You know how people say.. dont change for anybody.. well what if you want to change for yourself?

what if you are really unhappy with who you are and how you act and confidence and stuff..

then is it ok to change? :S xYou know how people say.. dont change for anybody.. well what if you want to change for yourself?
People make changes when they become so uncomfortable that not to is the worse of the choices. My guess is that your changes will then be for the better, and of course it's OK.You know how people say.. dont change for anybody.. well what if you want to change for yourself?
i would say so.

its important that you are happy with who you are.

some changes may be for the best
corse its oka to change, But why wouldnt you be happy with yourself if you made yourself that way lol
There is nothing wrong with changing yourself if you realize there is a better way.
Of course.

But do it for yourself.

Mind you, you will never be happy until you learn to accept yourself.

No one is perfect.

Best of luck.
It is only a good change in your life is when you do it for yourself. Not to mention it is something that you have to want to effectively change. Staying in good health, confidence, are just a few examples of productive changes.



It is when someone requires it of you to change that it does not work, or will not stick. If you truly want your life to change though, only you can do so.



Take smoking for example, your doctor would ask you to quit and you may even want to. But until you are ready to do so, one can not effectively quit. Sometimes the change that is required may be good for us, but it may have been a safety blanket for you, your whole life. Relationships are the same way to a certain degree, you should not have to change who you are, but some change or at least acceptance must be made for it to work out.
Everybody needs to adjust to his or her circumstances in life. And everybody tries to adjust in a way that makes him or her more happy.



If you like someone and want to be friends with him. Then you definitely need to be nice to him as much as you can, even if being nice isn't something you normally try to be. Because if you don't change like that, then you won't make friends with him.



But whenever you change, then you should change of your own free will and not because someone told you to change. As long as you are the one deciding how to change yourself, then it's okay. But it's not okay, when someone else takes control of your life and tries to change you. Because that kind of change is for someone else's happiness and not for you.
Definately. You are supposed to love who you are, until you do, you will never be happy.
of course it is ok to want to change,it means you are willing to try to be a better person nothing wrong with that
now is a good time to change because it is your own choice to do it. when other people say ';don't change for anybody, they mean ';don't change for other people around you';.
Hi Hun :)

I think it's always okay to change yourself, if you're doing it for you and only you. Obviously if you're in a relationship it's always important to take how your behaviour is effecting the other person into consideration, and if you're doing something that you know is making them unhappy (i.e drinking excessively, just as an example!) or something similar, then those sort of adjustments can be made because they're healthy, and will improve you're well being. But it sounds like you want to change for yourself, so it's okay to change yourself if you think the changes will improve areas of your life (like confidence etc.)



But instead of changing everything about yourself, why not make a list of all your best qualities and focus on them, instead of thinking about the negatives. If you focus on the good things about yourself, you will naturally feel more confident anyway, and you will probably find that you don't have to re-invent yourself, because all the qualities you want to have are already there, they're just hidden under the surface because you're concentrating on the negatives :)



Also try and remember that everyone goes through phases where they feel unconfident or want to change who they are, so you're not alone :)



Hope i've helped hun,



Sunshinegirl. xx
Of course darlin!



The important thing is to change NOT for anybody else BUT for yourself! :-)



Change comes from WITHIN not from the outside so work on you and your inner self and surround yourself with as many supportive and understanding people as possible and it will be fine ... We ALL change throughout our whole entire lives .. Its called PROGRESS