How do you change yourself and become a less boring person to talk to?

I've always been a loner since I was a kid. I was never really a fun person to hang out with or talk to. Even at my current high school as a 10th grader, I still havent found my group. I'm still a loner. A boring loner. but I wanna change that. I'm tired of being a loner. atleast I'm tired of being boring. What can I do to change myself to become a better person?How do you change yourself and become a less boring person to talk to?
It has been said that if you talk about the other person's interests, then you seem more interesting to the other person...or if you sound like you are actively listening (rather than just distractedly 'hearing')......but this takes a lot of creativity. It is hard to come up with the right phrases on the spot, but people like people who seem caring and kind. You might benefit from a social skills group. Or learn new skills and hobbies and link up with people who share those interests. It is easier to get a friendship going with some underlying commonality, rather than just out of the blue.How do you change yourself and become a less boring person to talk to?
There's nothin wrong with being laid back.
I would read some books on how to make friends with other people. Maybe therapy can help you too, it won't hurt.
I have to ask, why do you think you are boring? Are you a book worm sort of loner or a more abstract loner. Do you think your interests are just too esoteric, or more just too nerdy for general folks? I bet you're not boring, yknow. Nobody on earth is so boring that they don't have any friends because of it.

But if you think it's just the stuff you're into, my advice is to set aside a day and watch as many movies you've never seen, but have heard are 'classics' as possible, then listen to as many bands youve heard are 'hot' as possible, and then if you haven't already read a few books that are hot topics. Then atleast you can engage in superficial conversation with people about pop culture.
Well, people love to talk about themselves, so if you want someone to think you are really fun to talk to, just ask them tons of questions about themselves and their hobbies, and act really interested.



You can also try taking up a new hobby yourself, like skateboarding, or painting or something. You can take an after school class and you'll have a bunch of new people you'll have something in common with.
Consider joining a group at school that interests you, like Yearbook, or Spanish club, or sports. Think about your interests and seek out others with the same interests. Even though some people are bashful, it doesn't mean that you are stuck being a loner. Perhaps when you start the next semester as an 11th grader, tell your guidance counselor that you'd like to take an activity that would allow you to interact with others in order to develop better people skills. A good counselor should help you achieve your goal.
Well, a couple of things worked for me in high school many years ago.



There are different groups: the jocks and cheerleader crowd, the preppies, the stoners, etc. Apparently none of those appeal to you all that much.



But there are other groups you probably haven't explored. Two that I liked the most were stagecrafters/theatre, and band. In both of these groups you actively do something...build and help design a set, move furniture props around...bang on the cymbals at the right point...you don't have to take up the violin to join the band. Band folk travel to places to play music together, and in both cases you have something to talk about with other people doing the same thing as you.



Good luck!

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