is predetermined to an extent, your personality is very much effected by your environment



and no you should not change yourself to fit in, but there is a difference between being quiet and avoiding conversation